myboyfriend doesn't want to finish inside me( Why)he says he doesn't want a baby right now he just wants us to be having a good time going out of town like we usually do but i haven't told him i would like to become pregnant what should i do....
2007-01-09 02:55:07 · 18 answers · asked by KATELLYN h 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Well, he told you he doesn't want a baby right now. You know he wouldn't be ready if you got pregnant. You want to make sure he wont be scared off, or think you were dishonest( telling him you are taking the pill and get preg. and knowing his feeling and getting pregnant.) A baby is a lot of responsibility. It costs alot of money! Do you have insurance for the birth? If you have a job, will you send the baby to daycare? Diapers, formula( or breast pump and bottles) clothes!( babies grow sooooo fast!) Even if he doesn't "finish" in you, the precum has semen as well. You still could get pregnant. You can talk to him, say I have been thinking that I want a baby. You can see his reaction. You do not want to get pregnant without him wanting it. It could make him resent the baby and you.
2007-01-09 03:07:45 · answer #1 · answered by Brandy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first I think you need to get more serious with him why do you want to get preg. with a B/F ? why not wait till BOTH of you are married or at least engaged!! I will tell you if you push this he will resent you forever and you will have a 80% failure rate for you two to work. I would put it out there and you two need to have a serious talk and decide if you need to wait around or find another. Please do not force this I have seen it happen to many times and it ends in you being stuck with the child and him and you not working out then you will realize you might should have waited till BOTH of you are ready. ( if you really want a baby do what is right for the child get married first)
Ps. how long have you been tog?
PSS> I will tell you I am not trying to be mean or old fashion I am 20 with a baby and I will tell you, I am married now ( not when the baby was conceived) and it is hard enough to now much less if you are not married.
2007-01-09 11:06:41 · answer #2 · answered by mommy of 2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say that your ready to have a baby, but you should know the consequences to having a baby. If your young, you should wait and enjoy your child hood, teen age years and early twenties. A baby is a lot of hard work, and for your boy friend to say he doesn't want a baby right now, it is a major alert to be on the look out of any signs of him pulling away, because once you have it, and find out that he doesn't want it, then stand by for more struggles, cause chances are he's not going to want to stay. but i advise you to sit down with him and talk about the situation, and if he still doesn't have any interest in having a child, you should wait until he's ready. Remember, men are somewhat like women, they don't like being rushed into things that they don't want to do, especially having a baby.
2007-01-09 11:09:38 · answer #3 · answered by forever T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he already told you what he thought of having a baby, he isn't ready.
If you are ready for a baby and He isn't ready, you might need to re-think your relationship with him. He might be a great guy. There are lots of great guys out there...but I wouldn't want them to be the fathers of my child. But you NEED to talk to him, and find out when he will be ready.
If i were you, I would wait until marriage to have a baby. Just so you know he is going to stay in the relationship and help you with bills. I am 13 weeks pregnant, and i didn't realize how much things really cost. They say for the first year, you will spend about $6,500.00. WOW!!!
Just from personal experience, guys who just want to have "have a good time" and "do things they normal do" don't really want to comment to a serious relationship. BE CAREFUL...there are a LOT of jerks!!! :)
2007-01-09 11:18:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant force him to be a daddy, and if you intentionally get pregnant to trap him you may not like the result. Who knows you may not wind up with him for the long term. Enjoy and nurture your relationship, kids are expensive and a big responsibility. Dont press the issue you may scare him off. I remember when thats all I wanted now I have 3 kids and no free time. You can always wait until you both can settle down and plan properly. But by all means dont get pregnant on purpose to force the issue, he may resent you or run and you are stuck holding the bag.
2007-01-09 11:05:44 · answer #5 · answered by dcforensics51 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you need to be honest with him about ALL of this... Also I must say if you two can't commit to each other first (marriage), how do you expect to be committed to a third person (baby)? Be very honest with him. He will resent you if you don't respect him & his decision... If he is not ready for children maybe he is not the right guy for you! Unfortunatly. Sit down & have a heart to heart with your guy, if he can't or wont he may not be the kind of guy you want for a father anyway! Realize that babies take more than they give(at least for a while)! Just be prepared...
PS The pull out method is NOT a birth control method...
2007-01-09 12:24:00 · answer #6 · answered by Boppysgirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old r u? I had my son when I was 17 and I'm still with my boyfriend I wish we had waited until we both had finished school (college) and waited until we were married it would have made things alot easier I love my son and I'm so happy that I have him but I wish we did things the other way around school marriage and then baby .. Babies are HARD work just me I'm a teen mom with a very active little boy! good luck
2007-01-09 11:06:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey, if he's not ready then its not fair. Trust me when I say this, you will not be happy if you go ahead and try to accomplish this withought his blessing. You need both people involved to be the best possible parents. Take on a babysitting job or volunteer at your local hospital with infants to fufill your baby fix until you are both ready. If that doesnt come soon enough for you than maybe you need to move on, but its not fair to anyone involved to do this withought his blessing.
2007-01-09 11:03:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, it takes two people to make a child. So it should be the decision of both parties, as to weather to have a child or not. You may be ready, obviously he is not. In my opinion, children raised in a loving home by both parents is easier on the child in the long run, also it will be easier on you. Raising children is not as easy as it seems. One day when you are both ready, or you find someone who is, your child will be a blessing.
2007-01-09 11:04:16 · answer #9 · answered by Donna D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Accept his feelings. But you sound a little young to want a baby. If you think getting pregnant will make your boyfriend more committed to you, think again. He'll run fast in the other direction. Don't do that to yourself, to him, or to a future child who will deserve better.
2007-01-09 11:01:19 · answer #10 · answered by Mrs. Strain 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋