I don't know what to do. I rented a 2 bedroom apartment for my brother until he could make other arrangements.

Question

This all happened because he has unlawful detainer on his record. My mom died alittle over a yaer ago and my grandmother had in her will put that the townhouse she owned that my mother lived in would be hers when she died. So anyways my brother wouldn't pay any rent so he got evicted. Now the the problem is i live here in this apt. and he started moving in a guy friend and in the next week his new girlfriend. I told hm no when i came home from my trip and he said they would stay no matter what i had to say. My brother and his friend and girlfriend sleep all day and are up all night watching tv until six in the morning. His friend uses my computer and has brockenn it. He also doesn't have a job eats all my food. THe worst part besides keeping me up all night when i have to work the next morning is how no one picks up after themselves,its disgusting. {I don't want to make my bnrother homeless, but i reall am miserable living this way.)

Answer 1

I don't know the ages here, but there is some real immaturity going on here.

What you are doing at the moment is playing enabler (I hate phycho babble crap) and what he really needs is an industrial strength dose of reality.

He needs to grow up. You aren't helping him by allowing him to act like 6-year old.

You don't want to make him homeless, but why would he be homeless? He can work, can't he? Why didn't he pay any rent before.

He needs to grow up. Falling in his face and picking himself up does wonders for one's esteem, confidence, and maturity.

And besides, with his behaviour, he's not leaving you any choice. You are right, you are miserable living this way, and there's no reason you should have to be miserable.

You would be doing both yourself and your brother a huge favour by kicking him out. It's difficult, but he's not leaving you with many other options. To be truthful, he is making the decision for you.

Answer 2

You should check with your landlord. Many cities have laws about how many people can live in a certain size apartment. Depend on the actual size of the apartment, you may have too many people living there.

You did your brother a favor by allowing him to stay with you and he took advantage of it. I suggest that you give him a date in which he must be out of your apartment. Give him say 2 or 3 months but be prepared to stay firm on that date.

As for the friends, if you are the lessee, you have every right to kick the other two out. If they were respectful and contributing to the household that's one things but because they, like your brother are using your generousity and disrupting you life, they need to go. You don't owe them anything.

Answer 3

You are going to have to put your foot down and tell him his friend and g/f CAN NOT stay there any longer and if he cant accept that then you shoud evict him (30day notice). Or just get out of your lease and move out and leave them there either way he has to learn to be on his own and take care of his self.