Would you forgive your fiance if he told you he just recently did cocaine?

Question

My fiance this last weekend went out with his best friends. One of them kept pushing him to do it. His best friend of like 20 years went out and bought the stuff and I guess put it in his face and he did it. I had an idea it happened but didn't want to believe it until he told me the truth. I was so upset! I yelled at him calling him stupid threw things at him and even hit him a couple times. The next morning when we woke up he acted like nothing happened. I was still upset about the whole thing. I talked with him and he promises he will never do it again cause he now knows how upset I can be over this. He kept saying he loves me and he wont do it again. He just said lets let it go and move on. Should I forgive him? Should I trust him? What should I think about all this?

Answer 1

give him a second chance its not like he does it everyday an lies to you about it.. i think he means it when he tells you he wont do it again.. Just tell him when hes out with his friends he needs to think about whats more improtant makin them happy or makin you happy.. Its either you or the drug...

Answer 2

I would be very skeptical. If he is hanging out with someone who is doing cocaine, he will very likely be doing it again, as you said he did when his friend pushed him into it. He clearly has no self control and is easily influenced. This may be a sign of things to come, you may want o hold off on the marriage it could be a disaster waiting to happen.

Answer 3

First you have to ask yourself can you trust him again. Is this the first time he told you he would stop doing something. If you feel in your heart of hearts that he will never do it again then forget about it. But if you are going to keep throwing this up in his face then go about your marry way.
No one wants to keep hearing the same thing all the time.

Answer 4

I believe you should forgive him unless he become an addict. Charachters and strengths are made from life experiences. Remember Cocaine is usually a rich persons drug as people are still in control and it tends be cleaner cut than speed or Herion. A one off won't do any harm.

tell him you are going to try it and see his reaction!

Answer 5

You let him know where you stand on his use of cocaine and caused him some grief over it. So now he will associate his poor behavior with a unpleasant experience and most likely won't disappoint you again. Good work.

Answer 6

if his friend of 20 years bought him a hooker and put her in his face would and he had sex with her would you forgive him?
your bf is easily influenced by others
what if he starts doing cocaine would you stay with him?

Answer 7

If you give him a second chance, lay down some rules.
1) he is never to do cocaine again
2) he is to never see those friends again (true friends wouldn't have 'forced' him into it.

Answer 8

This isn't something HUGE, if it turns out he was an addict, maybe, but if he told you about it, he was being honest, and I believe he is honest when he tells you that he will never do it again.

Answer 9

If you are absolutely sure it was his first time give him another chance. but if he does it again, boot him to the corner.. it is so addictive. he will not be able to stop.. and you don't want a doper for a bf..

Answer 10

he could have also gotten drunk and screwed your friend, so look on the bright side hunny. if youd have hit me and threw things at me i woulda had my stuff out that night and been gone!