It gets ugly alot at our house
I'm nearly ill over it.
Anyone else who's had this problem, or overcome it in themselves please help.
2007-01-09 05:50:26 · 23 answers · asked by muckinfuppet 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Looks as if her times up. Do not allow yourself to get ill over someone elses behaviour. She needs help. Ditch her while you are still sane.
2007-01-09 05:54:15 · answer #1 · answered by S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may well be insecure and or have self esteem / confidence issues.
Look at it from her perspective.
If she has acceptable reasons to be jealous then you must address those issues.
Sure you are not but If you are ogling other women or similar etc then you must stop. If there is something in particular she is jealous about reassure her.
Address her concerns. Buy her a bunch of flowers and give her at least half an hour of special attention a day. Make her feel special and wanted.
If there is no reason for her to be jealous. then you must explain to her why she shouldnt be jealous. Sit her down and explain what she means to you.
Explain how her jealousy is affecting you.
If she is just obsessive / nasty or there is something else wrong, you must either have relationship counselling (eg relate) or end the relationship. If there is domestic violence you must end the relationship.
Good luck.
2007-01-09 14:32:40 · answer #2 · answered by uk.housewife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you both need to find out what true love is and isn't. I suggest that you sit down together and read in the Bible, I Corinthians 13 "The Love Chapter" where it says love is patient, kind, not envious, boastful or proud, and seeks not it own way at the expense of others. It bears all things, trusts and believes in the positive. This love is such that it will gladly give its life to save the life of the other. It says that of faith, hope and love, love is the greatest. If you have this kind of love, your relationship will go far and last your life times. This love is what has kept my wife and I married for over 28 years and we have trusted each other in everything, even though there were times when we could have given the other reason not to trust. If she cannot get over this, she isn't someone with whom you should have a relationship.
2007-01-09 14:04:04 · answer #3 · answered by Captain Cupcake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy is not a good trait to possess at all. You may think it's only human, but let me ring my bell briefly, I have never been jealous of another girl in my life. Honestly. If these are the colors your girlfriend is showing while you are dating, then consider what might happen if you married this girl. She is very insecure, and I wouldn't be surprised she is also very possessive.
I would break it off. You may think at the moment that you don't want to hurt her, you love her, care about her, but you also need to think about yourself. Remember, you can't always rule with your heart, you have to use your head as well. Even though you love her with your heart, I do not doubt that your conscience tells you to run far away. Listen to your head this time. The people you date are stepping stones to who you marry.
Envy is the rottness of bones! So be SMART!
2007-01-09 14:04:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well thats not good at all. but if you rly love her and want to make it work sit and talk with her and tell her how u feel about it. i mean does she have any reason to feel that way? just tell her how would she like it if you did that to her and if it doesnt change give her a taste of her own medicine by acting that way to her and show her how it feels. maybe then she will reliaze what an *** she is making out of herself. As a women myself yes we do get jealous when our men our around other females. but if you include her in like if a women comes up to you make her presences known. Introduce her, brag about her. make it known that it is only her you want. but if it doesnt change after that then you are just going to have to move on. You can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink
:)
2007-01-09 14:07:20 · answer #5 · answered by khester05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I get jealous of my fella sometimes and for really stupid reasons, and its mostly cos i feel insecure about things or if im not happy. If i were you i'd talk to ur girlfriend and let her no that her jealousy is driving you mad. dont forget if its making you ill then its not a healthy relationship and you shouldnt have to worry all the time whether your making her jealous or not.
2007-01-09 13:59:15 · answer #6 · answered by loopylass_2007 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is she jealous? Do you do your part to make her feel good about herself? She probably has low self-esteem and,as a result, tends to get jealous. Keep reminding her of how much you love HER! and noone else. Pay compliments and make her feel as though she's the only one in the whole world for you.
2007-01-09 13:55:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a relationship like this too, and it was me that was the jealous one. It was SO unhealthy. We split up in the end, there was nothing he could do about it, and I absolutley hated myself for being like that and I knew that I was destroying us but I just couldn't help myself.
I think sometimes two people just are not meant to be together, they bring out the bad in each other, with out ever meaning to.Hope it works out for you, I had never been like it before, and haven't since, it was just weird.........
2007-01-09 13:55:57 · answer #8 · answered by CHARISMA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although you are not in the US, you can check out The National Domestic Violence Hotline's website, which is at http://www.ndvh.org/ for information. Someone there may be able to help you find an organization in your area.
2007-01-09 14:15:56 · answer #9 · answered by Night Owl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The relationship is nothing without trust. It's time to move on to the next chapter.
2007-01-09 13:55:23 · answer #10 · answered by Lady Tee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋