A good, close firend of mine and myself are going through marital problems...we're both splitting up with our spouses!
We get along great, and I think we may have a future together (in the FAR future)
But right now, I think she worries about me too much and not about herself.
Should I tell her to stop worrying about me, or will she think that I am brushing her off? I really, really care for her and I want her to be happy.
2007-01-09 04:53:03 · 14 answers · asked by Paul L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Honesty is always the best way to go. You are both in need of the friendship and connection that you share right now. Don't set limitations on that friendship! Some people are givers and some are takers. Be happy that she cares so much about you. But, also voice your feelings to her that you are worried about her stressing over you. Try to explain to her that it feels good to be able to share your feelings about what you are going through but that you do not want her to worry about you all the time. She will appreciate your kindness! Good Luck.
2007-01-09 05:03:11 · answer #1 · answered by Lt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you haven't mentioned why you are leaving your own relationships. It could be key to your future relationships. If she is leaving a bad marriage, and you are the cause of a bad marriage--it won't work with the two of you, as she may be an idealist. Women tend to be more idealistic about marriage and relationships. Are you really good for her? Sounds like you are both rebounding anyways--you are each others shoulder to cry on. Truthfully, you haven't seen each other's bad sides yet. There may not be much to make this relationship work unless you have seen all sides. Good luck.
2007-01-09 06:38:00 · answer #2 · answered by crazyloonynice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need not brush her up if truely you care for her and want her to be happy. it is better to define any relationship from its inception but be that as it may. you can discuss whatever you have in mind with her in a suble way.she will perhaps appraise the feelings she has for you now and adjust herself if need be.Though i have the feelings you are getting more than what you can offer and it makes you uncomfortable.After your discusion with her you might be shocked that she means no harm and she is just being herself and whatever your decision she continues to be herself.But watch your back cause you dont value what you have till you loose them.
2007-01-09 05:17:26 · answer #3 · answered by oluwatobi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are gullible. Do you think that this woman is thinking about anybody other than herself? She's just playing the role so she won't feel like a complete ho for having a relationship with you outside of her marriage. Her husband will be tappin that a s s tonight while you're checking for a best answer to this stupind question you asked. Please believe that. (that was mean...oh well, fcuk it)
2007-01-09 04:59:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
She worries about you because she LIKES YOU. She's not thinking about her marriage because in her mind her marriage is OVER....she HAS YOU! she's gone and left her man because your her security your the shove she needed to walk away from her man.
Now let me ask you this are you sure your not splitting up from your your spouse for the same reason?
2007-01-09 05:02:03 · answer #5 · answered by SecretFriend 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should just come up and tell her "Hey, don't worry about me." If you do, she will think your brushing her off. When your talking to her, and she expresses concern, then in a normal tone of voice, that you'll be fine. When someone says "Don't worry about me." I think they were telling me to go away.
2007-01-09 05:02:36 · answer #6 · answered by christinedaae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You tell her the truth basically like u just told us, that u see a future together, but right now u both need time to get things settled in your current situations..
2007-01-09 04:58:33 · answer #7 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just be honest. Tell her you don't think you will be ready to date or be close to a woman for a long time. Tell her you need space. Hurting her feelings a little bit is better than sparing them and leading her on. Goodluck.
2007-01-09 04:57:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
she'll think you're brushing her off. You could tell her that you are worried about her and you think she should spend a little more time focusing on her problems but that you are flattered by her care of you.
2007-01-09 04:57:37 · answer #9 · answered by Phaylynn 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Worrying about you is sort of keeping herself distant from the fact she is hurting also. Its self comforting for her. Its up to yoy, if you think well of her, and its not annoying, then do nothing.
2007-01-09 05:01:33 · answer #10 · answered by Philip76LostLove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋