2007-01-09 04:18:19 · 26 answers · asked by deceiverII 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you have 2 choices...
leave her
or forgive her, and trust that she will never do it again
AND IF SHE DOES...
leave her
Good luck
2007-01-09 04:22:17 · answer #1 · answered by **Lil QT** 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You either work it out, or get a divorce. It's up to you. Having an affair in long term marriages is very common for both wives and husbands, some marriages survive it and become stronger, some were already troubled and the cheating is just a symptom, not the disease. Sit down, talk with your spouse, see if you want to fix this or go your separate ways. Good luck.
2007-01-09 04:27:20 · answer #2 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you are not alone in this situation. Many of us have dealt with or are dealing with the pain you find yourself in. In my case discovery day was July 29th, 2006.
My wife and I are still together, its a long hard road and you either decide to travel it together or you end up taking a fork in the road and traveling alone. Either way you need to recover from this incident.
In marriage we give our partners blind trust, we should never do that with anyone. Do you blindly trust your mechanic, banker or broker? Recovery and healing are possible, but it takes time.
There are sites available for help with this issue, my favorite is http://www.network54.com/index/32374...
Best advice, don't make any life altering decisions for at least six months. It will be hard, but you can make it if your wife is willing to give 100% effort to helping you heal.
As for the healing, it has three prongs, you have to heal, your wife has to heal, (understand why she did this) and the relationship has to heal.
Good luck
2007-01-09 04:33:20 · answer #3 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"The fidelity bank and trust is a tough creditor. You make a deposit somewhere else and they close your account forever!"
In other words, once a cheater, always a cheater. She's proven to you that she's either no longer in love with you or does not have the will power to remain faithful to you. Personally I'd be contacting a divorce attorney. But, that's a decision that you must make on your own.
2007-01-09 04:27:32 · answer #4 · answered by albion53151 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do u have kids ? How long have u been married ? Do you love her? Its hard to say I've been married for 19 years and two teens> She cheated on me seven years ago. Its hard to trust her after that and sometime I wonder if shes faith full. Marriage is hard work just like any relationship if you want it bad en ought you'll try to work it out. But if she doesn't stop after shes caught. Then u can say u tried Good luck
2007-01-09 04:57:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get counseling and try and work it out or Divorce. It wont be an easy road but if you truly love each other you can work it out. We all make mistakes and that one is a tough one to deal with and get through. But if she is truly sorry and loves you she has a lot of work ahead of her to rebuild somethings that are now damaged or if you cant work it out possibly destroyed.
2007-01-09 04:29:15 · answer #6 · answered by daydreamer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, since you made a commitment and you gave her your trust, which you can never take back, you should forgive her and move on.
I'd also ask myself why she cheated on you. It's probably because of something you are not giving her. Women generally do not want to cheat on their man, but their man often makes them long for something they're not getting at home.
FP
2007-01-09 04:23:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you feel in your heart that you still want to be with her then you do whatever it takes to work it out, but at the same time you have to make sure that she still wants to be with you. It's really up to you, but if you do forgive her and take her back, you can't keep punishing her for the mistake that she made. Good luck.
2007-01-09 04:23:58 · answer #8 · answered by Jazz21 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say DIVORCE! You could try work it out but there's a pretty good chance you wouldnt be able to trust her again so you would always wonder what she was up to.
2007-01-09 04:24:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
kick her a ss out of the house and divorce her inmidiatlly
2007-01-09 04:52:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can try to work things out or you can divorce her. Doing anything other than what I mention would be wrong.
2007-01-09 04:22:19 · answer #11 · answered by christinedaae 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋