My son is the first grandchild on both sides and only has a 3 month old cousin on one side. So the only interaction he gets is the few classes i've signed him up for. EX. Babysigns, kindermusik
2007-01-09 04:12:30 · 11 answers · asked by Dromi 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
I became pregnant with my second son when my first was ten months old, so I have experienced this first hand. What I noticed was it was the baby who was getting the short end of the stick, not my older son. My oldest son really didn't notice the new baby, or at least I didn't see any indications that he did. With one baby you have all the time and energy to devote to that one baby, and you won't have that time and attention with the second, just be sure to slow down and make time. When I would put the baby down and tend to the needs of the toddler, I would feel guilty because I didn't have that time to cuddle and coo with him like I did his brother. My boys are now 9 and 8 and do EVERYTHING together. They even chose to share a room. Good luck.
2007-01-09 05:25:11 · answer #1 · answered by D Marie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL I am in the exact same situation... EXACT! 1st grandbaby on both sides and he is gonna be 11 mos. on the 15th... I am getting another crib, because I don't think he'll be ready yet for awhile and I'm 3 mos. pregnant. I am also letting him touch my tummy and I say baby all the time. He was confused at first, but I show him pictures of babies and then point to my tummy and he smiles now when I say baby and points to my tummy. We also have a bedtime routine with him that will not falter when the new baby comes. We kiss him good night and say g'nite to all his teddy bears and his rocking horse, etc... During the day, I invite neighborhood babies over and tell him to be nice and share. He's doing simply wonderful. If you need any other tidbits, feel free to drop me a line GOOD LUCK!!!!
2007-01-09 12:32:43 · answer #2 · answered by Shannon Kay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just make sure you still play with him and don't give the baby all the attention. At 10 months, he'll probably adjust better than an older child. If he's able, let him help, i.e. get you a diaper for a changing, help you burp the baby, etc. But I wouldn't worry too much. He'll adjust just fine.
2007-01-09 12:17:33 · answer #3 · answered by farmersdaughter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that the baby is the whole families baby. You need to remember that the first born is still a baby and don't stress that he is a big brother all the time. Also have him help you with the baby, bringing diapers...And the most important job is to make the funny faces to make the baby laugh. Your attitude is everything, Mom.
2007-01-09 12:28:44 · answer #4 · answered by Emee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi,
just include your son in the activities that evolve around the up coming baby. talk to him about why mommy has a stomach. talk to him about how and why he is about to have a new brother or sister. make sure that he knows that the new baby is his as well as mommies and dads. let him be apart of finding a name for the child. show him the pictures of the baby inside you. make a game out of the coming of the new baby.the more you include him the more comfortable he will become with the idea of being a big brother.
2007-01-09 12:27:50 · answer #5 · answered by Sonya K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you been to sure start? The midwives and healthvisitors are great and they do a special program for older siblings etc to talk them trough what is happening and how important being a big brother/sister is. It really helps the child and in my oppinion is a fantastic idea, why not pop in and ask about it, there are centres all round.
2007-01-09 12:22:16 · answer #6 · answered by angelcakes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son was almost 20 months when our first daughter was born. We adopted a rule in our home, you could not spend time with our daughter, without first spending time with our son. My in laws have a nasty habit of neglecting the older grandchildren for the youngest and I refused to allow this with my children. It actually worked out well since he never felt pushed aside or neglected. We also made sure we spent as much one on one time with him as possible and I tried to include him in everything I could that dealt with his sister. He was great at getting me wipes or diapers.
I also bought him a cabbage patch to help teach him how to be gentle with babies and what was appropriate and what was not appropriate. It worked out nicely. I never had issues with him being too rough with her. He was more curious then anything.
2007-01-09 12:27:48 · answer #7 · answered by totsandtwins04 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though hes young he still can understand some things. My daughter was a little older but i still talked to her about it I told her about the baby in my belly and she would push on my belly and say baby wake up alot. I tried to let her help as much as she could at her age. she would sit with me and "help" hold the botttle and things like that. If you make them apart of the baby they feel like its their baby and want to help you. Make him your big helper. I also think the classes are a great idea so he can do big boy stuff the new baby cant do.
2007-01-09 12:19:49 · answer #8 · answered by Catie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a good idea when you deliever your knew little one is that he/she "brings" the older brother a gift- such as a small tricycle or something he will really like and tell him that is from his new baby brother/sister. He be very excited of the gift and tell him you are going to need his help because he is such a big boy! goodluck!!
2007-01-09 12:23:13 · answer #9 · answered by Shawnaj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just treat him the same as you always have....
it may take a few weeks but he'll warm up to the baby once it's there. All kids get jealous over a new kid in the house.
2007-01-09 12:21:03 · answer #10 · answered by laydenirvine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋