Sometimes when i have intercorse with my partner i cannot orgasm..i really have to sort of strain so to speak i tense my stomach and nearly all the muscles in my body to get there it gets embarresing as my face ends up red!!Anyone else have this trouble and hats your remedy?
2007-01-09 04:40:10 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
foreplay is the answer. he not doing what he is suppose to be doing to get you started.
2007-01-12 19:12:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No remedy to offer, but research shows that most women require some muscle tension to reach orgasm. I have no idea why this is. Also, remember, most women find it very difficult or impossible to orgasm just from penetration, and require clitoral stimulation to climax.
If this problem is new for you, however, it could be any number of very simple things. Sometimes something as small as a stressful week, or money worries can effect how women feel in bed. Please try to remember this, and don't put too much pressure on yourself!
For now, try incorporating clitoral stimulation into your lovemaking routine.
Take care, and good luck!!!
2007-01-09 04:46:48 · answer #2 · answered by P_P_K 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi there !
There is a saying "everything starts with the mind"...this statement is applicable in your case also..
1. Never ever do anything for the sake of doing it..
2. Never carry any worries of any sort to the bed room
3. If an argument or difference in opinion has occured with better half, never take it / show it to/in the bed room . Maybe if you are mentally disturbed, dont attempt anything that night. Just relaax..
4. As far as possible, find time to relax in the form of some soft music etc with family members.
5. Never lose your self confidence over one failure, .
6. Do NOT have a late dinner..try to have an early dinner .
best wishes !
2007-01-09 04:54:34 · answer #3 · answered by suresh k 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a common problem, and you are lucky to even reach orgasm through intercourse at all, alot of women never do. I know what you mean about the tensing the muscles, Im do soemthing similar, but not to the extent ot sounds like you do! who cares what faces you pull when you are having sex, as long as you reach your destination it don't really matter about your appearence during the ride!
2007-01-09 04:48:01 · answer #4 · answered by CHARISMA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women dont have to orgasm to enjoy sex, in fact some women dont ever!!!! ( they only orgasm through masterbation).
If your body is naturally tensing during sex then your on the way to orgasm but your not relaxed enough to jump the last fence. If your are self conscious about the way you look during sex then you do have issues. You need to be totally relaxed with your partner. I once had a loose bowel movement on my husband ( boyfriend at the time) during sex. It really smelt too, but after washing we laughed. You have to be that relaxed, that you feel free to do anything, and for anything to happen to be able to achieve the big o.
2007-01-09 11:19:31 · answer #5 · answered by jamiehattie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your era isn't once you PEE blood! OMG what a nimrod. You heavily do not understand what a era is? Honey, that's poor. shame on your mothers and dads for not informing you. this is as customary a physique functionality as sleeping or eating. It happens to all women human beings while they hit puberty. i can not have faith your mom does not permit you realize this. If she hasn't informed you yet, Santa Clause isn't genuine the two. LOL! ok, i'm sorry I had to. Your era is your physique's way of making waiting itself for childbirth. a woman's physique is going with the aid of a undeniable cycle repeatedly back throughout her person existence, repeating itself each 28 days or so (that's in simple terms an familiar, each female is distinctive.) right this is the way it relatively works: Your uterus traces itself with blood and tissue to insulate a baby. in case you do not grow to be pregnant, your physique realizes it does not want the blood and tissue and it "sheds" it. It comes out of your hoo-hoo, otherwise properly-called your vagina. It lasts some days (perhaps 3 or 4), then you definately stop bleeding, then it happens back approximately as quickly as a month. this could ensue all your existence until you hit menopause once you're on your 50's or 60's, different than once you're pregnant. in case you're pregnant, your physique keeps the blood and tissue to insulate the toddler instead of laying off it. simply by fact of this between the 1st signs and indications which you're pregnant is which you have ignored your era. Getting your era additionally means that this is achieveable so you might grow to be pregnant now. in the adventure that your mothers and dads have under no circumstances informed you which you will get a era, i'm specific they have under no circumstances talked to you approximately intercourse the two. hint- you get pregnant with the aid of having intercourse, which you at the instant are not waiting to do at 12 years previous yet you will desire to study approximately it. you certainly would desire to communicate on your mom. in case you have not have been given a grown female to talk to, you may ask a guy however the verbal substitute would be a sprint awkward. Ask the person to allow you realize with regard to the birds and the bees. This verbal substitute is long previous due. the stable information is that if it is your era, this is one hundred% customary and you do not want surgical operation.
2016-10-30 10:44:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the times when you have trouble there is something subconciously interfereing. It may be as simple as a sound, a break in the momentum, the television, overthinking or trying too hard.
Just relax and block everthing else out and let the body, mind and soul really be in and enjoy the moment.
2007-01-09 08:08:37 · answer #7 · answered by Nicole the Makeup Artist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lots of foreplay and try different positions try to do relaxing things together like baths and massages etc the more relaxed you are the more chance of you having an orgasm i had the same problem with ex's but not with my partner.xx
2007-01-09 04:49:36 · answer #8 · answered by deliciousde 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try to relax and enjoy the sexual intercourse speak to your partner about this and see if she can find the spots that make you arouse the most!
2007-01-09 05:25:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most women dont have and orgasm thru intercourse alone, men have it easier in that department. Alot of women reach orasm thru foreplay and being carressed.
2007-01-09 05:01:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I've heard a lot of men have this problem and can only climax by masturbating. Don't worry and try to hard that's your problem. Stay relaxed, calm, and tring so hard and it will ***.
2007-01-09 04:50:04 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋