What to do times are not perfect? How to navigate through the difficult time?

Question

I've been a positive person mostly,but sometimes workplace(which is new) takes it's toll on me,life's big questions are not answered and there's some subtle feeling of threat,which is not physical but emotional. If you know what i mean.I want to hold on and get through this time,but need some suggestions....no kidding around here pls.

Answer 1

Take it in it's stride a little at a time and keep in the back of your mind things will get better. Don't bring work home with you and pick up some new friends,good places are clubs, church ect.

Answer 2

Work is really hard (though sometimes it keeps you too busy and tired to obsess over personal problems!)
The tough part about a job is the routine---every day, precious time that will not return in your life must be put into work-time. And you know you must return to the same place, problems and people every day. There is a huge tension between the fun of the weekend and home and the work-world. The problem is, this is always the case.
If you have an ideal, challenging and well-paid job you have to constantly worry about losing it--not to mention income taxes, and the ever-present politics of the workplace which might affect your livelihood.
If the job is less than ideal, there is still the plus of income, and perhaps pride that you are earning your way in life.
But no matter what the job is, there is stress involved---stress that everyone feels, but also the stress of regrets and uncertainty.
The job is only what it is---to do it well, you have to feel that you are unique and important, but in the REAL scheme of things (that you may have to deny, just to do the job) -- the job/employer/company has no need of your individual self. You can be replaced, as can all the other employees. You feel that threat constantly, as do all the other workers.

This is the job world, and must be accepted. But you can make your home-world, and your interior world strong and individual and positive. When stress happens, concentrate on your ideas,
hobbies, a personal project, or anything special that entertains you.

If you have real issues with the fixed nature of the job setting, it also may relate to childhood problems living in your family, because the daily routine with these people might reflect those bad and stressful memories. Try to analyse how your childhood formed your responses to this situation---was the family time fun, or a constant strain of denial, tension, and worry?

Answer 3

It can be hard to deal with tough times, but I've found that the best way when circumstances are presenting problems that I don't have power to change is to just take things one day at time, sometimes one hour at a time, and not try to think too far ahead. It's sort of like climbing a very tough and rocky road up a mountain: if you look at it as something you think of all at once, it can overwhelm you. How can I possibly do this huge, giant, punishing task? But if you take it one step at a time, it gets done and you get through it, and at some point you're high up on the mountain, looking back at the ground you've covered, and you're amazed because you didn't think you could do it.

Also true, and this is something that it took me a fair part of my adult life to come to terms with: it's okay to not be perfect, and it's okay to ask for help. Sometimes we get so locked up in the thought that we have to do something all by ourselves, and that asking for help is a sign of weekness, that we beat ourselves to death over minor things and we kill ourselves trying to do something alone when there are lots of people who would be willing to help us.

It's also true that when these feelings overwhelm us, we aren't the only ones who have felt that we. It can help to know that others have had the same feelings.

Also, something to think about, something that time and age really give you a perspective on: most of the things that when we are young seem like calamities are honestly not going to even figure largely in our memories years later. If the difficult time we're in doesn't involve serious illness or injury or death, it truly isn't a big deal. The unfortunate thing is that sometimes it takes going through a situation where serious illness, injury or death is involved to understand how trivial a lot of the things that upset us truly are. My god, when you've just gotten a call that your brother has died from a heart attack at age 39, it makes the problems you're having at work seem absolutely trivial.

You mention "life's big questions are not answered, and there's some subtle feeling of threat, which is not physical but emotional." I assume that you've tried some introspection and thinking out these issues by yourself. If that hasn't gotten you what you want/need to relieve these feelings, it may be time to get therapy or counseling. Getting "stuck" emotionally is not uncommon, and it isn't a weakness or a flaw to not be able to get "unstuck" by yourself. A series of sessions with a counselor can go a long way to helping here.

Finally, there is the possibility that the feelings you are having may be arising from a physical problem, i.e., clinical depression. There are medications that can help with this, which is a very real problem that a person cannot cure by themselves. A counselor may be able to determine if you need medication, and to refer you to help if you do need it.

Good luck and I hope you feel better soon.

Answer 4

Pray.Every new job will have it's troubles. You basically have co-workers who think that your there to take their job. Your the new guy trying to fit into a click of people that hang out in the office. All you can be is you . Smile and be polite but don't put yourself in a position to cause any confusion. If you have something or do something that keeps you calm, do it while at the office. Find you a quiet space.