My wife went on to cheat with a sexual relationship with her big boss even after I warned her the first time to stop and take care of our 20-month-old child. She promised that she would stop at the first time, but it didn't. I caught them cheat on me this second time, what should I do? Should I just divorce her and let her enjoy her life and let my baby and I suffer?
2007-01-09 05:22:02 · 21 answers · asked by Dark Cloud 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Dark Cloud, You and the baby are already suffering. Why would you stay in a relationship like that. I'm sure you have your reasons i.e. you love her, perhaps she's the bread winner or any other reasons but I can assure you none of them are worth the suffering you are going through now. Before you split get as much documentation on the affair as you can if you want custody of the baby. Men have to jump through hoops in the court system to gain custody of there children so any solid proof of her infidelity, and bad parenting skills will be in your best interest. Man if she'd done it once and was trying to repair your relationship I'd say stick it out but you now know she really could care less about you, your feelings, and the well being of your child. I know its hard but sometimes its better to call it quits and move on. You have a child to think about and that should be your # 1 priority. You'll survive and be a better man after its all over.
good luck
doc
2007-01-09 05:33:34 · answer #1 · answered by Doc 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, get a divorce. What I don't understand is why your little angel has to suffer? Your leaving your cheating wife and an unhappy relationship NOT your child. You have every right to be happy and be with someone that is faithful and willing to give ALL of themselves to you not just a little and still have your child as well. You want your child to see a healthy, loving marriage. Good luck to you and stay strong.
2007-01-09 13:28:47 · answer #2 · answered by Susan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go out and get a lawyer. Continue to take care of your 20 month old child and let your cheating wife go. It's time for a divorce and to let her go. Get full custody of your children and allow some type of visitation for her. Do not allow her to cheat on you for a third time. She has no respect for you by cheating on you no matter how much or how many times she says she loves you and it won't happen again. She has continued to lie to you about it and she would continue to do it if she hadn't gotten caught. So let her go. Go out and file for divorce and continue to raise your 20 month old child. Good Luck.
2007-01-09 13:29:57 · answer #3 · answered by The Plague 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cheat on you once, shame on her
Cheat on you twice, shame on you!
You should leave and divorce her, share custody of the baby, or try for full custody. You may suffer if you divorce her, but aren't you suffering now? God Bless!
2007-01-09 13:27:06 · answer #4 · answered by NAN G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very difficult to advice you on this issue,condoning this act in the first instant was marvellous thus this second time is unthinkable.no matter what, each time you remember, you feel bad.Reluctantly though i think you should leave her.but the word of God concerning this issue is that if you choose to divorce her you stay without remarying while she is still alife. forgiving her could be Godly. so take your decision and follow your heart may God help you and take care of yourself and your child.
2007-01-09 14:07:50 · answer #5 · answered by oluwatobi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to let her go cause you don't want to catch any diseases. You and your baby might suffer for a while now but it will be nothing compared to the suffering that you would be setting yourself up for in future if you do not leave now.
2007-01-09 13:26:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Divorce her, try like hell to get custody of the baby on the basis of the fact that she is an unfit mother (you'll have to be able to prove that) and then YOU enjoy YOUR life. Never mind her.
2007-01-09 13:28:01 · answer #7 · answered by cruztacean1964 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The "suffering" will actually be worse, in my opinion, if you stay with a known cheater.
No one should get more than a second chance on this.
You need to seriously consider whether you have the emotional, financial and organizational wherewithal to make her your ex-wife.
2007-01-09 13:27:12 · answer #8 · answered by Rvn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Grow some b@lls man! Once a cheater always a cheater. Divorce her and take her for all you can, oh and let her co-workers and spouse know if he is married.
2007-01-09 13:34:42 · answer #9 · answered by mvas800 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Once can be forgiven.
Twice is a deal breaker.
Leave, take your child and get a divorce. Let her have her boss if she is so enamored with him.
2007-01-09 13:28:53 · answer #10 · answered by Poppet 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋