i am iranian married woman and have 3 kids..i dont love my husband but he does,now on net i have found my love ,if divorce my husband will get hurt much, what to do and also what abt kids ..., i cant forget my desire for my always missing love ...should i sacrify my wishes?
2007-01-09 02:13:09 · 10 answers · asked by Dream 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well this is probably the hardest decision you will ever make its hard being in a marriage when you don't love your husband. I guess if you have exhausted everything you can do to save your marriage then Ive got to say go for it.Your children should be able to adjust depending on there ages. GOOD LUCK!
2007-01-09 02:50:12 · answer #1 · answered by hover 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am uncertain about Iranian laws and customs. Also, are you living in Iran? Do you have a trusted family member that you can ask this question of?
I know from experience that divorce is always painful. And it's complicated when there are children involved. Do you have access to marriage counseling?
The other posters are right, you only have one life and deserve to be happy. But you have children and should take their needs into consideration before doing anything (unless your husband is abusive and violent, then I would tell you to take the children and leave immediately).
2007-01-09 10:18:17 · answer #2 · answered by kja63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be happy, and just explain to your children that you and daddy aren't happy, but you will always love them no matter what. Prepare for a custody battle in court though. You need to prove that you will be able to provide for your children without your husband if he tries to take the kids from you. Also, be careful of finding ppl on the Internet-sometimes you find out that the person you thought you know was just an Internet scam. You need to make sure your kids are safe and well taken care of.
2007-01-09 10:19:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a husband that loves you and 3 children from him.
Stop living in dream land and get back into the real world.
Youre too wrapped up in this "new love" who sounds perfect now but will he love you like your husband?
Can you rely afford to destry 4 lives for your silly mid life crisis.
If your husband wasnt nice to you then i would understand, but at the moment you sound ungrateful for what you have.
I hope you see sense.
2007-01-09 10:19:22 · answer #4 · answered by Flower Power 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not happy, change things.
Think things through first though.
If you truely believe you will never love your husband, end it. You must talk to your husband and children.
2007-01-09 10:32:58 · answer #5 · answered by eeiryrapmetal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont mean to disrespect your culture, but if he forces you to wear those face masks,divorce him. After three kids the love is lost anyway. Are your kids grown up? Or Old enough? If they are, then more incentive to leave. enjoy yourself, you earned it. ( i think?)
2007-01-09 10:18:16 · answer #6 · answered by tweakk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you didn't have kids, I'd say yes, go follow your heart. But you are a mother and you have to put your kids first. Do what is best for them.
2007-01-09 10:17:49 · answer #7 · answered by auskan2002 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
boro think about your kids, forget about your wishes it your kids turn to be happy, love is just lust nothing else
2007-01-09 10:30:49 · answer #8 · answered by maya 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have ONE life to live... you gotta be happy!!!!
2007-01-09 10:18:18 · answer #9 · answered by Heather R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
life is short- be happy
2007-01-09 10:16:17 · answer #10 · answered by hiding1959 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋