With regard to affairs of the heart, when do you trust your intuition and when do you trust what others say?

Answer 1

Bluebutterfly,

This is a great question to ask... and a hard one to answer.

Sometimes the answer depends on the person who is asking: Some of us have a keen intuitive sense that has proven itself, while others of us sometimes mistake our momentary feelings for deeper intuition. So, some of us can more realistically trust our "inituition" than other people. There is no blanket answer for everyone.

When you feel one way about a relationship, but other people offer an opposite opinion, here are some of the questions I would ask yourself:

1. Have I had these same intuitions before, in other relationships, and how accurate was I? [Be brutally honest with yourself. You have to be.]

2. Laying my emotions aside momentarily, do I see any real problems in this relationship -- conflicts that aren't getting worked out, or potential problems due to our backgrounds, personalities, income, religious faith, etc? Are there any realistic problems that I would have to overcome in order to make things work?

3. Are there a number of people who agree with me (or are neutral) along with the dissenters, or does it seem like everyone I talk to has the same negative opinion?

While it's possible for everyone else to just not see what you see (and thus be wrong in their assessment), if you get many *different* types of people all thinking that the relationship is bad, then you do need to look more carefully at why they think that and challenge your own intuition.

4. Have I gotten advice from people who have been in long-term relationships (parents or respected adults)? What do they think about my relationship? How have their decisions for their lives panned out for them?

The bottom line is that sometimes your intuition will take you on the right path and other times it can lead you horribly astray. You need to determine how trustworthy your intuition has proven in the past and then determine how trustworthy other people's opinions might be. You will never know "for sure" -- but hopefully you can take a well-educated guess at what is probably true.

Good luck, and I hope things work out for you, either way.

Answer 2

I usually trust my intuition first. Like when I first meet someone within a few minutes I get a vibe if I can trust them or not. Of course I listen to what other people say but before I make any conclusions I investigate myself to find out the truth.

Answer 3

I usually go with my intuition and insticts before I even consider listening to others.I do however listen to others and my intuition but I usually follow what my intuition says first and foremost....