What if he was a great guy, you could trust him, he made you feel great, but he was totally broke. I mean, he works and everything, but he doesnt make much, and he pays half of it to child support. He was in the military, and his child support is really high, and the court wont lower it for him. He seems unwilling to look for a better paying job, and i dont want to push the issue. I have money to support myself and my 2 children, but not enough to support him too. I find myself wanting to buy him stuff, like new clothes, cause he needs them, and I stop myself, because i know I should spend my money on my kids and not him. What do you think. Should I break up with this guy? I really like him, I could see us staying together for a long time, if money wasnt such an issue.
2007-01-09 03:51:38 · 9 answers · asked by Sarah 3 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
When I met my husband he was running his own business - and not making much money. He had the basics, but not much more.
I had a good job and made good money.
When we decided that we wanted to have a life together HE saw the need to get a better job to provide for our family.
So I guess I am saying that Yes I would date a broke guy, but I would also expect him at some point to meet me halfway in trying to better our lives as a couple.
2007-01-09 03:58:49 · answer #1 · answered by Susie D 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely date a guy that doesn't have a lot of money, if he had character.
I have been married to my husband for 10 years . . .together 13. He (we) has paid child support for the entire length of our relationship. It hasn't been easy especially since we had 2 of our own children. But we are 1 1/2 years away from "emancipation" and I have never regretted one single moment of it. He is loving, generous and kind. Just a really great guy and all the money in the world can't buy that! So my answer would be definitely stay with him. People that don't have alot seem a lot more appreciative and grateful and good guys are hard to find . . . money is just money. It comes and goes and it seems there is never enough anyway. You should base your decision on how he is as a person and how he treats you and your children, not how much $ he has.
And by the way, Crabby Blindguy, not all men who pay child support are bad fathers. My husband got his divorce because his exwife was cheating on him left and right. And he would have stayed with her IN SPITE OF HER CHEATING ON HIM because of his child. She left so she could continue sleeping with other men. So he divorced her - It had nothing to with him being a bad father. Let's not make generalizations OK?
2007-01-09 12:13:49 · answer #2 · answered by Freedspirit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MOney will always be an issue for this man as the more money he makes the more the government will take.
The child support system is designed to extract as much money from fathers as it possibly can.
People do not realize just how overboard the government has gone with the child support issue.
Unless you are prepared to live with little money from this condemmed man, you need to find another man that is child support free.
2007-01-09 12:00:54 · answer #3 · answered by government slave 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here's a male perspective::
If this guy is so great, the money should not be important. A man who's broke but really is a great guy will have enough going for him so that you can be sure he'll be able to handle his responsibities.
But--sorry to throw cold water on you--this guy sounds like a complete loser. He may have a great personality--but that's true of a lot of bad risks. Bear in mind there's a reason this guy is paying child support and not raising his kid(s) himself. Better find out why--though from your post, it's pretty obvious part of the reason is he doesn't have what it takes to improve himself.
Better throw this one back and keep looking for Mr. Right.
2007-01-09 12:02:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't break up with him, but ask him if he is truly happy with his status in life (barely making it).
2007-01-09 12:00:46 · answer #5 · answered by sweetiepi44 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya cuz when he dates me he will be rich in love.And since ill have a good job we will make our money togrther
2007-01-09 12:01:35 · answer #6 · answered by jballin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No... but then again, I'm not into guys.... LOL
seriously... it should not matter
2007-01-09 11:55:38 · answer #7 · answered by DiamondDave 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
***** no. but you probably will. was he gooooooood?
2007-01-09 12:06:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes...........if i was gay.
2007-01-09 12:03:42 · answer #9 · answered by khybersaadat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋