I'm a father to a wonderful 4 year old. My marriage is over and we're going through the divorce process. My question goes out to the experienced Single Moms and Dads out there. Should I just stay single for a while, or put myself out "in the market" and try to find women in the same situation (probably single moms) to start dating again and stuff... Which would probably get me in a new relationship quickly. I'm just wondering if it's better to let that go for a while and get it together, or if getting involved with someone new helps ease the pain... Any thoughts?
2007-01-09 04:23:40 · 14 answers · asked by Allinone 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I say stay single for a while while grieving the marriage.
Read Dr. Phils advice;
"Life After Divorce"
http://www.drphil.com/articles/article/213
"Advice for Parents Who Are Divorcing"
http://www.drphil.com/articles/article/281
2007-01-09 04:29:31 · answer #1 · answered by me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think going straight into something is hard on the kids. Get your self straight get on a routine with your daughter. Does she live with you or mom. For the first couple of months when you do decide to date. See that person without your daughter. Its hard if a child gets attached to someone and then it doesnt work out. Be very cautious. always tell daters that your child comes first no matter what so they dont expect anything less and if i was you i wouldnt date anyone who didnt feel the same way. Think before you date single moms as well sometimes other peoples kids or the estranged (the childs father in your case) parent can be difficult to deal with especially if you marry them. Good luck follow your heart
2007-01-09 04:30:49 · answer #2 · answered by Catie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a newly divorced mom, I have taken a break from the dating scene, for a while and spend some time with my kids. When you are ready, you will find someone.
Although it does get lonely not having a companion, I feel the time I spend with my kids right now are more important......
It all depends on you though. If you want to get into a relationship quickly or take your time.
2007-01-09 04:31:18 · answer #3 · answered by Trese 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should probably wait a little while and focus on your child. I am a newly single mom of 2 my divorce was final in June and I haven't even talked to another guy yet. Please just remember when you do start dating to be very careful since your child is a great factor. You do not want to bring a bunch of women in and out of your child's life. Good Luck!
2007-01-09 04:37:57 · answer #4 · answered by jeter2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go it alone for awhile. Get yourself organized, settled, and put your relationship behind you. Why would you want to jump from the frying pan into the fire? Give it a rest. After that - just find someone you LIKE. Who cares if they're single Mums, etc.
2007-01-09 04:34:16 · answer #5 · answered by Bondgirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Focus on your daughter. As hard as divorce is on the parents it is much harder on the kids.
Spend as much time as possible with your daughter. Don't rush into dating because you probably aren't emotionally ready but don't hide either. Take your time and do what feels right with the right person. Just put the little girl first - always.
2007-01-09 04:28:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes - you should spend some time alone awhile and figure out who you are now that your not married and experience life single for a while and enjoy. That does not mean you cant date once in a while just dont get hooked until you figure your ready.
2007-01-09 04:28:57 · answer #7 · answered by harleychickfatboy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been there and feel you need to give yourself some time before getting back into a steady relationship. Its your decision tho, only you know if your ready. Good luck!
2007-01-09 04:32:34 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to ask? Be a dad first okay. You said your self the marriage is over...why would you go looking for more drama so soon?
2007-01-09 04:28:42 · answer #9 · answered by SecretFriend 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do no longer DO IT ! U WILL injury UR MAM'S FEELING because of the fact no remember what U think of, THEY nonetheless LOVE one yet another. 25 YEARS U do no longer WASH IT OUT that easy. attempt to get them returned mutually !
2016-10-06 21:41:42 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋