is kurdish,and his family ask im 2 go back there so he can helped them because they'r getting old,he loves me 2,hes in pain as well,but he doesnt have a choice.he deceide 2 finish with me now,he say's its esyer.but i wont 2 be with him untill the last min.hes been ignoring me like im nothing and thts making me sick
2007-01-09 04:46:53 · 19 answers · asked by tuguinha79 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
there is something suspicious about him ignoring you, when you both have so little time left to spend together. if he feels the same way that you do, i would expect him to want to spend as much time as possible with you now, and then to do everything in his power to take you with him. hmmmm. not sure what to suggest really. i think you may have to start the proccess of trying to accept that this relationship is over, and keep your friends and family close, you will be needing their support over the coming weeks. yes, it feels terribly painfull right now, but in time (and after lots of healing crying!) you will recover, and go on with your life. i wish u loads of luck x
2007-01-09 05:07:50 · answer #1 · answered by splee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry but he sounds like he is making excuses. It is so hard but you have to get on with your life. At first put on an act, pretend you don't care, do all the things you would normaly do, eventualy the pain will go and you will feel better. I know everyone says it but you will find somebody else. When my husband left I thought of all the bad things he'd done over the years, what a cheating nasty man he was, my friends gave me a surprise party the next day and I've never looked back. I met my second husband a year later and we've been incredibly happy for the last 15 years. Hang on it will get easier.
2007-01-13 06:34:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for your pain, but he's chosen his family over you. You have 2 choices here, and that's assuming he's given you them. You can either stay where you are, and the relationship's over, or you can go with him. But if he's ignoring you and not talking to you, that's not really a good sign that he's even open to your coming with him. I'm really sorry, but I think you probably are going to have to just move on with your life. It will be hard, but you'll get over it.
2007-01-09 12:50:40 · answer #3 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
he is doing it because he thinks that this will make u hate him somehow ... maybe because he dont want u to be in pain that much and to control his
i know its a very painful situation and there is no advice someone can give u ....
all the best for the future
2007-01-09 12:57:20 · answer #4 · answered by athina68 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it up honey. He's chosen his family over you and that seems to be his final decision. If he is unwilling to take you with him, or made no plans to include you in his move, then you aren't as important to him as you thought you were. Sorry.
2007-01-09 12:56:51 · answer #5 · answered by spikeyblonde_22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's only doing what he thinks is right, which is to go and take care of his family. sometimes you have to sacrifice to be with he one you love. i think you will be able to be together just not right now. let him go there and you need to support him and show him that no matter what happens you still love him. hopefully someday in the near future it will work itself out and you will be able to be together again. good luck.
2007-01-09 12:54:40 · answer #6 · answered by Btieti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is treating you like that, forge him. If he doesn't love you enough to do every thing in his power to make sure you can come with him, then he DOES NOT deserve you. Good luck in what ever desicion you decide.
2007-01-09 12:55:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you go with him? But he's obviously chosen his family over you, so you can't be on the top of his list, let him go, if he loved you that much he would stay with you.Get someone that deserves you.
2007-01-09 14:05:00 · answer #8 · answered by S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get some money and move there if its menat to be hed stay family or not love is once in a life time
2007-01-09 12:49:37 · answer #9 · answered by Juleette 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find another lover. Time heals
2007-01-09 12:50:34 · answer #10 · answered by Boscombe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋