Well I am screwed... I am a mother of 3 with no job... a boyfriend that keeps telling me that he is not in love with me. And that I am not good enough to be his wife. And my own family keeps screwing me over, so honestly is life worth living????
2007-01-09 04:25:30 · 41 answers · asked by kjsmom_3 1 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
If it is not worth living for you than it is for your kids. You just need to make some serious changes. Once you do that than you will find happiness.
First you should find a job. Life is so much easier when you can stand on your own and not have to ask others for help. It gives you a purpose.
Then you need to talk to your boyfriend about your relationship. If he does not love you than he needs to leave so that you can find love, because it is out there.
If the only person you can rely on is you, then you need to take charge of it. Nothing will get any better until you do something for you and your kids.
2007-01-09 04:40:08 · answer #1 · answered by miss lady 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should leave your boyfriend... Why would you stay with someone who doesn't love you? You have a responsibility to keep on living. You have 3 children, how could you even consider abandoning them like that? You might do well reading some self help books and especially pick up "When Love Goes Wrong: What to do When You Can't do Anything Right; Strategies for Women with Controlling Partners" I'm sure that book will give you the strength to leave that asshole of a boyfriend. That would be a great start, because having a boyfriend like that will only make you feel worse about yourself, and you need to stay away from such thoughts.... And having such a negative boyfriend may cause you to treat your kids badly (I read that in the book, I don't know how you are with your kids, you might be a great mom, I don't know)... And pick up some Parenting books, to help you deal with the situations you may face with them... Some self help books might really help. You have 3 reasons why life is worth living.
2007-01-09 05:18:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure it is.
Someone once asked me out of the blue if everything in my life was the way it should be. I answered that nothing in my life was anywhere near the way it should be. The guy responded "That's garbage. You have done everything it takes to be exactly where you are."
This statement is more loving and true then you think. You are totally in control over what happens next. Think about that. You have three kids that could care less if you lived in a cave as long as you were together. I would think you have a million choices right now. May I suggest two?
1. Surrender! Quit. Give up. Give everything you have including your family over to the care and guidance of GOD. Then sit tight and buckle up because things are going to do some drastic changing.
2. Take a deep breath and focus on one thing at a time. Get your priorities straight and start fixing things one at a time. Accept all the help you can get.
That's my best take on it. I was once in your shoes. I chose to give it all to GOD and I'm still doing it. But my world is a whole lot different now. I have a very stable and happy family that includes me and my wife, four kids and four dogs.
May GOD richly bless you and guide you with Grace, Mercy and peace.
2007-01-09 04:39:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a job...and/or...
Quit having children.
Love yourself enough to not settle for a "boyfriend" who uses you for sex.
I am a college student, and I go to school with single mothers, even ones who have recently had an infant, because they want to do something with themselves. So you can do it.
Go to school and do something with yourself.
Lastly- know that your own two hands are there to create the kind of life you want to live in, not to hold out open for someone to give you hand outs. This country has programs for people like you.
You want to be happy? Do you not have a future? Consider adopting your kids out or something so that you can get up off the ground and survive- even enjoy life.
Look, I'm not going to tell you "don't worry, be happy." Honestly, sometimes life sucks. You say your own family keeps screwing you over. It appears that your life is "everyone else's fault." Maybe it's your environment, but I see from your post that the biggest person screwing you over is you.
Other people have overcome greater obstacles than what you have to get what they want.
Check out county mental health- you may be dealing with depression.
You won't believe what you are capable of when you quit whining about your life. I've learned this from personal experience.
2007-01-12 16:37:38 · answer #4 · answered by K H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear.... you have neither love nor money, the two essential ingredients that make life worth living. My heart bleeds to even imagine such a situation. Your question deserves a careful answer.
If life is not worth it, what is the alternative? Because there is no viable alternative, life has to be made worth it.
First thing you need to do is to forget this boyfriend of yours... unless you do that, you would be all the time suffering erosion of your own self-esteem.
Look for a job..... no, no, you certainly haven't done enough on that.... once you have thrown your boyfriend out of your mind, then only you can genuinely search hard enough for a job. Remember that job is a dire necessity for you and you should accordingly be ready for a lot of sacrifice for the job.
Then, of course you have to move around with people to land on a right man to marry or live with, one who would need you as well as love you.
Hope, this helps clear your mind.... once that happens, answers will fall in place and you would know what to do.
2007-01-09 04:40:39 · answer #5 · answered by small 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OF COURSE IT IS. Times may seem tough and hard right now, but it wasnt always like this and wont stay like this forever. Have faith, as my dad used to say: "don't let the bastards grind you down" You are your own best friend, do for yourself. Find a peer group and join with them. Get a real man for a boyfriend and try being independant from your family. THey screw you over probably because you are an easy mark. Toughen up, there is light at the end of your tunnel. Been there.
2007-01-09 04:31:56 · answer #6 · answered by P.A.M. 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes dear, life is always worth living. I don't have any disc's in my neck or lower back, I have rheumatoid arthritis in both hands and feet and knees and in my left eye, I have Fybromyalgia and a breathing problem from smoking so long. My son has all of these things plus removal of a brain tumor and diabetes. Even with all of that, life is worth living. to use a quote "LIFE IS BEAUTIFUL!!! I know your life is messed up right now, but trust me when I say it will get better and you HAVE to believe that. Those children need you more than you will ever know. They may also be the best things you have ever done. To be a good, loving and understanding mother is a gift from God and a joy to live. Don't give up honey, as long as there is breath there is hope. I believe in you!!!!
2007-01-09 04:40:03 · answer #7 · answered by Josephine 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have three kids, that should be reason enough to not even consider the alternative.
Dump the loser boyfriend, go on welfare for awhile and go back to school, there are grants and scholarships so yes you can afford it, get a degree and a real job and do what is right for you and your children. The only thing stopping you from doing any of this is fear of the unknown, stop being afraid and do what you need to do. You can do it if you try, so try.
2007-01-09 04:37:31 · answer #8 · answered by vaderismydog2006 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A more appropriate question to ask yourself: is death worth dying? If I feel suicidal, then the answer is yes, but when a person is back on solid ground, you realize that yes, life may be hard, but this is the only life you get. EVER. Repeat that to yourself. Dwell on it for awhile. If you end it, there is no coming back, you are over for good, and any possible happy experiences you will never ever see, yuo will only see the inside of your closed, sewn shut eyelids for the rest of eternity.
You only live for a short period of time. You'll have all eternity to be dead. So the answer to your question is a yes.
2007-01-09 05:29:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Certainly you have a rotten hand of cards. You can fold (give up roll over and die) or you can play it through. YOU have a choice in every situation in your life, you might not think so but you do. If YOU don't love your BF, do what you have to to get support for your babies and get rid of him as soon as possible. If your family is screwing you around, give them a time out, don't contact them for a while. You can whimper around about your life and no one in their right mind is going to want to be anywhere near you, OR you can take the bull by the horns, dispose of the negative issues in your life and show your babies the meaning of courage in the face of adversity.
2007-01-09 14:23:15 · answer #10 · answered by al b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋