dads have rights?

Question

why do the mothers have all the rights when i lived at home with my wife and 3 sons its me who took them to school and picked them up whille the mother was down with her horse then found out she was shagging the stable hand .
now she wont let me see my kids and i so want to took her to court and she was told to let me see them but she wont and now it means me taking her back to court at my cost yet again
the boys want to see me and call me each night but she wont let them come i dont now why shes being so nasty (my have something to do with the man she was with left her )but now i have a new girlfreind and she has 2 girls and we are a happy little family but i want my sons to be apart of that family as well but she wont let them i dont want to take them away from her but to be a father what should i do
help !!!

oh and shes stopped the divorce just because this man left her and she dont want me and my g/friend to be happy and get married

Answer 1

she using the boys to mess with you. Avoid all contact with her for a year... Then go look for her on your bike - if you know her schedule. Catch her all alone some dark night and " F " her up. Rob her and make it look like a robbery. Then do it a year later. Make sure you break the jaw of that big mouth Bch. Thats the problem nowadays - WOMAN ARE NEVER HELD TO ACCOUNTABILITY OR RESPONSIBILITY FOR THEIR ACTIONS! Not when they mess with Danny W. Oh, I'd never kill them or want them dead. But, I'll give them some physical pain and a scare they aint never gonna forget. EVER! Oh, wear a ski mask!

Answer 2

I do feel sorry for you, because you do sound very genuine.
Besides, you do say that she was the one to go astray.
Having said that, as a divorced mum, I am afraid it's difficult to take side, as I know only too well that there's always two side of a story.
What's more my ex would sound very convincing too if he wanted.
Did you find an honest answer to the question I suppose you would have asked yourself: why did your wife cheat on you?
I'm not implying that it's your fault, but it's difficult to give you help when we only know half of the story.
And from my own current experience, I do have good reasons not to let my ex husband to see my children.
Did you and do you make sure that you respect your ex new life?
That you've made proper and suitable arrangements to both of you and respect them?
Do you respect her as a person?
Obviously she has hurt you deeply and you now have someone else in your life, but do you address her properly?
After all , she's the mother of your kids, even if you have found someone you do think better of.
She musn't be made to feel that your new girl friend would be a better mum for her own children.
So, I would suggest that you try to approach again, before taking her to court.
Do write her a letter that you could keep as proof, which means that you have to address her properly; Make decent contacts proposals, and offer a genuine peace for the good of the children and also because after all, not being a couple, you're both still are the parents of those children you had TOGETHER.
If she's still not cooperating, you could try the solicitor, but again, I wouldn't advise you to threat her.
And yes, if all that fails, you do have the right to take drastic actions.
As a divorced mum,(My own choice), I think I would have prefered to keep amicable relations with my ex hus, for both our sake and that of the children.
But, it's very difficult with someone who's obnoxious, and thinks that he knows it all, and that all of a sudden, HE, His family and new girlfriend would know better for MY children.
So, try and swallow some of your pride, leave out the fact that she cheated on you, which still makes you very angry and focus on building a bridge of peace with your ex. Try to COMMUNICATE again; No insults or reproaches. What's done is done. It's where you go from there that matters.

Answer 3

I think to be honest,you are so much better off without her.I don't know what it is with ex wives but they hate it when you eventually pick yourself up and get your life back together once they have left you for another man.It would appear that she has realised what she had before she went off with the stable lad,realises now it was a mistake.Now that you are happy the only way she can get back at you is by using your children against you.What a sad woman she is.Can you apply for Legal Aid,most women get it in divorce cases.Mine did. Just a shame she cant be adult about the whole thing and realise how she's affecting the kids lives in all this.Who gains by her not letting you see them? She does in her sick way I guess.Shes just trying to spite you because her little plan fell flat on its face when the OTHER man left her....As for advice ,all I can say is be patient,dont put Mum down to the boys when you do see them.Try writing to her and explain everything,try to make her see sense,and that its only harming the boys and no one else.She is a bitter woman,but she only has herself to blame,dont feel guilty about your boys.You've tried your best,just keep trying without it getting you down.
I sincerely wish you all the best.

Answer 4

sounds like shes very angery, n shes bein very childish, but shes only got her self 2 blame the little scrubber
its the kids i feel really sorry for havin 2 go through all of this, theyl remember all this in the future. if the mum doesnt buk her ideas up the kids will choose 2 b with u, they want u n thats makin her anoyed. can u not go n meet the kids at the school gate. theyll soon c its her thats keepin them away from u.
njo matter wot just b their for them, if they want 2 c u b their, same wen they ring. record Everythin that shes doin. take her bck 2 court n prove wots been goin on, it shudnt matter how much its goin 2 cost, their ur kids n u hav every rite 2 c them.
ud b a lot better off havin them permantly than her!!
i really hope somethin works for u, for the sake of the kids
i wish u
loads n loads of luck

but pls dont give up!!!!!! however stressfull its goin 2 get

Answer 5

well i dont know much, but i dont think that you should take them away from their mum forever to live with u because that just messes people up, and i know some freinds who's parents divorced and the parents try to compete with presents and stuff to win them over! dont do that. i think you should try to convince her to let you see them at the weekend or maybe stay a night or two. but your wife just sounds mean and is using u, but if the divorce is long and bitter then the people who will be hurt most is the kids who see it everyday, good luck. u could try asking ur kids to ask her instead? :)

Answer 6

keep fighting to see your sons and don't lose contact with them because when they are old enough they will come to see you anyway regardless what their mother says...the more she goes to court the quicker the judge will get sick and then maybe threaten her with jail... as for the divorce you can set the ball rolling again you can divorce your wife for adultery and name the stable hand, if you don't want to do that tell your lawyer you want it on record the date yous split up because once 5 years have past you don't need her consent to get divorced

Answer 7

this is unbelievable, i feel really sorry for you! shes using your kids against you. i would try and get the divorce and im afraid you will have to take her to court again. you could also phone cpa and find out what else you can do to see your kids. she sounds very nasty and malicious. good luck

Answer 8

I know this is a bugger! but court is your best chance, proceed with the divorce under grounds of adultary, the court wont let you take the kids if they think shes a fit mother but they can force her to let you see your children, its in the childrens interests. hope you get to see you children, I dont agree with women who do this, they make all us women look like selfish bit ches

Answer 9

sounds like you are gonna get to know the judge on a first name basis. Mind you, if she loses the case it is her end that has to pick up the costs.....don't quote me on that. And once your kids are 16, they can go where they want(Mom or Dad)

Answer 10

go to your local solicitor and ask them if theres a mediation counsellor/service locally. ask your ex-wife is se willing to sit fown with you and a mediator to try and solve your accesss problem. this might be the way forward to solving the problem otherwise you could think of applying for custody of your children