2007-01-09 04:19:58 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Maybe you should suggest the two of you work out. Make it about you wanting to have a work out buddy. Get bikes or rollerblades or join a gym together. Make it all about wanting to stay healthy and have a work out buddy and dont make her feel self conscience of her self. Or just love her for who she is and thank her for those kids she gave you
2007-01-09 04:24:24 · answer #1 · answered by Catie 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Since you have teenage children, it is easier to get out of the house to exercise. It may hurt her feelings if you tell her to lose weight. Instead start exercising with her and make it something you do as a couple. If you have to use the excuse that you would like to be healthier so you can spend time with your grandchildren one day. Encourage her to cook healthier foods at home for everyone's health. This way you are not hurting her feelings by straight out telling her she needs to lose weight.
2007-01-09 12:27:19 · answer #2 · answered by Brian and Kari 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow that's hard, we hate when we are called fat. maybe you should talk to her that she would feel better if she got back to her regular weight. that u guys could exercise together, to be healthier. that she's pretty but that losing a little bit of weight could make her look much better then she is already. well let me just tell u that there's no easier way to say this, it will hurt a bit but she will understand. so just be kind and show ur love during the conversation.
2007-01-09 13:02:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T DO IT YOU BONEHEAD!!!!
Listen - if you don't understand yet (after 19 years!!!) that you are supposed to make your wife feel GOOD about herself, then you have some learning to do.
Your job in the marriage is to support her in managing the relationship. You do this by doing little things like listening, taking care of her sexually, cooperating, doing nice things for her, and HELPING HER FEEL GOOD ABOUT HERSELF.
If you ask her to lose weight - you are in for a very long stay in the doghouse. If that's what you want then go for it. Otherwise I would let it go.
FP
2007-01-09 12:26:33 · answer #4 · answered by F. Perdurabo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its very hard for a man to see that he's being hurtful when they are thinking with their penis. I have been married only 5 years and between years 3 and 4 I put on 30 lbs, luckily I have since been able to shed it. However whenever my husband would make comments it would boil my blood. He's gained weight since married too, he just fails to see it, like he fails to see his toes. Nothing will get you to sleep on the couch faster than to insult your partner when you should be encouraging.
2007-01-09 12:50:57 · answer #5 · answered by bunnyhead 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should NOT ask her to lose the weight that she put on over the last 19 years. It would hurt her feelings and cause problems in your relationship. I have gotten chunky and would love to lose weight. It is a lot harder for some people to lose weight than others. It would hurt my feelings if my HUSBAND OF 19 YEARS asked me to lose weight or implied that i need to lose weight. There is something that YOU NEED TO KNOW.
Fat people don't need to be told that they are fat! We (i mean they) can tell just by looking in the mirror. You may have accumulated a few wrinkles throughout the last 19 years.......Do you think it would be nice for her to suggest that you go buy some "wrinkle reducer"? What if you go bald? Should you get hair implants or something like that?
Let it go. People age and their bodies change. When you truly "LOVE" somebody it means even if they gain weight or lose their teeth or get wrinkles or lose their hair you CONTINUE to love them.
2007-01-09 12:49:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Very carefully...lol Perhaps you could join a gym with her, go for walks together or some other physical activity and encourage her to eat better for her health. Good luck with this as some people seem content to stay fat.
2007-01-09 12:24:52 · answer #7 · answered by me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your wife has gotten too heavy, you sit her down and tell her that you are concerned about her health and that she needs to lose some weight. Let her know that you are willing to help in any way possible. Don't argue with your wife about this, and don't back down. Simply tell her that she needs to lose the weight. Give her some time and see what happens.
2007-01-09 12:29:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Go to the gym together. Encourage her to cook healthy meals. Chances are she already knows she's fat and probably not happy with it either. Just be encouraging.
Or you could be flat-out honest with her. My husband did this with me when I got too thin. He told me straight up he wasn't as attracted to me when I was too skinny. I love him and value his opinion, so I changed. A woman should want to make her husband happy.
2007-01-09 12:31:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You'd best think on that long and hard. If she loses weight and begins to look good, she may not continue to have an interest in you. This has been known to happen. So PLEASE be VERY careful what you ask for. ;)
2007-01-09 12:39:46 · answer #10 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋