Pros and Cons of marriage - serious?

Question

Give me your list of pros/cons of being/staying married.
Please serious answers only

Answer 1

Pros--

1- to have a fulfilling life with someone you respect and they respect you
2--The share in the joy of your children (if you have them)
3--To have a truly best friend for life
4--To be able to grow old in a comfortable way ( financially )

Cons--
1--The cons would be based on a individual basis--everyone has problems and its up to each couple to figure out what they are-and if they can fix them or not-

Answer 2

Marriage has a lot of pros and cons. A lot of up in downs. You can't live with someone in never bud heads. Marriage has a lot of pros. Your never a lone on the holidays, you never go to bed a lone, and when you feel lonely you have some one to talk too. You have some one help you clean, pay bills with or your spouse can stay home in watch YOUR children. And when you feel like having sex your spouse is there etc... Now on the con side, everything that was just mentioned can flip. That's marriage.

Answer 3

Marriage vs living together

Pros:
tax breaks

Cons:
Your money and stuff is not just yours.
You have to be accountable to the other person even if they aren't the best at being accountable to you.

As for everything else I've read from previous answers I can get all that including sex, companionship from friends. BTW, the whole "someone who puts your thoughts and feelings first" is a bunch of bull. Marriage doesn't cause that to happen the relationship you have does.

Marriage does NOT make a relationship stronger and in many cases hurts a relationship because one or both spouses think that marriage is the finish line and all the work is over at that point. Your relationship is beyond marriage. Marriage with all due respect is JUST a legal contract that unites your stuff and money with another person.

Answer 4

Pros: If it's a good marriage, you have a partner for life and never have to go through anything alone. There is one person in the world that you know puts YOU above all else. You don't have to pick up someone at a bar if you want to get laid (guy thing moreso).

Cons: In-laws. Yes, you do fight over petty things. Yes, it can get boring. Marriage is a whole hell of a lot of work.

Overall: All the hard work is worth it in the end. Good things are never easy.

Answer 5

Hi, I have only been married for a year and a half, but I will try my best. My answers are based on a good marriage, since that is fortunately what I have experienced. : )

Let's do the cons first:
-You have to consider someone else when making big life decisions.
-Lots of compromise is needed when the other person doesn't agree with you about those big decisions.
-You can no longer act on any "feelings" you might get from someone else of the opposite sex
-Having to share a bathroom : )
-Sleeping in the same bed (honestly, this has been one of the hardest things for me to get used to, he snores and tosses and turns alot!)
-You have to be accountable to the other person of where you go, how you spend your money, etc... lots different than being single.

PROS:
-Unconditional love (hopefully)
-Companionship whenever you want it
-Sex that gets better and better because you get to know what you both like
-Having someone else to bounce ideas off of
-Having someone to go through life's big trials with
-Someone who knows all your flaws and shortcomings but is committed and loves you anyway
-Someone to laugh at funny movies with
-Someone else can take over dishes duty once in a while!
-It sucks to only cook for yourself!
-The security of knowing that someone has made a public vow to be by your side in the good times and the bad.

Hope that helps! I could probably come up with more, but I should get back to work, haha. : ) But I should add that the pros and cons are different for different people, too, and depends on the state of the marriage. Best of luck to you!

Answer 6

Cons

I know there are many like not always getting what you want for dinner or getting to wacth what you want on TV but if you are truly meant to be with that person thous things don't matter.

PROS

You always have someone that will love and support you even when you mess up.

The feeling you get then you wake up to a new day and you know that your spouse is there to help you though the day.

You never have to worry about finding a date for any reason.

you have someone to take care of and someone that will take care of you if you get sick.

When you are felling down just hearing you spouse say it is going to work out makes you feel a little better.

When you go on a trip you have someone to talk to in the car or plain.

and if you are really lucky you will have some to grow old with that will love you for ever.

Then there are the little things someone to help run your home, someone who will rub your feet when you have had a long day, someone that will hold you when you cry, someone that will do the dishes after you have made dinner,

but the top thing that I love about being married is that I get to be with the man that loves me and that I love and there is nothing in the world that is better than that.

Answer 7

Pros and cons of marriage vs living together? Or vs being completely single?

If it's marriage vs simply living together:

Pros:

Easier to get on with your life as a couple; many laws are geared towards people who are legally married (tax breaks or joint medical insurance, to name a few).

Marriage is still a widely accepted form of social signalling. It is a way to clearly tell the society: "We're a couple". Arrangements that are not legal marriage tend to be socially (and for whomever believes in it, religiously) ambiguous.

Marriage can bring an "emotional closure" to a relationship; it is perceived as the highest form of committment by many, so it often brings the sense of security that simply living together does not afford.

Cons:

Well, the cons of a marriage gone bad would be the standard list of consequences that would apply to making any bad decision: emotional pain, financial troubles, social difficulties; these aren't the results of marriage, but rather of a string of bad choices made by two people.

The cons of actually *being* married as opposed being in a committed live-in relationship - I can't think of any.

Answer 8

Pro - If you find the right one you get someone who will be there for you through anything. You get someone who makes you feel completely and unconditionally loved. You get a best friend and a lover.

Con- you lose your freedom to go and do as you please. With the greatness of a marriage comes the responsiblity of that marriage. It means that you cannot do everything you want when you want you must consider your partners needs before your own. (You don't neglect yours you just give them lower priority).

Answer 9

Pro's: Family, Tax breaks, Love and companionship, Stabilty.

Con's: Boredome, No privacy, Personal goals never acheived.

Answer 10

Pros - Everlasting friendship and someone who can be equally accountable for your life.

Cons - repetition, arguments, and lack of sex.