Long story short...my roommate and I do not communicate anymore. We signe our lease in july, her boyfriend came to visit for a week (he's still here). He doesn't work and they eat my food. One of friends had housing issues so we agreed she could stay for a few weeks (shes still there) and now her boyfriend is always there to. The Friend's boyfriend has a dog, but he ahs to move back on campus so he has nowhere to put the dog. Recently I just came home from our winter break to find out that My official roommate and her boyfriend told our other friend that it was ok to have the dog at my apartment when previously we agreed that we would not have animals if they couldn't fit in a tank. I guess at first i wasn't really saying anything becasue I was late with my rent once and she paid it (havent paid her back for the late charges). I have tried to tell her how I feel but she got defensive and I hate to argue. What should I do.
2007-01-09 04:05:50 · 11 answers · asked by fedup* 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Pay her the rent and kick everyone out. Call up the landlord/lady if you have to. (I'll bet your lease says something about the maximum number of occupants.)
2007-01-15 15:53:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your friend is taking advantage of you. She won't stop until you do something about it. Perhaps you could ask if she'd prefer that you or she move out? Or would that be an option? That should give her a clue that you're seriously done with this nonsense. She hasn't shown you the respect you deserve as a roommate by consulting with you on major decisions, and she's wrong for that no matter what you owe her. If you can, you should pay her off even a little at a time, or borrow from a relative to pay her back. You seem to feel that debt means you have no say, but you really don't need to feel that way. One way or the other, you need to make a change.
2007-01-09 12:35:53 · answer #2 · answered by Happy Wife 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your letting these people walk all over you. These other people are not on the lease, talk to your official roommate about it. If she doesn't have these people move out, talk to the landlord and explain the situation. I'm certain that the landlord won't be happy about all of these people living in your apartment. See if the landlord will let you break the lease. If he/she does, then move to a healthier environment.
Now to answer your question, you always have a right to your emotions. You do have a right to be upset. Yes, it is partially your fault for not saying something sooner. Your roommate is taking advantage of you for it.
2007-01-09 12:33:27 · answer #3 · answered by krzylove 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You def. have a right to be upset. Tell them all that if they keep eating your food and staying there then they all are going to have to start paying. If they cannot agree on that then they are no kind of friend! I would try to get out of your lease a.s.a.p and tell your friend to find someone else to live with her (maybe the people who are living there now.) and pay her back for the late charges as soon as u can so she doesnt hold that over your head!
2007-01-09 12:13:37 · answer #4 · answered by Tink 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let it go until you have settled your debt in full. Then, express to her that your living arrangements are unacceptable, and if the boyfriend continues to stay there, he should be splitting the rent & utilities.
And GET THAT DOG OUT OF YOUR HOME!
Good luck!
2007-01-09 12:11:29 · answer #5 · answered by Allison 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pay her back and tell her to get out of your space. You are totally being used honey. Save up the little funky $600 bucks you owe her and cut your losses. If worst comes to worst I'd just dissapear on em one day when nobody was home ... pack up all my stuff and get the hell outta there. Or you could always stand up for yourself and tell them you're not going to take their bs anymore ... and if they disagree ... they can get out!
2007-01-17 11:51:22 · answer #6 · answered by msdrdn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pay her back for the rent, she will use this against you so she can do what she wants. If she is violating the terms of your agreement, I would talk to her about it, there's no other way to work it out and tell her you will pay her back.
2007-01-09 12:10:29 · answer #7 · answered by christinedaae 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
seems to me u prob already paid ya debt in food an all the rest of it,sound like they taking the mic an totally disrespecting u , u shouldnt be made to feel unhappy in ya own home
2007-01-17 10:55:07 · answer #8 · answered by ace 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pay her back, then argue what you think of all of this
2007-01-15 15:36:56 · answer #9 · answered by nuclearhead79 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell her to pay up or get out thats what my brother did and it happend to work and if she wont tell your dorm director
2007-01-16 23:46:57 · answer #10 · answered by ♠BritBrit♠ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋