I have been with my girlfriend for six year and about a year ago asked her to marry me. This summer we will wed. The problem is that she heard a rumor about not having sex six months prior to our wedding night. I was never told this fact and is driving me up the wall. We have been having sex until last month. The question that I am asking is this a rule or something because she seems to be really caught up on it. We dont live together and see each other maybe twice a week because of our jobs. If there is someone with a catholic belief please respond.
2007-01-09 06:01:41 · 16 answers · asked by M R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yeah i dont really know where this came upon cuz of course catholics is you just dont have sex until you get married and that is 0, zero, none but we are now living in a total diff world and i myself have heard that no sex thing for some months.....sorry trust me it will be worth waiting for....
2007-01-09 06:09:27 · answer #1 · answered by starlight♥ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My wife and I decided to do something similar (for a shorter period of time) before we got married. We'd slept together before we got married, and she thought that this self-imposed denial of sex would make our wedding night more "special" somehow.
While it's true that sex is always more satisfying if you haven't had any for a long time, it's not really necessary to wait six whole months in order to get the same effect. A matter of weeks should do it just fine.
Incidentally, in case you're wondering how the wedding night turned out, it was one of the more memorable sexual experiences we've ever had. So I suppose her idea worked.
2007-01-09 14:20:45 · answer #2 · answered by Jeff 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's nutty. You're just not supposed to see each other (or have sex) the night before the wedding until the wedding itself. Tell her to get off it. If you guys have already had sex, continuing to do so won't hurt anything.
If it's a question of religion, she shouldn't have been having sex at all until the wedding night.
2007-01-09 14:10:58 · answer #3 · answered by lookinforanswers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually the rule is not having sex at all until married.Since you're not worried about that then whats the point of waiting 6 months?Since you've already wasted your first time then maybe this will at least give you a little something to look forward to.
2007-01-09 14:06:45 · answer #4 · answered by julie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you buy this crock of BS you are nuts.
This is the, get ready for not having sex because she says so test. If you pass this test and still get married be ready to give up your sex life because you will only get some when she wants, if ever.
I would be very wary of marrying anyone who could give up on sex for six months voluntarily.
2007-01-09 14:21:23 · answer #5 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um not catholic but studied the blief
abstinence shaould have been takin place all along, but if you would like to try from now till the wedding it's possible but personally i don't c the cause.
and as faar as i know it is not a requirement 6mthns prior to the wedding
2007-01-09 14:09:21 · answer #6 · answered by Triple S-sweet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not Catholic, but a Catholic would tell you you shouldn't have had ANY sex prior to marriage. If it were a crime, you've already committed it. Why worry about it now?
2007-01-09 14:06:29 · answer #7 · answered by Gray 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Since the Catholic religion is all made up anyway, and it seems Catholics pick and choose what parts of this made up religion they are going to follow anyway, I say this too is a bunch of B.S.
(I'm not picking on Catholics, all theologies are man-made fictions.)
p.s. Flagger has an excellent point!
2007-01-09 14:29:50 · answer #8 · answered by JRSK007 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This must have been something someone just said. If you are sexually active Year before marriage - I would say continue (BUT not the night before the wedding)
2007-01-09 14:46:00 · answer #9 · answered by Confussedhere 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her to give you the source of the rumor!
Catholics hold with abstinence before marriage, period!
2007-01-09 14:15:31 · answer #10 · answered by AnnieD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋