2007-01-09 04:04:13 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well, if she's married to the pastor, do nothing.
otherwise, leave that church. Don't give any money to that hypocrite.
Report him to the authorities.
also, maybe tell her husband. Over the telephone (especially if he has a history of violence).
2007-01-09 04:09:57 · answer #1 · answered by dude 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a hard place to be, knowing someone's cheating on someone you care about....and with your pastor no less. Is he married, too? I assume this is your husband's sister? If so, does he know about it? Maybe you should tell him, if he doesn't, and let him handle it. You could also talk to the pastor and tell him you know, be sure you have proof or he will just deny it. Maybe if he knows that he's been found out he will end it , but even if he did I would not feel comfortable with him being my pastor any longer. What kind of an example is he? I know that pastors are human, too and make mistakes just like the rest of us, but that doesn't make his behavior acceptable!
I do not envy your position, being put in the middle is no fun! Good luck.
2007-01-09 04:19:20 · answer #2 · answered by Tallulah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First confront your sister in law and tell her you know about the affair. She is ruining her life and the pastors life. This is going to tear up the church and everyone. These people need help!!! Talk with the pastor he should know better than to date a married woman. He should resign from the church until he can get his life straight. How, can he help others if he is committing adultry.
2007-01-09 04:10:20 · answer #3 · answered by springer 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her, talk to him, but don't tell anyone in the congregation, it will only drag you into it further and it won't make the situation any better. If you have proof and there is a church board or other group you could go to, then I would write a letter to them explaining the problem and stating the facts you have. I would also consider changing churches and sending both the pastor and your sister a letter stating why you're leaving. Good luck to you, it's a difficult situation.
2007-01-09 04:14:50 · answer #4 · answered by mom of 2 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If this is true... what a hot mess!
Also, if this is factual, you need to present your facts to the Church board and have them make a motion to have him step down from his position immediately. He (the Pastor) willl cause others who are weak in the faith to fall because of his sinful influence. He is also a dishonor to God's Holy name and the position he holds.
What he's doing and how he's misrepresenting Christians and Christianity is why some people don't want to believe in Christianity or Jesus Christ... because the examples they're being shown are sad at best and absolutely a joke at it's worst. Folk who are non Christians constantly scrutinize and watch every move Christians make even when you think they're not watching. Any occasion can be used to say "there go the hypocrites" and they would be absolutely right in this case if it's true.
To whom much is given... much is required.
How very sad.
2007-01-09 04:31:18 · answer #5 · answered by 247 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably let them be.. theres really nothing u can do about it because in the end there gonna take the advice people give them and make up there own decison so just tell her what u think "in a nice way" or u'll just drive them away from u so just be there for ur sister in law. women arent to good with decison making when there on the rebound. but then again he could be the best guy in the world for her...and if u dont care about her than dont worry about it, thats everybodys problem now days is that they worry about everybodys elses problems before there own, but that is just a guys point of view....
2007-01-09 04:14:22 · answer #6 · answered by Mr. Knox 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would have a set down talk with her and tell her you know what she is doing and that is again all laws of the church and God, and she should stop right away.. If she does not tell another adult that will help put a stop to it. she is tearing 2 families apart.
2007-01-09 04:08:52 · answer #7 · answered by nannyj37 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow there is just too much going on here. If she is dating the pastor, then obviuosly she is cheating on your brother. You need to confront her and tell if she does not confess then you will tell her brother yourself, and then you need to go to the pastor's wife. Now, you have to have proof before you go to anybody, because with out proof, they will deny everything and you will come out looking like a liar....you need to make sure you have all your ducks in a row before you bust them out on this.
2007-01-09 04:08:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
very messed up situation--change your church obviously--or let the church authorities now--anonymously, that the pastor is dating someone--get him removed from that position--then--talk to your sister and have her get counseling--You can't force her to be loyal to her husband but you can tell her you know and that you disapprove--and you defintely can do something about that faithless pastor--His negative attitude will infect the whole church and atmosphere--he needs to go!
2007-01-09 04:11:34 · answer #9 · answered by Shay 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Confront your sister and let her know how you feel towards the situation. That's all you really can do Anything else would not be in your best interest to do.
Oh yeah, and find another church.
2007-01-09 04:08:30 · answer #10 · answered by kemetic_energy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋