Im 30 and my wife has been very busy with her career,housework, and child care.I feel so neglected we barely had sex in months. Lest just say im no longer happy with her and want to divorce her but she looks after me when it comes to ironing my clothes and preparing food.This 18 y.o broke up with me because she said im still married and she said she will wait for me until im free again.This 18 y.o loves to spend most of her time with friends and barely stay home. I feel like in the long run she will eventually find a new one and i dont think i can live with that.I dont want to lose her.Right now i dont care if i lose my marriage over her because i love her.PLEASE HELP IM LOSING A LOT OF WEIGHT BECAUSE OF THIS..
2007-01-09 05:03:51 · 26 answers · asked by spyderedge30 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is a very common feeling. You need to think about what it is your wife really takes care of. She works full time, is a full time mom and housewife. She is doing everything she does for you and your child/children. Don't begrudge her that. The 18 year old will not now or ever do the same things. They have no responsibility what so ever. You have responsibilities to your wife and family. Don't spoil that. My advise to you is this: Find someone to take your child/children for a weekend (family member) and you and your wife go away for a couple of days. You see, the two of you lost each other. You need to find what that special thing that brought the two of you together in the first place. It is NEVER lost, but it does get buried in the hustle and bustle of things. Good luck
2007-01-09 05:21:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
In your own explenation you already alluded to the fact that this young girl may not be able to meet your needs as an older man other than in a sexual way. You already know in the long run she will find someone her age to settle down with and start a life with, you have a life, a wife and kids. As wonderfull and sweet as this 18 year old may be you need to seriously cut all contact with her sit down with your wife and work out your issues. Do you have any concept of the damage you have already done and the added damage you would do to your family if you continue to pursue this? I am not trying to be mean or condescending because we all make mistakes but you are acting nothing short of selfish, childish and irresponsible even if you aren't getting sex as much as you would like. You are married and sometimes stuff like this happens but that's what the words, "...for better or for worse....till death do us part." means. Be a man, ditch the 18 year old and talk to your wife and express your needs, get a pair of lockable cast iron underwear and lock your johnson away every day and give your wife the key until you regain your will power. I wish you the best of luck and I hope you marriage is able to withstand all that has happened so far. Good luck
2007-01-09 05:27:18 · answer #2 · answered by J-Dub 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you get off your lazy A$$ and start helping with the housework and the child care. Maybe she is too tired to deal with your own selfish 30 second pleasure. The 18 yr old will leave your selfish a$$. You married for better or worse and it doesn't sound like you are trying to work on your marriage. If you spent the time you are spending with your little 18 yr on your marriage, maybe you wouldn't be in this mess!
2007-01-09 05:12:51 · answer #3 · answered by mvas800 3 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Oh whoe is u! U sound like u would b just as selfish with a 18 yr old as you are with your wife! It would b nice if u would do the chores at home like cook dinner,iron your wifes stuff,do all the laundry and watch the kids ,so your wife could go out and have sex with a guy thts really nice! Keep losing weight maybe u will disappear ...................
2007-01-09 05:26:01 · answer #4 · answered by jessy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What an idiot u are lol.. ok, ur wife is working, taking care of all ur needs except sexually, but takes care of u , takes care of the house, works and takes care of the kids, what a selfish , ungreatful man u are..oops excuse me, Ungreatful little boy trapped in a mans body u are..
Are u seriously that stupid not to see in ur own writting what ur saying? U have a wife that does just about everything for u..except sex.. I WONDER WHY SHES EXHAUSTED FROM DOING EVERYTHING ELSE...at this point ur wife is probably wondering why she needs u since she's doing everything else herself..but nonetheless.. now her into some little girl , lets face it, thats what she is, legally she may be an adult but just last year she was someones little girl shes a teenager, of course she's hanging out with her friends SHES A CHILD!!!!!! children go out and play and have fun..thats what CHILDREN DO!.. ur going to risk ur marriage for a little girl who is going to break up with u , once some young stud comes along , hell ur probably closer to her parents age then to hers lol.. and im sure her parents are going to go nuts when the find out she is involved with a married man with kids.. cause even if u leave ur wife, technically ur still married.. so shes going to dump u , all ur seeing is a young girl with a hot bod and ur thinking with ur head in ur pants instead of the head on ur shoulders, U DONT DESERVE YOUR WIFE SHES TOO DAMN GOOD FOR U I HOPE SHE WISES UP AND DUMPS U AND FINDS SOMEONE THAT WILL APPRECIATE HER.. maybe if she finds someone that has the respect not to cheat on her, someone that loves her, helps her and appreciates her , she'll turn in to a nympho, and have a great sex life lol.. UR AN IDIOT UR POOR KIDS HAVING U AS A MALE ROLE MODEL
2007-01-09 05:19:57 · answer #5 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I guarantee that you will not be happy with the 18year old. You are an adult. Your wife is acting like an adult but you are not. If you want more sex, help her out. She looks after you but do you look after her and the kids? Help her with the chores and the kids and then gently massage her and perhaps sex will happen. If it doesn't happen right away, keep it up. It will pay off. This is a better remedy than giving the mother of your child(ren) 1/2 of everything. Love and marriage has more to do with actions and less to do with emotions.
2007-01-09 05:11:11 · answer #6 · answered by Karen C 1 · 5⤊ 0⤋
OK you should have talked to your wife and told her how you felt instead of cheating on her with an 18 year old GIRL you are 30 years old and you are old enough to be her father that is just not right oh and the 18 year old will end up leaving you because she will get the mentality that you will just trade her in for a younger model which is basically what you did with your wife
2007-01-09 05:16:56 · answer #7 · answered by leespitt 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
And I hope you lose your hair too! How can you be so cruel! Your wife is taking care of you and your child, and she works and she doing everything to make you happy, how can you be so mean to her? The 18 year old will leave you no matter what you do, because she will grow older and realize that you left your wife for her and that you can leave her for a younger one!
2007-01-09 05:16:16 · answer #8 · answered by wantstoknow 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Please don't leave your wife for this 18 yr. old woman. You are being self-centered and thinking only of your desires and forgetting your wife. She is working hard at this marriage and you are a cheat, liar and pleasure seeker.
Adulterers should lose a lot of weight. Their guilt is killing them. And you are guilty. You are in love with this sexually available 18 yr. old immature girl who will tire of you quickly or vice versa.
If you have children, do you know that divorce ruins their lives. Every child of divorce thinks they are partly the blame.
Grow up. You are lucky your wife hasn't dumped you. She would if she knew what I know.
2007-01-09 05:21:08 · answer #9 · answered by Jeancommunicates 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Leave the 18 year old alone. You should try to work things out with your current wife by talking to her about how you feel about the relationship and how you can make things better. Sex is not everything. Go to this web site to understand more about true love.
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2007-01-09 05:26:09 · answer #10 · answered by cool_dude 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋