I have been married to a good man for almost 4 years. He is a fair husband, lacking in the bedroom only. 15 years ago I was also married to a good man. We split up because he wanted to live 2000 miles away from my family-at 20 I wasn't ready to do that. Our sex life was awesome. I have dreamed about it for 15 years. My dilemma is this-my ex-husband is back in the picture. I still love him but don't want to hurt my current husband-who has done nothing but suffer from incureable ED. Sex isn't everything until you're not getting any. What should I do?
2007-01-09 03:33:10 · 29 answers · asked by cadjsm 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The answer to this question is simple. You sit down with your husband and tell discuss the issue there are cures to the ED issue which work very well and it may not be the ED at all maybe you just do not enjoy sex with him even if ED wasn't an issue. I think you just miss your ex and you rushed into this marriage because you didn't want to be alone. Maybe you should have worked on your last marriage harder making it work and you would not be trying to let this one go so fast. Get help girl even if it is electric.........
2007-01-09 06:41:52 · answer #1 · answered by patriot 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-07 19:20:41 · answer #2 · answered by Darell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not make a decision simply based on wanting to be back with you ex. You First need to decide if you want to stay with your current husband. If that answer is no, without factoring in your ex in your choice. Then I would say end it with your husband. Wait until your marriage is dissolved before you go back to your ex if thats what you choose to do. Don't cheat on a man who does not deserve it.
2007-01-09 03:47:14 · answer #3 · answered by Sarah 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are things that we can live without and that is not sex. Of course as a husband and wife you have that obligation to one another...but when you married him you promise to be with each other in sickness and in health(remember that line??) so now the situation is in bad light but it doesn't mean that you can make your excuse and go with your ex. You are good if, you do with all your might to avoid your ex and take care of your husband who needs your understanding more than anyhthing else.Pray and be strong!
2007-01-09 03:44:23 · answer #4 · answered by lady N 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well It's a problem millions of men suffer form and aalso million sof women have sex problems.
I would try to get the husband to see a doctor for treatment. As a male that is what I would do if I had the problem. But he needs to see a specialist, not family doctors who have no idea of how to handle it and only hit you up for the exam fee and a subscription to viagera or soemtheing equally dangerious.
Most ed problems can be treated medically.
How ever in the extreme personally I would not do without sex if there was no other way. It's wrong for any sexually active person to do with out sex.
2007-01-09 03:39:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sex isnt' everything but if your not happy then ur husband has the right to know.. Dont go out an mess around on him behind his back.. If it was me i would sit him down an tell him just how you feel.. From what i read you have never gotten over your ex in the first place so there is something there that you can't let go of.. Please just talk to your husband.. best of luck
2007-01-09 03:39:03 · answer #6 · answered by pruittsgurl_01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm this is bad.
Sounds like you need to decide what about your current husband is worth staying for. I say this cause it sounds as though you have already decided to leave for your ex.
Decide what you wish to do and do it. But remember your husband suffering from ED doesn't stop nor should it stop you from having a healthy sexual relationship with him. The two of simply need to discuss other alternatives.
2007-01-09 03:39:04 · answer #7 · answered by rcbricker33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WoW.
I feel for you, if your not happy in your marriage now, things will only get worse. Seems to me you and your current husband have already got an distance between you. I agree Sex is not everything but a compassionate touch are. It means a lot when a man can hold you like he really means it, even if sex has not happened.
Your gonna have to choose where you would be happier. I know it wont be easy, but remember your happiness counts for something too.
Good Luck to you
2007-01-09 03:40:53 · answer #8 · answered by skynickie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even when you aren't gettting any, sex isn't everything. Figure out your priorities. If your loyalties lie with your husband, it's a no-brainer. You can't get every single thing you've ever wanted in just one person - and that's fine if you want to combine multiple people to get the "whole" that you crave. But then, the most honest and straightforward path to it is simply staying single, and being honest with your partners about your desire not to commit. Would you REALLY risk hurting the man you love? If so, why not just be honest with him and tell him you're not satisfied in your marriage, and want out? You made your choice when you married him... Stick by it, or bow out gracefully.
2007-01-09 03:44:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sometimes you have to make selfish decisions, dont you think? if your ex was a good man as good as your current husband or even more, and now he was to marry you again and it's a win-win for you, I'd say: go for it! but if your current husband is a great person and the only bad thing is the sex department, i would say, re-consider and give him a chance. hell, my man is not exactly what i want in the sex department (dont get me wrong, sex is great but not as often as I wanted) and I dont care about that too much because everything else is great and he makes me fall in love with him over and over again.
2007-01-09 03:52:01 · answer #10 · answered by chikis 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋