How to deal with difficult personalities?

Answer 1

I find smiling a lot and pretending not to notice (or give them attention) their difficult personality helps. I think it irritates them more that way! Plus once you smile you feel better anyway. If it's too close of a relationship to ignore them in that sense, I would find another job, company, significant, etc., other to deal with that is more pleasant and ditch the difficult one.

Answer 2

If you are in a situation where you must deal with a difficult personality, then I would focus on what the person is actually saying. Look beyond the bad behavior and even look past the negatives that come out of their mouth.. Often times, you may find that by listening intently with a non-judgemental ear, and showing some understanding like saying things like, "I understand... I would feel upset too...." and so on, goes a long way toward getting them to calm down and begin some respect for you. Sometimes, it takes a while with certain people, but in time, you CAN get through. It is very difficult to do because it requires that you do NOT under any circumstances let the things that they are saying get to you... and to do that you must remember that what they are saying has nothing to do with you - it is only about them and the way that they deal with things. I used to work in banking and it wasn't too long before the most difficult clients would only deal with me even if it meant coming back if I happened to be off that day. This was because I did just exactly what I describe above. And believe me, there were times in the beginning that I literally had certain clients that came into the bank yelling and cussing at me and saying really aweful remarks to me (about me, even!), but in a short period of time, those same clients would come into the bank and only deal with me and never left the bank unhappy or unsatisfied with the outcome of whatever the issue happened to be. I basically would take their side, ignoring the crap, and getting to the true issue, then dealing with it in the best interest of the client - NON-FAIL.
I don't know what situation you happen to be refering to, but this is just a rundown of my own experiences with this. Good luck and have a great day!

Answer 3

There is no remedy. There is no standard way to deal with this situation because the situation is too vague.

Your question is very vague. A lot of people can be difficult to deal with, but they are difficult to deal with in different ways. All of those people have different reasons for their behaviour, so it's hard to say what the best remedy is since every case is very different. It just depends. Unless you give more details, I can't think of proper advice.

Answer 4

dealing with abrasive people daily I've found the best tact is to not play their game. Be matter of fact.
In human interactions difficult people tend to be good at what Eric Berne defined as the parent-adult-child triad of human relations. If you stick to communicating in an Adult fashion even if the other party tends toward one or the other you are not going to take yourself into their realm.

Just the facts.

Answer 5

Many times difficult people are allowed into our lives to help correct a deficiency in our own character. Learn from the encounter in a positive manner. An eye for an eye is not the correct approach. All people have their own shortcomings and accept people for who they are. Look for the strengths in others.

Answer 6

Several ways:
1. Grin and bear it...
2. Be around that person as little as possible
3. Try and find something you like about the person and focus on that and try and the person to focus on that
4. grin and bear it then rant about that person to a 3rd party (make sure they don't know each other, that way you won't get into trouble)

Answer 7

Fight fire with fire. (If someone yells at you, other than a person of authority, yell back.) Upping your adrenaline and flexing testerone always works wonders for me. People respect people who dont back down.

Answer 8

Depends on the person and the situation.