Okay, so I used to be this really social girl. I attended all the school events, had a bunch of friends, etc. But then my family and I moved 1,000 miles away and I was home schooled for 3 years. Now I may be moving back to my old area, and I might be going back to that high school. Here's the thing, I really really really want to go back to school, but I feel like I developed some sort of anti-social thing. And I hate it! I really wish I never moved in the first place. How do I override this? I really want to go back to school, but feel like I'll freak out and be known as the weird girl.
2007-01-09 03:40:53 · 7 answers · asked by Juliana P 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Don't worry about it. You'll be fine once you get back into the routine of being in school. Just be aware that you will temporarily be physically stressed and tired by all the noise and activity you'll experience. It will take some time to adjust to bunches of people being around.
It may take a couple weeks of eating right (no heavy fats or fast food for awhile), mild exercise (walking, dancing, etc.) at least 3x a week, and getting lots of sleep to get your mind and body ready for being in public.
Also remember that you aren't weird, you simply have unique and different experiences to share with your peers. Be your smart, friendly self and people will take to you naturally, regardless of where you came from. That social girl you described is still there, she just needs to be let out again.
Take care and best of luck!
2007-01-09 03:58:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It isn't "retarded" at all.
There are things that happen to people when they're removed from "normal" living situations (and no matter how much your parents may have meant well, being separated from kids your age and a school setting isn't normal).
When people are isolated they can develop any number of emotional/psychological issues. Further, you may have been listening to nothing but your parents' opinions about what other kids your age are "out there" doing. Obviously, if they had been pleased with schools they would have made sure you got into a new one when you moved (or they wouldn't have moved to where there wasn't a good enough one).
Take it a little at a time. That's one way to get yourself back into the swing of things. Also, don't talk a lot about having been away from a school for so long. If it really comes up and you really have to say something to a very close friend (which you'll make somewhere along the way) just state simply that you were home-schooled and hated it and are glad you're done with it.
The way to separate yourself from a "weird" situation is not to take part in it and to make it known you weren't happy in it. Try, though, not to discuss it a whole lot (which would emphasize it). Just go in there, talk to a few people, and gradually you'll find things are normal-feeling.
No matter how much you want to be in school there will be issues you'll run into in your own mind because it will be an adjustment. Just try to keep them to yourself (unless they are serious enough that discussing them with the school counselor would make more sense).
Chances are the kids at school won't see you as "the weird girl". They'll more likely see you as "the girl with parents who moved and started to home-school her". There's a difference in those two images. Don't put "weird" (which is probably one way you see the situation) onto people who probably won't see it as "weird" as you do. While you weren't in school they've been going on and living their lives and doing all stuff kids who go to school do. What you were doing wasn't a giant deal for them the way it was for you.
So just go back to school, say how "weird" it was not to be in school and how you hated it and are glad to be back; and chances are everyone will move on faster than you think they will.
Don't forget that a whole school full of people won't be talking about you all at once (!), and you only have to deal with the people immedately around you at any one time. You can decide to be your own public relations person by showing the kids you're immediately around how normal you still are (and they can "get word out" to anyone else who may bring up your situation).
Don't act like a victim or an oddball or someone with "issues". Just be yourself and be cool about the reality that you weren't thrilled with your parents' idea of education for a while; but now all is back to normal.
2007-01-09 11:58:21 · answer #2 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe me, I can relate. We moved a ton of times. At least you are moving back to a familiar place. You already know some people so it will be easy to have things to do. If you feel like going out with them, go out. Sometimes if you need time alone, take it. People won't think you are weird. I am sure your old friends will be happy to see you again. Once you get back in the swing of things you will see it will be fine. Don't stress, it is way easier than moving to a completely new place. I had to for 6th grade and again in 9th. It was awful.
2007-01-09 11:51:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go in and fake like you are the most confident person on the face of the earth. Hold your head up high, stand up straight and smile.
Develop an image of "I am the sh**".
Even if you don't feel like it, if you project that image, people will begin to believe it. I have done this many times. And strange enough, it works.
Good luck!
2007-01-09 11:54:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there done that. Just try and stay calm. And remember you arent the only one that has changed in the years you have been gone. Who knows? YOu might like it better than before.
2007-01-09 11:49:28 · answer #5 · answered by themom95 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be the nice friendly person that you were and everything will fall into place.
2007-01-09 14:34:15 · answer #6 · answered by queendebadow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you dont act weird no one will think so. relax
2007-01-09 11:48:27 · answer #7 · answered by digby_by 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋