How often do women think about having affairs?

Question

Serious question here. I am very happily married...sometimes frustrated sexually, but I love my wife very much. There is no doubt in my mind that I will die married to her. We are fifteen years and counting. What I am curious about is just flirting and women's attitudes. Guys think about sex all the time....that doesn't mean they actually cheat, but all the guys I know think about and talk about the possibility. What about women? I know there is a broad spectrum, but I am just curious here. What is their attitude? Is the average woman, happily married, ever even tempted?

Answer 1

women when they cheat its usually not for the sex. its to find closness and passion maybe a little excitment possibly just to get attention and to make her feel attractive and like shes still got it. as long as your relationship is complete meaning you take time out for each other and listen to each other talk and kiss kissing is a very impotant part in keeping a relationship well for me any way to keep it exciting and passionate. me my bf of 6 yrs dont take time to listen to me when i talk he doesnt complement me he is always worried more about his friends and drinking. the last time he bought me flowers was last valentines day, i just feel like im alone all the time even when he is right by my side. we have kids which takes alot of time and attention but i think he should still try to show me im important to him. and that i still look good to him. and to be honest yes i think about cheating what it would be like to feel wanted again. when me and my bf are sexually active which isnt often its dull he dont try to kiss on me and stuff like before and i miss that. well this is just me talking but i hope ive helped

Answer 2

Temptation is always there, with women its more mental then sexual, although no doubt if we are with our girl friends and see a hot guy we do comment "omg did u see the butt on him" ect.. but the temptation is actually more so there when ur marriage is at a low point.. which all marriages go through that, days ur not getting along, or she feels depressed, neglected, lonely etc. thats when u worry doesnt mean that she will cheat, but usually thats when a woman is the most volnerable to cheat, women dont usually look for other men, its usually timing.. she's in a slump, and a man swoops in saying all the right things, making her feel giddy and on cloud nine again.. and if she plays into those feelings, then that could lead into trouble.. but its not like a "see a guy and we are like , oh we gotta get us some of that" kinda thing.. usually if a woman has an affair its because someone came in at the right opportunity and is building her up emotionally first, before hopping into bed with them. But if a woman is a real woman, loves her family , loves her husband even on the bad days and respects and owns up to her vows, then theres nothing another man could do or say to pull her away from her husband, not even during the low periods..

Answer 3

Well,
i am not married and have never been but in my relationships I have thought about cheating and have actually done it. My firends and I never really speak about our suggest to one another the possibility of cheating unless we have already done so, then we usually talk about the effects of it. I must say though I am now in my most committed relationship ever and although I think about sexual things with other men, I don't have a individual or ideal man that I have intentions or knowledge of to act on it. I do sense though that I am a person who is a cheater but this is my first relationship I have been fully committed, the worse thing about it is is that I have not much if any at all as a sex drive. However, I have matured now that I feel as though I shouldn't have to hide my actions because this is my life therefore I would let him (my fiance) go first if I wanted to cheat because outside of the sexual aspect I love him too much to crush him by betraying his trust I would have to honest with him! Good luck I don't think I will do the relationship thing again if this doesnt' work out for whatever reason I love my freedom too much.

Answer 4

Good luck getting an honest answer on this question, bud. Chances are, all your answers will be women telling you how wrong it is and how good and perfect they are. Unfortunately, I had a rough start with my marriage and I went astray for a while. I know you want answers from women, but I just wanted to say hell yes they think about it. Not all of them of course, but plenty. I've been with 6 early 30's married women - none of which were UNhappily married, just curious and uhh, let's just say unsatisfied at home. Well that's my two cents anyways. Very few will admit to the thought, but I bet they do a lot more than we think. P.S. Still happily married to this day.

Answer 5

i'm married......been with my husband 7 yrs. out of those 7, 2 1/2 have been married. i will agree with some of these ladies...if u are happily married to the "love of your life" you probably wouldn't think about cheating. i do think that women, sometimes, when after an unhappy moment with their spouses, do think about, or have thought about cheating. i can say dat i have thought about it, but never acted on it. i wouldn't do what i would hate to have done to me. also dat would bring many problems to the relationship...miss-trust, guilt, and "bad habits".....u know......but to answer the question....yes....some women do think about cheating.....just like some guys do and some don't.....i think is almost the same for both sexes.....now'a days, there's not much of a difference in actions from a man or a woman....we are equal..!! (what u can do....i can do too!!) :)

Answer 6

I'd be the first to admit that during the unhappy times in my marriage I've wondered what it would be like to be with someone else but I've never acted on it. I think of the consequences that it would bring...

Cheaters always get discovered. Whether it's day, weeks, months or years it always come out. The emotional devastation is just not worth the physical attraction unless the person commiting the adultery was so unhappy in her marriage that she'd plan to leave anyways. Even then, no break-up is ever clean.

Answer 7

I have been married for 2 1/2 years and it has been a rough and rocky road for the both of us. But we are now trying to rebuild our relationship and start 2007 on the right track. To answer your question, I have NEVER thought of cheating on my husband for any reason. I love him too much to even go there. He means the world to me and besides I couldn't live with myself if I made a decision like that. I don't care what's going on. I don't care how mad you get, you do not cheat on your spouse.

Answer 8

I don't think there's any great distinction between men & women considering, or having affairs. If the sexual relationship isn't satisfactory, it's understandble why they would. The interesting thing about this, is that VERY often, it improves the marriage, since needs aren't being denied, & no demands made. There is a difference between love & sex. In my experience, many women who aren't sexually inclined, feel relieved if their husbands find it elsewhere, as long as they practice safe sex & continue to "love" the wife. It happens more than you know!

Edit: Let me qualify--the consequences of an affair CAN be very destructive; I was basically referring to people who can accept the reality that something isn't being provided that's needed.

Answer 9

Women do think & act on cheating. I consider myself to be a loving & dedicated wife, I've been married for 6.5 years & with my husband for 10 years. At once we were perfectly happy, but now things are ruff between us. It's been about 2 years since I've felt that bliss feeling with him, these past few months have been the ruffest on me. As an earlier post mention that she thought of venturing out but haven't. Well I've thought about it & done it for those exact reasons she mentioned. At this point I feel alone in my relationship, it's like we're going in circles, I want to end it but my husband wants to keep trying. Did I get satisfaction out of cheating? No. But I did get that since of excitement and the feel of somebody actually wanting me again. Do I feel bad about it? A little. It's kind of crazy what I'm feeling now because I now my husband does love me, I just wanted to verify that many things would make a woman cheat. Men who are reading this "PAY ATTENTION TO WHAT YOU'RE WIVES ARES SAYING TO YOU", even if it seems small to you, it's major to her.

Answer 10

I am happily married and cheating has not once crossed my mind. Not as a curiosity, not as an option, not as anything more than a disgusting act of betrayal. When I think about sex, it's with my husband.