This day and age...?

Question

Do you think it is a good idea for parents to put their teenage daughters on the pill when they hit puberty? Do you think it is better to be safe than sorry? Or do you believe that parents can put enough control on even the unruliest teen to make them behave? Answer me as if you were regarding your own, problematic, teenage daughter.

Answer 1

I think kids need to know all about sex.

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YES kids who are going to have sex no matter what or has a boyfriend and things get hot need to have birth control and condoms. In today's world we need to protect our kids.

If a kid/teenager has sex or a boyfriend/girlfriend every 6months need a pap smear and blood work. They need to get regular check ups for STDS.

Answer 2

I don't think it's a great idea. But if the girl is having sex then maybe so. The major problem here is that pills don't stop STD's. I'd rather my daughter have a baby than HIV. Anytime! You can't 'make' a teenager behave, those skills should have been taught as the child was growing up. If you teach your child right from wrong all their lives then you shouldn't have to worry. I would not put my child on the pill just because she got her period. It's almost like saying "Okay, you got your period now you're an adult..here take these pills! Go have sex!!!" The best protection is being there for the teenager. Condoms are a distant second. I don't understand why parents think that pills protect against STD's. THEY DON'T!

Answer 3

I'm only 17 and my parents never came at me for getting on the pill and I was glad for that. I don't think parents should force it on them, I don't think it's very good to have 12-13 year old kids starting the pill when there starting puberty and putting all sorts of hormones in there system and messing it all up.

I am on the pill though, but I'm glad it was my decision and at my own time. And when I have my own children I'll most likely do the same as my mom if it's still going about the same way. I don't think you need to control your teens, but to trust and have an open relationship with them. And that is what I have with my mom, she knows a lot about me she probably doesn't even want to know because i'm her "baby" but i'm atleast telling her everything.

Answer 4

If my mom had put me on the pill, I would have been MAD.

That shows alot of distrust in your child. Condoms are better then the pill anyway. Condoms work more and they help prevent stds.

Putting a girl on the pill before she approaches about it, or forcing her to be on it because of sex issues is just wrong. I think the only time a parent should get their daughter on the pill is if she is having trouble with periods being very unroutine.

And remember, there is no way to MAKE her take the pill.
She could flush it. Throw it away. Give it to a friend who needs it whose mom won't get it.
Even if you see her take it, it could be hidden in the mouth or thrown back up. (Which I would do, because I really don't think anything that messes with hormones is safe.)
And, literally forcing her to take it is illegal.

Answer 5

I do not have a teenage daughter, but I was one & a not so well behaved one. Honestly, you can be super strict or their best friend (either one I don't reccomend) But they are going to do what they want. Sit and talk with her as her friend & loving mother about sex, birth control, pregnancy & don't be affraid to go into detail (just not your own personal detail), then let her ask any question, & don't get mad or angry. Answer her to the best of your ability. And if you can't answer her question take her to a doctor. Set rules & limits and very clear consiquences for her actions, even just lying about something. Be consistant, firm & loving! I wouldn't put her on birth control, unless there is a medical reason & even then I would weigh the options heavily.
My mom told me I couldn't use Tampons when I hit pubrty becuase she said, "I want you to be afraid to stick things in there!" (Quote) I love my mom, but I would never want my daughters to be affraid of their body. Someday that part of her body will be very important to her & we as mothers need to teach our children to care for and respect all parts of our body! Hope this helps, good luck!

Answer 6

Well I don't have kids yet but I know my daughter won't dare do anything against Islam and grow up to be a respected Muslim wife. But since non Muslim girls always seem to go out and get pregnant (whether on purpose or accident) then the parents should be there to enforce rules and if they are not than the daughters should be put on birth control. In my opinion a daughter who doesn't have her mother to look after her 24/7 minus school time is mostly to blame for her daughter's actions.

Answer 7

I think it's probably better to have open dialog with her so she feels free to talk with you about sexual issues. If you don't feel she'll be comfortable with this, maybe you could take her to Planned Parenthood for a discussion from a neutral party. They can explain to her the pros and cons of being sexually active and explain about the different types of birth control.

I tell my kids that they can have sex as soon as they're ready to be a parents, but that their child will be their responsiblity and my job is to make sure they take care of their responsibilities. You think cleaning out the cat box in a pain?

I've had them speak with teen parents, borrowed a "Baby Think it Over" doll (that simulates what it's like to be a parent to a fussy baby) and taken them to Planned Parenthood (did that when they started showing an interest in dating).

I would reallly encourage her to use condoms rather than pills, if she is going to have sex - to reduce the chance of disease. HPV is very common and can lead to cervical cancer. Then there's herpes and HIV and...

Answer 8

School Days

Answer 9

my daughters are only 2, but i've been putting a lot of thought into this. i was a bit of a wild teenager myself, and i'm quite aware of the lengths teenagers go to to "have a good time". i plan on talking with them about sex openly, and educating them on safe sex practices. and yes, i will put them on birth control as teenagers, and i will keep them on it until they have finished school. i had to drop out of college because of an unplanned pregnancy, and i don't want my daughters to have to put their ambitions on the backburner and struggle to support a family like i did. as far as controlling unruly teenagers go, there's only so much that parents can do, the rest is up to the teenager's free will to decide what's right for them. a huge part of growing up is making your own mistakes and learning from them.

Answer 10

I wouldn't do it automatically, and certainly not at puberty- too early, and one size never fits all. Like many of the other answerers said, communication is a must, and ideally, if your daughter is ready to have sex, she'll come talk to you. And the pill, while it prevents pregnancy, does not prevent STD's, so it parent's are taking "preventative" measures, condoms would be better the bc pills because they prevent babies AND disease.

Answer 11

I was afraid to put my child on BC when she hit puberty because I was afraid of the hormones (she was only 10 at the time), and I feel I am a very strict parent. But one time last year 14 yo then) she was at a girlfriend's sleep over and her older brother invited a friend over, needless to say I got a call early the next morning. Yup you guessed it, unprotected and everything. Luckily everything was fine but I learned that I would not want to risk that again. I would say that once she started showing interest in the opposite sex then it is time to bring her to the Dr's.