2007-01-09 04:29:06 · 49 answers · asked by chosen_isaiah61 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Is it wrong? or do you think that people are unable to control their urges?
2007-01-09 04:30:31 · update #1
I am married by the way..
2007-01-09 04:36:18 · update #2
I personally think sex should be between a man and women and up to the individual after the age of 18. Before that I do believe sex is wrong.
As far as my personal life I would say the smart thing to do is have some self control and sustain from sex before marriage. Only because I have talked to a lot of men and women who have been repetitive on the fact that having sex with different partners and before marriage just brings on pain and regret. I am 20 and have survived thus far and it has not been easy. But one thing I keep in mind for my own self conscious is the fact that I want to go through my life with less regret and pain then other people. This makes me no more a better person then anyone else. But, at least there won't be as much heart break, shame, and regret.
So, yes, the urges can be controlled. I am living proof of it. I do believe the best thing to do is avoid the pain.
2007-01-09 04:44:23 · answer #1 · answered by Noodles 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In a way it is wrong but when it comes down to urges and you have someone kissing or blowing on your neck it is extremely hard to continue without having sex. But when you say sex that could mean oral, anal, or any other form of sex. So the question is your religion stopping you from having sex or is it personal reasons? I think if you are not really ready then you should wait until marriage but remember once you lose your virginity, you will never ever get it back. That is something you may regret and have to live with it for the rest of your life!!!!!
2007-01-09 04:38:04 · answer #2 · answered by cna_angel06 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not a case of right or wrong. Since people are postponing marriage until later in life...I don't think the two should be linked. If one is old enough to handle the responsibility of safe sex..than go for it.
I for one wouldn't want to enter into a life long commitment without knowing about the package 100 %. Lots of Divorces and infidelity stem from the lack of sexual compatibility.
Test drive the car before you buy it.
Do a walk thru before you purchase a home
Conduct an interview before hiring a staff member
You get the point!!!!!!!!
2007-01-09 05:56:17 · answer #3 · answered by Wife~and~Mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think theres a wrong or right for this. Rather, i think its a matter of personal choices, values and principles
Some people may be rather liberal and do not believe in remaining a virgin till they get married. Personally, i would not have sex before marriage
2007-01-09 04:55:53 · answer #4 · answered by Riko 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is going to have different things to say about this. I used to tell myself no sex before marriage due to the preaching of abstinence-only sex education in my school. Then I went ahead and did it anyway. Many people say they're going to wait and then realize they can't or they do something stupid because they thought that they've really found the one. Another thing that could make someone give up their vows is just peer pressure. I think the more important thing is that if you're going to have sex before marriage, learn the ways to protect yourself from any STI's.
2007-01-09 04:36:53 · answer #5 · answered by Sharon X 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sex before marriage is not a bad thing. I had sex before I got married and it was great. Once we married our sex life changed. Mine went from great (before) to OK (after). I am no longer with my husband and I'm enjoy the before marriage sex. Don't get me wrong I have heard that it gets better with marriage, but my experience wasn't like that.
2007-01-09 04:38:40 · answer #6 · answered by blue_eyes 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think it can prove to be a pit fall. I would have waited until I was married if I could change my past. If someone loves you enough to have sex with you they would be showing even more love if they waited until marriage. It is fornication and if you believe in the God of the Bible then you would believe it is a sin.
2007-01-09 04:33:08 · answer #7 · answered by Noka 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I used to think that sex before marriage was wrong for moral/religious reasons. But then I found someone I wanted to marry & (hypothetically) spend the rest of my life with & we had sex. It didn't feel wrong.
I think sex before marriage is wrong if you feel in your heart that you are doing something wrong. Sex before marriage is a very personal choice & should only be made by the individual.
2007-01-09 04:33:09 · answer #8 · answered by Dirty.Little.Secret. 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I did and I'm not proud of it. If I could start over again, I would not. I'm more religious now. Especially now that I have kids and 2 of them are older than we have been married. Not hard to figure out! But I try to tell them to NOT make the same decisions I did. To try to listen to God and do what he wants....wait till marriage.
2007-01-09 04:38:15 · answer #9 · answered by Shari 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think it's fine.
let me guess, your church frowns upon it? start reading on why religion is what it is today, and how man manipulated the "word of god" for 2000 years only to serve himself.
you'll stop going to church when you find out religion has been a tool to control the masses since it's inception.
be responsible, practice safe sex, and only do it with someone special, because it's a special act. but if you really plan on loving your partner when you get married, you'll do him/her a favor and have some experience. ;)
zv
2007-01-09 04:33:54 · answer #10 · answered by zero_vertical 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋