Even after being forgiven how do you forgive yourself, and accept what happened and what people think about you, even if they dont know the whole truth about you or what happened.
2007-01-09 02:11:19 · 30 answers · asked by thikingdomcome 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You know that's a hard one. As a Christian I know that when I ask for forgiveness that it's covered by His blood and it is forgotten. The problem lays in forgiving ones self. We beat ourselves up...and the "devil" reminds us, what a retch we are. When the thoughts come - I have to remind myself of who I am in Christ...and that I am forgiven! I also have to remind the devil who's child I am and to back off. There are times that I like to scrape that trash can and get out all the crud....and say...look what I've done! Maybe sometimes it's good to remember our faults....it reminds us to live right and to make good choices. It also reminds us "how big our God is" and "how loving and forgiving he is". We also need to forgive others and ourselves as Christ forgave us!
2007-01-09 02:20:48 · answer #1 · answered by kizkat 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are unable to forgive yourself because you feel guilty, address the guilt. Was what you did wrong? Why did you do it? Will this act of contrition help you not to do similar things in the future? But before you go down this road determine if what you did needs forgive was it so egregious that harm was done to the other, if so, then was that harm avoidable? If you find that you were not at fault then no forgiveness of self is required and you are just suffering from a guilt trip that someone else is laying on you. But if you find that you were wrong the only peace you can obtaine within yourself is to resolve not to do such an act in the future.
2007-01-09 10:30:52 · answer #2 · answered by thecarolinacowboy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a hard question to answer. I can tell you, though, that seeking advice from a counselor/therapist helps so much. I am only 23 years old and I wish I had started as a teenager! You find out things about yourself you never realized, especially how critical you are of yourself.
Obviously it is a process to forgive yourself, and time is a major factor. Its not easy, and sometimes not possible, but you have to be comfortable with yourself before you can stop worrying what others think about you.
Most insurance will pay for counseling. I only have a $15 copay when I visit my therapist so you should really look into it.
2007-01-09 10:16:58 · answer #3 · answered by mommyloveseva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you admit to yourself that what was done was already done and there is nothing you can do about it anymore and if the people around you have already looked pass it and forgiven you you also need to look pass it and forgive yourself and make a stern decision not to walk that way again.Make it a stepping stone to your future greatness and when people see how serious you are about turning a new leaf you'll get their trust and full support again and you'll also know what to tell someone else if you find that they are in what you were once in.It's not how many times you fall but how many times you're willing to get back up and go again!!!!
2007-01-09 10:23:56 · answer #4 · answered by Ali.D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's probably one of the hardest things a person can do - forgive themselves. Don't beat yourself up over something you cannot change. Learn from your mistake. Let it make you stronger; don't let it defeat you. Be content with the knowledge that you know the whole story. It's no one else's business. And move on. Look forward, not behind. Become a better person than the one you used to be. Good luck.
2007-01-09 10:17:01 · answer #5 · answered by Emm 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It takes time. But spending time with loved ones and friends that know of the mistake you made, will help. If you're still friends with the one you wronged spending time with that person is a plus as well. By spending time with them and seeing that they still treat you with the same love and respect as they did before the mistake will solidify that you are forgiven. Once you truly beleive that you are forgiven and accepted by them, self-forgiveness will come.
2007-01-09 10:24:55 · answer #6 · answered by Billy FZ1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come to terms with the truth and be able to accept it, only then can you forgive yourself. Don't be too hard on yourself. Forgiveness is a sign of strength.
2007-01-09 10:20:45 · answer #7 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes some work and spiritual discovery and growth.
Realize that you are a human and prone to faults.
Realize that it is OK to make mistakes and that you are forgiven and that you are loved.
Gaining humility will greatly aid you in your path to self forgiveness, but do not be surprised if this takes a good deal of time.
BTW: All lessons in life teach us to forgive, which leads to unconditional love.
Good luck in your journey.
Peace.
2007-01-09 10:21:42 · answer #8 · answered by -Tequila17 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Counseling can help you talk over the problems your having with forgiving yourself. The best advice anyone can give you is pray for forgiveness.
2007-01-09 10:17:48 · answer #9 · answered by sarabmw 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgive yourself as you would others. When another wrongs you and that person sincerely is sorry and asks for forgiveness from you...you forgive them...right?
Well... same with your own self...As you are loving, compassionate and forgiving of another...love, be forgiving and compassionate with your own self.
Another wronged you...you forgive them.
When you've wronged another or your own self . . .authentically learn from that experience, thus learning you've made it right, won't do it again and you forgive your own self.
Why treat yourself any less than you would treat someone else.
Peace to you.
2007-01-09 10:20:17 · answer #10 · answered by onelight 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋