now a days its common to have sex before marrage amoung young girls and boys.... is it good or bad?
2007-01-09 04:00:51 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I say it is not the best thing you can do. I say this not only from a Christian standpoint, but also practical reasons, including:
-risk of pregnancy
-risk of STDs
-sex for most people carries a LOT of emotional baggage that is hard to carry from relationship to relationship
-not feeling as close to the person that you eventually marry
And just to interject my belief about why it is wrong from a Christian standpoint, I believe in what the Bible says that sex is a gift from God for two people in a marriage relationship to not only procreate, but bring them closer together and more intimate in ALL ways to help strengthen the marriage. Hope that helps. : )
2007-01-09 04:10:44 · answer #1 · answered by Melody 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
If it is your problem, then start thinking around. Otherwise concentrate on your career at this stage. It is all the more important that you may have sex. If it is before or after marriage, is the outlook of the person who cooperates with you for sex. If it comes in the way Enjoy, otherwise leave this issue. It is bound to happen in life.
2007-01-09 17:32:35 · answer #2 · answered by auditorsudhakar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It should be your own and free choice and not the wish of your family or the feeling of guilty because you have to stick to religious or traditional behaviour.
I personally think that it´s okay if you are in love with someone.
Some couples live together before getting married. I did for 1 year.
My marriage is excellent, we are married over 10 years now. It works out so well, because we know each other very well and we could find out before getting married if we will get along together well or not.
I think, that it´s nonsense to wait till after your marriage...
Why?
What for??
2007-01-09 06:13:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anita P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on your personal views about sex, marriage and life in general. Sure, you wouldn't marry someone *just* because they were good in bed. But there are a lot of reasons that by themselves wouldn't be enough to make a decision of whether or not to marry someone - it's the whole picture that counts. For some people, sex is just a smaller part of that larger picture, not a big deal or principle in and of itself. Sex is fun; exploration is fun; dating is fun. It can't be "wrong" - unless you *feel* it is; and then you should follow what feels right for you. A lot of people like to ride roller coasters; it is certainly possible to live your life and never ride one, and be happy. But does this argument show that riding the roller coaster is "wrong"? If you ride it, you may discover something new about yourself, you never know. I guess, I would argue that it's seldom about "testing the product"... But, often, it's about testing yourself, experiencing new things, and widening your horizons.
2016-05-22 22:55:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all comes down to your belief system. Do you believe it is ok to have sex before marriage then go for it, but make sure you protect yourself from disease and make sure you are old enough t o be in a committed relationship and the sex is an expression of love and not just for the sake of sex!
2007-01-09 06:14:00 · answer #5 · answered by Jimmy K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on the person. I don't agree with it but I know that stuff happens and sometimes people get caught up in the moment. I don't agree with having sex before marriage because a lot of times you can't really tell if a person loves you for you or because they eventually want sex. It's easier to tell if they really love you because they'll wait for you no matter how long.
2007-01-09 04:20:32 · answer #6 · answered by angelicasongs 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the Christian lady (above) since I am a follower of Christ and I say that young boys and girls should not have sex before marriage. For one, they are risking STDs, pregnancy, and putting themselves in adult situations in which they should not have to concern themselves with at such a young age. Half of them end up pregnant and getting abortions. I'm all for them "taking things in their own hands".
2007-01-09 05:38:17 · answer #7 · answered by Jessica 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its not that its good or bad but it is a personal decision. I think that the population has become so blase about sex that it isn't always viewed as a deep connection between 2 people.
2007-01-09 04:11:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
People that live together before marriage have a higher rate of divorce than those that don't. The same may be true of those that are sexualy active with each other. Where's the excitement?
I would always wonder how many other guys she had "excited". Maybe you prefer second hand shoes. I prefer new. This goes for guys too.
2007-01-09 04:10:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
for me, no sex before marriage, and my boyfriend respect that and he loves me more and its a great feeling at the night of our marriage. you will not loose anything if you follow this sex after marriage. if everybody goes soutn, theres nothing wrong if you alone will go north, not everybody is right sometimes. have a stand on your own and not just follow what others are doing or saying...
2007-01-09 04:07:10 · answer #10 · answered by blue violet 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋