1. Is it necessary to always accept an apology?
2. I want to pass up an apology (dont ask why), how do I do it without breaking my friendship n sounding snobbish.
2007-01-09 02:19:37 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
No, you do not have to except every apology. But, if you want to remain friends with the person apologizing, I suggest you do.
Apologies which start, "I'm sorry but...." are not apologies but justifications or arguments. I don't except those.
However, if you think you can get away with it, tell the apologize that you have serious questions as to whether s/he is truly sorry for whatever but that you do not want to lose the friendship you share and which is so important to you. Perhaps having a discussion as to why the need for an apology arose in the first place will lead to a better understanding of each other and deepen your relationship.
Be generous. Someday you will be the one doing the apologizing.
2007-01-09 02:30:20 · answer #1 · answered by txkathidy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is not always necessary to accept an apology, even just to 'keep the peace'. You can keep the friendship alive if the the other party is mature enough to 'agree to disagree' with you and go on from there. Each of us has our own opinion, or we see facts in our unique ways. "No Harm, No Foul" is a simple way to live with friends and prevent same from turning into enemies. And it is often enough easier to forgive and forget, but no one ever needs to accept an apology.
Have a great and wondrous day!
Peace!
2007-01-09 02:33:36 · answer #2 · answered by The Mystic One 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell someone the truth. Tell them why you are mad at them. Tell them why you can't forgive them. Tell them what they need to do for this to happen. Don't play games with people but make sure that they know where you stand. I suspect that someone has done something that has hurt you a lot more than you want to admit. If you cannot forgive them, you should maybe try, but you could be perfectly right in saying that "You hurt me and i don't know if I can trust you not to do it again". Sometimes these things take time. Forgiveness is not about vain words but changing bad things. When someone says sorry, it is not a formality. They have to do better NEXT time. If they don't then it's just vain words.
2007-01-09 02:28:54 · answer #3 · answered by great gig in the sky 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would never reject an apology; rather, I'd say something like, "Thank you, your apology is accepted, but I'm going to need some time to get over this." To reject an apology makes you sound immature. To accept it is graceful, but by accepting an apology it still doesn't mean you think what they did was ok.
2007-01-09 02:24:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
"I cannot accept your apology at this time." then walk away
2007-01-09 02:26:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like much of a reciprocal friendship to me ! !
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2007-01-09 02:24:39 · answer #6 · answered by Maewest 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When you find out let me know.
2007-01-09 02:24:25 · answer #7 · answered by Step 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what the hell? oh 2 points for me anyway
2007-01-09 02:23:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋