Why would single womenwant to get involved in affair?

Question

Why are so many single women open to affairs with married men and a lot of th time even pursuing the married man? And whe they finally figure out they are nothing but a piece of A S S , they do everything in their power to make life miserable for the mans spouse. How can women be so spiteful and disrespectful of other women? Dontblast me with women cheat too, I know, the question could go either way. I also know the man is the one that was married and disrespected his wife, but MY QUESTION is how can you the tramp purposely try to make life even worse for the married woman. Dont they think its bad enough that they just found out their husband was ufaithful?

OK MAYBE EVERYONE IS NOT READINGMY QUESTION IN ITS ENTIRETY! I KNOW THE HUSBAND IS TO BLAME, I AM NOT ARGUING THAT, I JUST WANT TO KNOW WHAT GOES THROUGH WOMENS MINDS WHEN THEY KNOW THEY ARE INVOLVED WITH A MARRIED MAN. WHAT DO THEY EXPECT? CAN THEY HONETLY 'BELIVE' WHAT AN UFAITHFUL SPOUSE COULD POSSIBLY TELL THEM? THEY KNOW ITS WRONG, BUT WHEN ITS OVER, WHY DO THEYFEEL THE NEED TO ADD TO THE WIFES HURT, PAIN, ANGER, RESENTMENT...DONT THEY KNOW AFTER SHE KICKS HER HUSBANDS ***... SHE GONNA KICK HERS??

Answer 1

Well, I'm not the tramp, but I can venture to guess what women who get involved with a married man are thinking. Some of this is "subconscious", mind you, and I'm not necessarily calling them tramps or bad people, because everyone, no matter how "goody-two-shoes" they are, can make mistakes. And most everyone wants to be with someone. So, here's my uneducated guess on why women might get involved with a married man;

1. Initially, they like the "thrill" of getting away with something, just like the man does. It's new and exciting, and the thought of "winning" him is an added part to the thrill.
2. They want a relationship, and they don't necessarily care in what form or fashion.
3. He's already proven that he's up for marriage, and possibly kids.
4. Usually the guy is established with a career, etc. Therefore, "stable", and in her mind the perfect guy to settle down with.

No matter what kind of arrangement you had with her in the beginning, it is not going to be pretty when all her hopes come crashing down with the realization that she truly was just a piece of a$$. I have to tell you, no matter what a woman says to you, in the end, she does not want to be just a piece of a$$. When the sh*t hits the fan, she is going to be extremely hurt and ashamed that she ever put herself in this position, and she will blame you. She will take this out on whatever is going to hurt YOU the most, therefore it will be your wife and/or kids. It sucks, and it's not fair to anyone. It appears to be an ugly mess that isn't worth it.

Answer 2

For one thing, there is a shortage of available men, and some single women are willing to share a man rather than have none at all. Other singles see it as a fight to the end. Whichever woman is able to hold on to the man is the one who wins. These are vicious females who will do whatever it takes to destroy the marriage.

Another reason is that some women don't want the responsibilities of marriage. They are content with a man who comes around occasionally and satisfies the need. These are usually mature single women who have no interest in hurting the marriage. In fact, some of these relationships last as long as the marriage does. It can be the best of two worlds for the man. Furthermore, a married man who has an outside lover doesn't go through so many changes at home, which means there's less stress in the marriage.

Some men are naive, in that they aren't very selective about their conquests. What they intended as a few stolen hours turns out to be a nightmare. When this happens, the wife has to decide if her husband is worth fighting for. It's much easier to blame the "tramp" for stepping on your turf, but the truth is that it's your husband's fault for stepping out on you.

Answer 3

Do you have about 10 years! There are many reasons for situations like this and without exact and total details of all sides it is really hard to come up with just one answer that would help you understand and I certainly am not going to ask you to share that information on here.

In some situations the woman doesn't even know the man is married, the man acts and speaks as if he really wants to have a long lasting relationship with the woman. When the crap hits the fan each person has to deal with the pain and believe me there is pain on all side of the triangle in the best way they can. Some women don't want to let go of what they believed they had with this man and they won't step aside for the other woman.

Now there are some women who are just down right low and a woman scorned is one not to be messed with.

There is no "one" answer to your question. Just try to understand that you aren't the only one feeling pain and there was more than one person at fault here. You just have to pull it all together, decide where your marriage is and leave all the rest of it were it belongs "in the crap pile". I hope this has helped just a little and I truely can feel your pain as I have been cheating on myself.

Answer 4

I understand how you feel, however, it takes 2 to make an affair. Some women purposely go after married men, this everyone knows. But a married man can only be caught by a woman other than his spouse if he wants to, so some of the blame must be placed on him.

Answer 5

They women involved in affairs usually don't or even can't think beyond their own needs and wants and do think about what the consequences of their actions are and that anyone else might possibly be hurt (or sometimes even care, because they are a phantom in the woman's eyes because she has never met or seen the wife).

Sad to say but true, there are some women that actually seek out married men because in their warped minds, they at least know (or think) they know who the man is "cheating" on her with or do not want a real relationship, only a booty call to salve their wounded egos temporarily that a man "cares" about them because he actually pay attention to them.

Answer 6

they could be down on themselves and see taking a married man as an accomplishment. for those that get involved in the affair and then tell the wife and make her life miserable it could be because this woman is desperate. she loves this man for whatever reason and has to hurt someone and that someone is the wife. now if the woman gets involved with the married man and doesnt hurt the wife then she probably got involved for the safe factor. hes clean b/c hes married he isnt going to leave his wife so she wont have to move in or be asked for a commitment of any sort.... the lists of both could go on

Answer 7

It really is up to the married man to say no if she pursued him. I've seen many married men posting ads looking for women that would be willing to have an affair with them. I personally would never do it - I just want you to understand that perhaps the man went looking for it and found someone that was not willing to just let it go with sex when she started to care for him. It's not right - but I'm sure it happens. If you've got trouble with your marriage perhaps you should consider why he went looking for someone else.

Answer 8

I don't believe that the single woman is trying to make life worse for the married woman. Making that life worse is just a by-product of the single woman's self-centered behavior. You are assigning an evil motive where there is none. All the single woman wants is the satisfaction that the relationship with the married man gives her; very little else is a consideration.

Answer 9

People are selfish by nature, especially women.
I really believe you should stop be angry about that because everything here for some reason and do not waste your time to judge who is bad and who is worst. The more you dwell on that the more miserable life you make for yourself.
Instead, try to build your own happiness inside of yourself, so no any woman can ever take it from you

Answer 10

People tend to like what they can't have. Ever felt like you miss and treasure something after its gone, its almost the same feeling. The nicer ones leave it at that and resign to fate. The nasty ones are just looking to make it happen. It may be the excitement doing deeds in secret, it may be the sex, it may be just that married men have more appeal. Its the same question as asking if there are good people and bad people, cause there are just two sides to everything.