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2007-01-09 02:15:27 · 10 answers · asked by John Q 2 in Social Science Psychology

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Family problems
Lack of attention
Lack of love and concern from parents
No sense of belongingness
No self confidence
Lack of support and encouragement from family and friends
Financial Instability / poverty
Stress
Physical and verbal abuse
Lack of discipline

2007-01-09 02:25:28 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 1 0

Its a dificult one to answer. All kids react in different ways to different things. It could be a reaction to their diet i.e. too many E numbers, colouring, flavouring etc. It could be medical such as ADHA, in turn it could be medication.

It could also be that the child's behaviour is a rebound from their parents behaviour. An example would be; If I was too scream, shout and swear at my child all the time, show no love or care, no praise, no treats; my child would, in turn, behave badly i.e. not eat meals, swear at me and others, shout all the time and generally be bad to get attention from me.

There are so many examples so I hope my answer has helped a little. Good luck withthe project

2007-01-09 02:31:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

First and foremost lousy parenting skills. Parents who want to ' be friends' with their children rather than their parents. Kids can choose their own friends, but they 're stuck with their parents so be a parent.

Some kids may have inheirited tendencies like fetal alcohol syndrome which due to mental impairment and emotional impairment may make them behave badly.

However not all disabled children are ill behaved, especially if their parents or guardians have raised them well and taught them manners and civility. Saying you can't discipline a disabled child because they don't understand is bs, disabled children are members of the community like anyone else and have to live to certain standards of behaviour just like anyone else and pay the appropriate consequences.

2007-01-09 02:25:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

there's a reason for his habit. whilst did it initiate? Is he modeling something he has considered interior or outdoors the abode? have you ever been consistent with him interior the component of self-discipline or are you double minded? you're able to be able to ought to bypass to kin counseling. there is yet another threat - he could choose medicine if there is an imbalance in his device. Counseling could furnish help to get to the inspiration of the concern and get the help he desires (must be ADHD). each and every so often infants who're good-willed will try you to work out what they are in a position to flee with and how a approaches they are in a position to push you. that's a power conflict. on your case you could't arise with the money for to wimp out because of the fact he's familiar with which you're feeling undesirable or think of you're being terrible to him once you're purely being a ascertain. At his age, you're no longer meant to be his chum; you are the authority determine in his existence and he has to check from you that he can't have his way if he's being advise or disrespectful. you ought to keep repeating business enterprise habit or keep denying him what he needs once you're coaching him a thank you to admire you as his mothers and dads and others. whilst he's polite and obedient, compliment him. show respectful habit around him and make him pay interest to the final suited way of doing issues. in case you could, watch great Nanny. Jo is impressive in coaching households a thank you to handle concern infants. oftentimes, the new child will settle for the form or order of the enjoyed ones as quickly because it is in place and that they understand they can't escape with something. finally, in case you have faith in prayer, ask God what the concern is and the thank you to enhance him. additionally, ask your son why he does those issues. Ask him why he hits, ask him how he feels and if he's hurting. Get as many solutions as you could. something is raging on the interior and he desires help.

2016-10-06 21:35:42 · answer #4 · answered by lavinia 4 · 0 0

They possibly get no attention, so by causing trouble they are getting attention.

Or, some parents spoil theirs kids, so the children expect to recieve evrything and not be told what to do.

Or, bad parenting, like letting themn do what they want, without any punishment.

2007-01-09 02:25:41 · answer #5 · answered by miss Kapitan 5 · 0 0

hi school was not good children studying in was not having respect for there elder member of there society not good many more r there

2007-01-09 02:26:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

he parents, not being involved in their lives, and letting [ young ones] get away with anything. basically, lack of discipline

2007-01-09 02:22:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

not teating as them as child.parents should traet them as friend and giving them knowledge abt such thing so that they can decide what is wrong and bad.

2007-01-09 02:26:03 · answer #8 · answered by ruwanda 1 · 0 0

friends, sister/brothers

2007-01-09 02:20:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Children misbehave for many reasons. Once you understand why they misbehave, it is easier to know what to do about it. Ask yourself, "Why are they acting this way? What are they trying to gain by misbehaving?"

Children Misbehave When They Don't Feel Well
Children Need Good Health

Children need plenty of sleep and rest, healthy foods, exercise, and fresh air every day. When they don't get them, they don't feel well. When they don't feel well, they are hard to get along with, just as you and I are.

A tired child is a cranky child.
A hungry child is an irritable child.
A sleepy child is a fussy child.
A sick child is a cross child.
An inactive child is a grouchy child.
A healthy child is ready to learn the behavior you expect of him.

Children Misbehave Because They Lack Knowledge and Experience. Children Need Time to Grow and Learn

A wise man once said, "Accept the childishness of children." Children are not little adults. They make mistakes in behavior just as they make mistakes in learning to count or in making a cake. Mistakes and misbehavior are normal childhood experiences, a part of growing up.

Children lack the experience and knowledge which adults have. Mother may say, "You know better than that," when Troy picks all her flowers. But two-year-old Troy does not know better than that. Many acts that parents call "bad" are simply mistakes and call for explanations. We need to be patient, to realize how much children have to learn.

Children Need to Feel Accepted When a child knows that you accept him just as he is, it is possible for him to grow, change, and behave in an acceptable way. A child who feels accepted is likely to accept discipline, but a child who feels rejected is likely to misbehave and to resent his parents.

Remember! You can accept a child as a loved and valued person without necessarily accepting his behavior. For example, you can accept Terry as a loved child, but you do not accept his behavior when he wipes his muddy hands on the wall. Terry needs to know that he is accepted no matter what he does. It is his action that is disliked.

Children feel accepted when parents take time to listen to their thoughts and feelings. They feel accepted when they are not compared with another child in the family or neighborhood. Being accepted as a worthy human being and an important member of the family gives children feelings of belonging. They are more likely to behave well when they feel accepted.

Which one of the answers will help children behave better and also help them feel that they are able, worthwhile persons?

This Is What Happened: Would You Say This?
John broke a glass when he was drying the dishes. "Don,t be so clumsy!"

or

Wet glasses are slippery. Next time hold the glass
this way."

Four-year-old Robin wet her pants and started to cry. "You're a bad girl. You're too big to do that."

or

"Sometimes we forget to go to the bathroom. You can
go change."

Children Misbehave When They Feel Upset. Children Need Security

Children are upset by change. When there is a new baby in the family, or a parent is sick, or the family moves to a new neighborhood, children may misbehave. They feel insecure when routines are upset and they need to be reassured at such times.

Children need attention and the security it brings. Give your child extra attention when he needs it - and you will find that there are fewer times when he seeks attention by misbehaving.

Children Misbehave When They Feel Discouraged. Children Need Encouragement, Approval, and Kind Words

Sometimes parents forget to let children know that they approve of what the children are doing. When a child gets approval for what he does, it makes him feel good and he will be likely to do it again to get another "good feeling."

A child who does not get approval and encouragement may think the only way to get attention is to misbehave. He may misbehave because he feels discouraged.

To prevent misbehavior, be generous with your encouragement. Thank Ryan for taking out the garbage, comment on the fact that he hung his coat up, and tell him you appreciate the good job he did of putting away his toys.

Caution: Praise

Approval and praise must be honest. Children know when they have not done a good job. Also, praise and disapproval should be specific and target the task, not the child. For example, say "You did a good job of picking up your toys," instead of "You're a good boy," or "My goodness! You buttoned your sweater all by yourself," instead of, "Goodness sake! You're such a smart girl!"

When what the child does, such as picking up toys or buttoning sweaters, is praised, the child feels like a capable person. He gains self-esteem.

Here are some ways to show approval:

"Thank you for helping me wash the dishes."
"Great! You remembered to hang up your coat."
"You really are doing better. Keep up the good work."
"That really makes me feel good."
Kind words help children to behave well, but scolding makes them resentful and sullen. Try saying, "Toys belong in the toy box," instead of "Get those things picked up right now!"

Children react to kind words and scolding words in the same way as adults. How would you feel if your husband said, "Get those dishes washed right now!" Wouldn't you rather hear, "Let's clean up together and then go for a walk"?

Sometimes it helps to listen to other parents talk to their children. Do they sound as if they love their child? Ask yourself, "Would a stranger know that I love my child by the things I say and the words I use?" Children react to approval, encouragement, and kind words the way a flower reacts to the sun. they turn toward the source with warmth and they blossom.


Situation Belittling Helpful :
Peter spills the garbage he's emptying. "Can't you ever do anything right?"

or

"That's a hard job. I carry it this way so it won't spill.

Johnny cries in frustration. "If you had listened to me, that
wouldn't have happened." "When I get frustrated, I start
over and go slowly."

Tommy cries because he can't get a wagon wheel on his bike. "I told you it wouldn't work." "Let's see if you can figure it out."

Children Misbehave When They Lack Confidence.Children Need Feelings of Confidence

A child needs to think that he is able to do things, that he's a capable person. A child who is confident of his abilities is willing to try new things. He will approach school and other situations with confidence.

Some misbehavior is caused by feelings of inadequacy. A child who thinks, "I can't do anything," may cover up this lack of confidence by bragging, boasting, or fighting.

If parents see a child as being capable, he will usually see himself as being capable. Encouraging words give children feelings of confidence, but 'putdowns' make them feel worthless.

Children Misbehave When They Feel Unloved. Effective discipline is based on a loving relationship. Children want to please the people they love. Without a loving relationship, they have no reason to want to learn to behave in an acceptable way - except to avoid punishment.

A child may misbehave if he feels unloved. It is not enough that a parent love the child; it is necessary that the child know he is loved. Parents need to give children signs of love they can understand, like "warm fuzzies."

"Warm fuzzies" are pats, hugs, smiles, and kind words - whatever makes a child feel good and shows that you love him. If a child feels loved, he is more likely to behave well and be a delight to have around. If a child doesn't feel loved, he thinks, "I'm no good; nobody loves me; I can't do anything right." And that is the way he behaves.

Children Need Love

You love your child, but does he know it?

Love is not love unless you show it.

Why Children Misbehave? To discipline effectively, think about these ideas:

1. There is usually a reason for children's misbehavior. We can deal with misbehavior better if we try to understand what is causing it.

2. If children misbehave for health reasons - fatigue, lack of vigorous physical activity, poor diet - try changing their routine so that they develop good health habits.

3. If we expect children to behave like adults, we are doomed to disappointment. Love them like they are, noisy, dirty hands and all. Realize that they are children for a very short time.

4. If your child's misbehavior results from a lack of confidence, examine how often you are using encouraging words rather than "put-downs."

5. Separate the behavior from the child. Let the child know that he is accepted even when his behavior is not acceptable

6. Children need extra security when they are upset by change.

7. Children react to encouragement, approval, and kind words just as adults do. They will keep up behavior which brings kind words.

8. Children who feel loved will want to act the way their parents expect them to act.

2007-01-09 02:29:34 · answer #10 · answered by kizkat 4 · 0 0

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