Or neither.
2007-01-09 03:58:18 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is a trip,you actually think I'm talking about myself.lol
Man in Thailand,please be careful !
2007-01-09 04:10:24 · update #1
If he's going to cheat, it has nothing to do with agreeing to a threesome. Its just a fantasy of his and you can be a dummy and join his fantasy - he'll either keep asking for it or you'll end up a lesbo. Its ur choice if ur willing to sacrifice your beliefs for a man that may not marry you. I hope he does if you decide to do it, because you can ruin your reputation
2007-01-09 04:08:02 · answer #1 · answered by dcbossygirl 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The answer is: you should not do anything you don't want to, and he should respect that. You should never have to make that choice.
Your question suggests that nobody wants a threesome, they just do it to appease their spouse. Nothing could be farther from the truth.
Swinging, and a threesome is technically swinging, is when a married or otherwise committed couple consensually engages in sex with another couple or single. The key word here is "consensual". Not "manipulated", not "coerced".
As in everything in a relationship, coercion and manipulation to do something you don't want to always results in resentment. Sex is no different. Maybe even more-so.
Every horror story I've have heard about swinging, when it came right down to it, was because one person in the couple had been coerced or manipulated into doing it. Like you said, the "if we don't do this I'll cheat on you."
Every success story comes from couples that are on the same page about sharing and exploring their sexual fantasies.
2007-01-09 05:10:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would probably do it. To me, there's a difference between physical and emotional connections. I can be with someone physically without the emotions. I would do it for the fun. As for 2 make a baby, not 3...why have sex only to make a baby? Why can't people enjoy sex as long as it doesn't hurt anyone? If you are open to it, do it. See how he feels about inviting another man. If you can't have another man, it's not fair for him to have another woman. Nothing says he has to do anything with the man or you have to do anything with the woman. I don't agree with the ultimatum though. If he really loves you, he shouldn't have said that he would cheat on you. He should get some points for being honest and up front with you though.
2007-01-09 04:16:40 · answer #3 · answered by poppywest1223 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay--I would say a guy like this is a sleeze--he is threatening to cheat on you if you don't participate in a threesome? I would get rid of him--Things will only go downhill from here--Seriously--he does not respect you and he is basically telling you that he is going to sleep with other women either with or without your permission--if you do have a threesome with him he is probably gong to cheat on you anyway--he probably already has--This sounds harsh--but to read the writing on the wall--I would get out of this situation before you get really hurt--- & Find someone who respects you and who WANTS to be loyal to you--who thinks that loyalty and fidelity are attractive, sexy, and romantic--not someone who is flat out telling you that you are not enough--
2007-01-09 04:07:11 · answer #4 · answered by Shay 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Threesomes are okay, but it would depend on the guy as to whether or not I'd consider that an option (or feelings for each other). If I was given an ultimatum though (a threesome or he's going to cheat) I'd cut him loose in a heartbeat.
2007-01-09 04:02:24 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hi there,
Difficult question...
If he's honest enough to tell you what he needs?
Maybe take him to Thailand where I live and let him have some fun.
He'll still love you and stay with you forever. Men can easily differiencate between sex and love.
Give him some space, he'll come back to you everytime, don't worry about that.
Love and friendship is stronger than sex.
Cheers!
From a hopeless womanizer!
2007-01-09 04:05:38 · answer #6 · answered by fantapattaya 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A threesome- that's just plain sick....whoever said 3 can make a baby...2 make a baby- MAN AND WOMAN- don't need to have someone else there. ANd cheating is just ridiculous...if they cheat on you then why would they want you for anything but possessions? So I pick neither....he should love me as me and only me.
2007-01-09 04:03:11 · answer #7 · answered by none 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Threesomes are very dangerous, the other person could catch feelings, there could be fights, and not to mention that you have to be careful about ALL KINDS of diseases out there. If it were me, i think i would just prefer for him to tell me that he didn't want to be with me anymore, why should i risk my life to be happy when i can be just as content alone???
2007-01-09 04:20:13 · answer #8 · answered by harlemgyrl550 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Neither. You sound pressured and at the end of your rope if those are your choices. You shouldn't have to choose a bad road on both options. No way.
2007-01-09 04:04:09 · answer #9 · answered by Sarah 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
niether, if my man loved me he would not stray and would not pressure me to have a threesome, if I didn't want to. So it is neither for me. I can be happier alone if that is the choice that I need to make.
2007-01-09 04:03:13 · answer #10 · answered by NolaDawn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋