Not quite everything but most things....eg being 24 and not having a boyfriend (due to having been with the wrong one for 4 years and then needing two years to recover from the break up and now at this age finding it harder to find a good man because the good ones are in commited relationships and the single ones are single because they have something wrong with them, being shy and not happy with my social and family life, not being where I want to with my career or my relationships with my work collegues.
Do you see a shrink or cast a spell for good luck or just think positive and believe that everything will change or do you do a combination of things?
2007-01-09 05:58:21 · 15 answers · asked by Char 1 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Have faith in yourself. Self pity will only make you despair more. Be your own best friend. Don't let anyone get you down. NOt all good men are taken, but you don't find those in bars and clubs. too risky, besides I feel that a relationship that starts in a bar will end in a bar, not a good thing. If you are bubbly and positive, put a smile on your face, even when things get rough, sooner than later, some white knight will be holding your hand. By the way 24 is so young, you have a whole life ahead of you, make the best of it.
2007-01-09 06:07:50 · answer #1 · answered by P.A.M. 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's all mental. Just think positive. Strees can have a hard toll on your life. Everything in life has a solution except death. Even then just accept it gracefully. Dont get all upset and become reclusive, this will upset you even more. Go out have fun take up some activities, make new friends. Take a vacation, make time for you. The best thing is just to think positve. Once you start moving and doing things your mind will follow, "hey every thing is ok."
And yes, if it will help to talk to someone get a "shrink." Or a good friend always help too. Good luck ehh i dont really get into that i find it more effective when I just present my self in positve way. I try to always see the good in everything even when there really is none. *Just be happy. *Dont sweat the small stuff and live your life to the fullest.
2007-01-09 06:30:25 · answer #2 · answered by enigma_gatsby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The pain you feel is there for a reason. When your focused on whats wrong, step back. Your life is about more than finding a good man, or perfect career, or any perfect combination. Find a path and walk it. What happens and who we are is only relevant at one point in time. Your perception of yourself is all that should really matter to you. Trust me, there is at least one 24 year old guy out there saying the same thing. Wink wink.
2007-01-09 06:44:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wel, lets see, where to start. 2006 was the worst year of my life; I went into rehab,lost my house of 17 years, had an affair,smacked up my car,lost friends, and alienated my family.
I went to counseling for a while,took the drugs they prescribed for me for a while,and now everything is still awful.
I am twice your age, and I have a stepdaughter your age who is in t he same boat. She realized that she is not going to meet anyone worthwhile in the bars and party scenes. You have to broaden your horizons and go new places and try new things. Believe me and I know it from experience,nothing good happens to you unless you make it happen. Its very very easy for bad things to happen, but to make it worth having,thats a different story.
I wish it was a s easy as a tarot reading, or a cast spell, or even positive thinking, but it is not. Its a hard world out there and reality sucks.
But you are young, and you sound like you have your head on straight, so I think you will be okay.
2007-01-09 06:07:57 · answer #4 · answered by desertskieswoman 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well when you are happier you are more attractive so stay happy. focus on the positive things. if you join more activities in the community then you can get your mind of bad stuff and meet new people. your life isn't crappy. you are just feeling lonely probably but when the time is right the right guy wil come along. life is filled with mistakes. dont regret them because good things come from the bad. and remember a happy person is so much more sexy
2007-01-09 06:13:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can dwell on your unfortunate past,and that cancer will eat you up and no one will want to be anywhere near you, or you can choose to be thankful for the good things that you have. I'm betting that if you look, even your break up with the wrong man is a good thing. Before you can expect anyone Else to love you, you have to love yourself! Believe that you have just as much right to walk on this planet as anyone else does, no one is "better" and no one is "worse". Concentrate on and be proud of your accomplishments. For the time being, stop looking for someone to be miserable with, learn to love yourself, then watch what happens.
2007-01-09 14:04:12 · answer #6 · answered by al b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cast a spell? No.
I tend to think on things until I'm just so unhappy that I sound just like you! Well, I used to do that. Do you have anyone that you can talk to? I found a great friend to talk to, that really helps. Also, ask God for help- it may sound stupid to those who don't believe, but it really does help. It takes some of the pressure off of you- because you're giving it up to Him.
I hope this helps.
2007-01-09 06:09:36 · answer #7 · answered by biology_freak 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why not become involved in some "mystical practices" i.e. meditation, energy work such as yoga, chi kung, etc., and regular exercise. a result will be that you will raise your "frequency level". this will automatically attract success to you. it always works. btw what you may view as misfortune might well turn out to be for your benefit. as, for example, when you "find" the really right guy. and, at 24 you have a very long way to go yet. what's occuring now is merely the beginning of the saga ;-)
2007-01-09 06:12:01 · answer #8 · answered by drakke1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will get through this in time. You have been lucky to realise that things are bad, because now you can change them for the better. We make our own destiny and control our own fate. Go on, now is the time to change things and make things happen for the better.
2007-01-09 06:21:25 · answer #9 · answered by anon4nw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-28 13:02:55 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋