we where married for 12yrs and a month and a half a go i found out he was cheating on me. i forced him to move out when he did not want to. i pushed and pushed till he did. now hes been gone for 2 weeks and i am going through some bad depression. i asked him to move back but hes not sure if he should. i have a feeling that he still seeing her even though he tells me he loves me and is not seeing her. but does not come over or answer my questions. i cant live with out him im going crazy.
2007-01-09 05:09:31 · 22 answers · asked by charo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
getting over him may take time since you have been married to him for so long but you will get over him, but you don't need him back in your life, if he cheated once he will do it again if you let him back into your life after kicking him out you will only be enabling his behavior and showing him that what he did is ok because you will always take him back no matter what, just take things one step at a time and day by day and eventually you will begin to learn how to live without him....
2007-01-09 06:13:12 · answer #1 · answered by MidnightSkies 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've made a huge mistake. You put your husband out and gave him time to think. You also gave the other woman (if there still is one) opportunity. You've got about as much time as it takes to snap your fingers to get him back. You must assure him that you forgive him. This is what he's worried about: whether or not he's going to have to leave again.
I'm not blaming you for what he did, but if you want him back, you need to meet privately with your husband, as soon as possible. If he won't come to you, go to him. DO NOT ask him if he's seeing the other woman. DO NOT ask him if he still loves you. DO NOT ask him if he wants to come back. TELL HIM that you love him and that you want him to come home. Don't whine like a baby, but intimately talk to your man. TELL HIM that you forgive him and that you don't want to talk about the past anymore. HOLD HIM in your arms and love him. If he agrees to come home (which he probably will), promise yourself to be a loving wife to your husband. You guys have twelve years together and you deserve another chance at happiness. Best wishes!
2007-01-09 14:13:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Love, don't worry about it if he's made up his mind to be with someone else let him go so you dedicated your time to him and he doesn't appreciate it move on people always get caught up worrying about how much they loved someone their are thousands of guy's out there and hundreds looking in your direction everyday stop looking for what you had or have and accept someone better that's all your gonna get because you won't make the same mistakes that got you feeling the way you do now! 30's the new 20 have fun!
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2007-01-09 13:40:59 · answer #3 · answered by jerzyson29 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to wake up and view the real life.
This man was married to you for 12 years and he cheated on you,
You need to figure out what was going wrong in your relationship. Do not let him move back in. It will only cause more and more problems.
You're only feeling this way because you're not used to being without your husband and its normal for couples who break up, but you need to be strong.
Hes the one who did wrong, not you.
You could even go as far as to meet this woman and find out who she is, how long this has been going on for, and why.
2007-01-09 13:14:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This a silly question that deserves a sill answer. Here goes: Wait until he gets together with the other woman. And then cheat with him on the other woman. She will then put him out and he will move back in with you. There it is.
2007-01-09 13:15:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes u can live without him if he cheated on u why in the world would u want him back he is just going to do it again and even if he doesnt u will always think that he is if he comes in late does something that he dont normally do u will be accussing him why but yourself though all that let it go there are more fish in the sea go fishing and catch one
2007-01-09 13:15:34 · answer #6 · answered by twilla l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you asked him to move out just because you were hurt and now you want him back. why didnt you think this from the beginning? now you are depressed and need him around and want to work things out but it's killing you that he doesnt want to come back and that you dont know if he still seeing the other girl. if he says he loves you then ask him to come back and if he doesnt want to tell him you want the divorce and if he really loves you he'll come back to you.
good luck!
2007-01-09 13:24:28 · answer #7 · answered by chikis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on honey, once a cheater, always a cheater. Find some new boy toy to take your mind off him. Look for a younger guy, we're more fun :)
2007-01-09 13:19:32 · answer #8 · answered by Jason D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
delete him!!! hide all pictures, love letters, go on a trip...be strong, he cheated, he'll do it again, and you will get more hurt, and more angry ( at him, and at yoursel).
and be no softie, get all you deserve, 1/2 the house, the savings, the car. 12 years is a long time. don't be a fool and let him keep everything!
2007-01-09 13:20:53 · answer #9 · answered by qk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since he knows how you feel and what you want, I'm afraid you're going to have to wait until he makes up his mind. With you guys having been married twelve years, my gut feeling is hat he'll be back. You have my prayers.
2007-01-09 13:24:15 · answer #10 · answered by Dr. Dave 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋