I dont want to fall out of love...Is there any way of stopping myself....?

Question

I feel like I am falling out of love with my boyfriend. He's great and I dont know why my mind would do such a thing...Is there any way to stop myself and how?

I told him about it and he said that my affections havent changed so he doesnt think i am but i am so scared....I want to love him forever...How does it feel to fall out of love?

Answer 1

Hey ya,

I totally know what you are going through as I'm going through this right now. I've been with mine for 3 years now, and we've had a couple of break ups, but been back together for a year and a bit now. I went though a time where I feel not as, "in love" or as lovey dovey about him as normal. and it would depress me lots and upset me, because the thought of not being with him and missing all the good times kills me, but then again its not as good as it is and I still enjoyed being with him, but something felt weird. And I kind of feel like that right now too, but we've had so many good times and I know that I would miss him lots if I left him. Does this sound like you? a tunnel of confusion? talking by experience, sometimes you just need something to make you realise why you fell in love with them, like a really good day out, or sometimes it is a break from eachother. When I went through this the last time he felt like that too and we broke up, it was him that initiated that and I didn't want that, but in a way it was good cos we realised we missed eachother and went back together. Don't worry it's not the end of the world, it's clear that the love is still there if you don't want to dump him and you say he's great! It's just a phase in love and people go through that, it can't possibly be passionate all the time. If you didn't love him you'd probably be writing a question right now to ask for the kindest way to let him down. If you are worried there is a quiz you can take on about.com, search for it in google it's called "are you falling out of love?". But at the end of the day only you can say, and I am rambling now so I'll stop. Hope I helped ;)

Answer 2

I think you need to find out what true love is and isn't. Read in the Bible, I Corinthians 13 "The Love Chapter" where it says love is patient and kind and seeks not it own way at the expense of others. It isn't boastful or proud and always believes in the positive. It says that of love, faith and hope, the greatest is love. This love is such that it will gladly give its life to save the life of the other. This kind of love lasts all your life and never dies. If your love dies, it isn't love in the first place, but something else like maybe lust. Lust will fail you, but love never will. This kind of love has kept my wife and I married for over 28 years. If you have it, you can too. If you don't, you don't have love.