I am SO sensitive it hurts sometimes.Do you also have that problem?

Question

If so,how do you overcome it?
I've been like this my whole life;I'm 41,so it's difficult to change.

I mean emotionally,hence the category...

Answer 1

Okay, so your sensitive. If it is a problem for you chances are it is a problem for your friends and loved ones also. You're 41, you're still VERY young and very capable of change. Change is difficult no matter how old you are....(I'm 42). Being sensitive is not a bad thing. In fact it is a trait that is desirable and needed in people. But there is a difference in being sensitive to your and others needs and being OVERLY sensitive and making yourself and others miserable.

I use to be overly sensitive and my whole family had to walk around on egg shells for fear of hurting my feelings. AND I spent way to many nights crying myself to sleep over petty, silly things that in the end really did not matter.

The solution? For me it was counseling. I found I had a very poor self-esteem. I learned I didn't need others approval. I needed mine. When I found it I was much more fun to be around...still am!!!!! I am still understanding and tender and have a tremendous heart....I just don't wear it on my sleeve. That doesn't mean that I don't still get my feelings hurt every once in awhile. I am still human. But I am happy and I don't hurt like I use too.

Look in your heart and your head and see if maybe you need help. The help you get may help not just you. Good luck sweetie.

Answer 2

Overcoming emotional sensitivity was definitely a skill I had to learn. The thing that most helped me change my situation was the book "Seven Habits of Highly Effective People" by Dr. Stephen Covey. It has nothing to do with your age. I read it for the first time 12 years ago and re-read it often. It always smacks me in the face.

It taught me that the level of sensitivity I feel is a choice and it comes from within. It gave me a great guide to figuring out what my goals and priorities are, rather than being so concerned with what other people think, say, or do.

I realized that I can choose how I feel, and that it is both my right and responsibility to take action on my own behalf. The book provides very powerful information that continually helps me be a stronger, more successful and productive human being.

Take care and best of luck!

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Answer 3

I am a 41-year-old woman and I, too, am extremely sensitive. I haven't found a way yet to deal with it. I just insist that the people I know and love take that into consideration when dealing with me. I ask them to be very careful about what they say to me - or don;t say, because I sometimes tend to read into what they say and I spend so much time thinking and worrying about what they might have meant. Yesterday I had a conversation with my ex-husband. He called me a stupid ***** and it destoyed me for the rest of the day - even though I have a lovely and caring man at home. I, too, have been like this all of my life.

Answer 4

At 41, you may be stuck with it. Although I have found myself really hardening over the years (I'm 51), so maybe you have a chance.
Asses what you are sensitive over and maybe instead of getting hurt, get angry. Try the always popular ignoring what was said.
I find really sensitive people read way too much into what was said, relax and don't take everything so seriously....Good luck

Answer 5

Sensitive?
Sensitivity can be painful. Hypericum Perforatum helps, when taken often and regularely.

You may want to place 4 pills (on milk sugar base) in a dropper bottle with 1 ounce of purified water, shake well. Take one drop under your tongue every few minutes, then less and less often as sensitivity balances, but at least and for a long time five times a day. You may add apple cider vinegar and brown sugar to taste.

If we are acidic, the pain goes up, until the acidity is so high that we get numbed by it. I feel that we all should be alkaline, with a pH of 7.5 for saliva and urine at all times. Then the body can heal and remain painfree at a regular basis. pH paper is available in health food stores or on the Internet for about $12. A pH of 7 is neutral (not good) a pH under 7 is acidic (bad).

You may also want to work with your chakras, energy fields, which may be regarded as lbeing arge acupunture points.

You may want to look up in books where they are lokated, then imagine that you close them one by one to be all small and of the same size. One of these chakras may be far too large, which can be hurtful physically or emotionally. If they open again, imagine to close them.

Later, find out what the best size of your chakras is for you at that time, by feeling best.

Also Color*MedicineTM may help, removing toxins which may weaken your system and irritate your nerves. Color*MedicineTM may also build your nerves and clear you energy fields.

The good part of being sensitive is that you have easy access to your intuition. You may want to meditate and use knowledge coming to you. You may be able to get info to help yourself and others. Yet, first, you may want to become painfree.

Wishing you a happy life.
Cordially, India.Magica

Answer 6

For a man, I think I am more sensitive than others and get very upset when the one I love is upset. I don't know how I can overcome it and don't know if I want to. It's what makes me, me!!!

Answer 7

It's a bit weird in my case because I'm very moody. I can be extremely sensitive right now, but very insensitive in 10 minutes and vice versa. I feel just like you. In those moments of extreme sensitivity, I feel like it is so strong that it hurts.

But sensitivity is not necessarily a bad thing, not even when it is very strong like in your case. Sensitivity actually refers to being able to relate to your surroundings and to your experiences. If you are too sensitive, it means that you are very easily influenced. You give a part of yourself to your surroundings and that's how you relate to them. And by relating to them you are basically becoming aware of them and you are directly connected to them. Thats' why you may feel that it hurts sometimes. Being connected to everything is like having to bare it all. And it hurts being aware of everything. But it's not a negative feature. It just means that you are more aware of the world and all its aspects than most people. You don't have to change yourself, that's what makes you special.

Answer 8

Yes, I am too. Maybe it's because we honor the truth of what those words "really" meant. Maybe, we reflect back to them the honest, raw truth of how powerful words can be.
I used to be ashamed of this. But, now, I'm proud because the people who do notice, realize the true meanness in their words, and change.

Answer 9

There's a book out called the highly sensitive person, it might give you some insight into your situation.
I used to consider myself HYPER sensitive, but then just realized I'm just a bit smart and a bit psychic.
Don't Sweat the Small Stuff!
Good Luck.

Answer 10

i am 43 years old and i was so sensetive ,so it hurted me too much but now it dosent because i learn to accept people with whole weaknesses ,and also accept i have some weakness too

Answer 11

yes i have that problem. only on certain body parts. an now that i think of it, the sensitivity never really turns to pain.