My husband moved out tem months ago but does not want a divorce. I have since found out that 1) His father moved out on his mother when he was about the same age for two years and them moved back home2 ) his aunt moved out on her husband for about two years and them moved back home,3) his cousin moved out on his fiance, who he had lived with for 6 years, for about two years and them moved back and married her. My thought is that he believes that is what people do. I don't know that my ego would let me take him back after two years. If only I knew this BEFORE I married him that it was all so casual, I probably would not have married him.
2007-01-09 02:07:26 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would force his hand an file for a divorce.
If he is serious, he comes back now; if he is not serious, to get on with your life
2007-01-09 02:15:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 10⤊ 0⤋
one is there any children involved? two, why did he move out? three, why after 10 monthes are u still waiting for him? is he trying to come back home or has he moved on and you are still hanging on hoping that he will come back? Yes you made a commitment, but he walked out. To me it sounds like u are hoping after 10 months that he will walk back into your marriage and everything will go back to normal. Go to counciling either together or seperate and move on...good luck
2007-01-09 10:19:09 · answer #2 · answered by luvutaz1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a family issue in that your husband probably learned by example and thinks this is what people do. Tell him that he needs to go with you for marriage counseling or you will divorce him for abandonment.
Good luck to you.
2007-01-09 10:11:54 · answer #3 · answered by kja63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it was just a coincidence. It was not fair to you for him to keep you in suspence for 2 years while he goes and figures himself out. I have the type of ego that I would not take him back.
2007-01-09 10:11:48 · answer #4 · answered by sheila, TTC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that he has to move home now or you are going to file for divorce.
Why did he move out? What is he doing now? Is he seeing other people? This seems weird.
2007-01-09 10:13:19 · answer #5 · answered by Jo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should move on. If you allow him to come back then you are telling him that it's OK to have separate lives. End it now before he keeps doing it.
2007-01-09 10:14:19 · answer #6 · answered by lilbitt_637 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then divorce him. You only have two options. Live with it, or leave him. You can divorce him. You don't need to wait for him to agree to it.
2007-01-09 10:10:49 · answer #7 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So if he leaves and comes back like everyone else in his family, and you expect him to do the same, it doesn't say too much for yourself esteem if you do take him back.
2007-01-09 10:50:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him. communication is the key. divorce is not a good idea, there is always a way. maybe even go for counsiling a psych will talk to you and him and you can tell the psych of your thoughts
2007-01-09 10:12:54 · answer #9 · answered by momma-to-morgan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your right i mean what is this he can leave whenever he want and then come back oh no dump his a** and it like cheating while he gone he can do what he want and your just going take him back cause your married to him oh no it just an excuse
2007-01-09 10:16:26 · answer #10 · answered by maya 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break the family tradition of these people and divorce him.
2007-01-09 10:35:01 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋