1. Is it necessary to always accept an apology?
2. I want to pass up an apology (dont ask why), how do I do it without breaking my friendship n sounding snobbish.
2007-01-09 02:11:58 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
No, you are never obligated to accept ANYTHING someone may offer.
I would say something like, "I appreciate your apology. While it may take me some time to consider my exact thoughts on the matter I certainly appreciate the sentiment."
Peace.
2007-01-09 02:29:35 · answer #1 · answered by -Tequila17 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. It is not necessary to always accept an apology especially if the apology is not truthful and the damage that had been done to you is so bad that you just wish you never met that person. Sometimes, we must close our door to people who do not deserve to be forgiven. They need to learn from their mistakes so that they will not do it again.
2. Whether or not you forgive this person, the damage will always be there. Everytime he/she commits a mistake the memories will come flashing back straight to you. Why do you want to keep this person as your friend if you do not want to forgive him/her anymore?
Anyways, there are two ways how you can reject his/her apology. First: do it straight. Tell this person that you do not accept his apology because what he/she did had a tremendous effect on you. But still you want to keep this person as a friend. Second: say "ok" and walk away. In this way, your "friend" would feel that you are not accepting his/her apology, The problem with this is that he/she'll keep bugging you saying "I'm sorry" everytime you see each other.
Whatever way you do it, the turn out of this conflict is: Your friendship will never be the same again! Probably you'd never hang out with each other unlike before or when you'd feel uncomfortable with him/her.
The problem is, you don't want to break your friendship but you want to reject the apology. How could that be? Maybe you are in a dilemma if you still would to keep this person as a friend because it's a manifestation that when you reject a friend's apology, you're also rejecting him/her as a friend.
I suggest you talk to this person and ask why she commit the mistake. Take time to talk with this person and try to understand his/her thoughts.
2007-01-09 02:38:08 · answer #2 · answered by alvin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that there are times when an apology just doesn't do it. If that's the way you feel, then I think you should tell your friend. I believe that he/she has the right to know why you won't accept an apology, although I don't think the explanation needs to be any more detailed than "(the action) really hurt me, and I'm just not ready to hear an apology yet; let's talk about it later." If you think there is something that your friend should do to make amends, then I think it's important to say that too.
2007-01-09 02:20:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
more than likely by rejecting the apology you will be breakinf the friendship off since the person is trying to make amends.
you try to explain that they hurt you very much and you cannot at this time accept their apology until they can earn your trust or friendship again. say you are sorry for having to say that, but you cannot deny your feelings and pretend things are okay, when you are not feeling comfortable
My advice to you, without knowing all the details, is to try to forgive or move past this. Life is short and not worth harboring good luck
2007-01-09 03:18:16 · answer #4 · answered by island3girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't gracefully reject an apology. You say thank you in a calm voice. Then walk away. You may not always forgive someone for what they've done , although it's better to forgive them, it's easier on your mental health, however it doesn't mean you have to forget it . You don't have to keep reminding them of their transgression, but you also will know that this person may not always act in a way that's prudent and you then may want to limit your contact with them.
2007-01-09 02:20:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not necessary to accept an apology.
If you are rejecting an apology from a friend then you are not really friends.
2007-01-09 02:18:35 · answer #6 · answered by Aviator1013 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is not constantly mandatory to settle for an apology, even just to 'save the peace'. you may save the friendship alive if the the different party is mature sufficient to 'comply with disagree' with you and bypass on from there. each human beings has our very own opinion, or we see information in our unique approaches. "No injury, No Foul" is an common thank you to stay with pals and forestall comparable from starting to be enemies. and this is often sufficient extra straightforward to forgive and forget approximately, yet no person ever needs to settle for an apology. Have a super and wondrous day! Peace!
2016-10-30 10:27:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there such a thing as "gracefully reject an apology"? Either you accept or you don't.
2007-01-09 02:21:10 · answer #8 · answered by -->-->Funkster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't have it both ways. Either accept the apology or lose the friend.
2007-01-09 02:18:02 · answer #9 · answered by Emm 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is not a requirement that you accept any form of apology.
Your spelling stinks.
2007-01-09 02:17:10 · answer #10 · answered by Glen H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋