Who is paying for all the unwed mothers to have children and then who is taking care of them?

Question

Inquiring minds want to know? Should there be a Ban{{{{in place for this?

Answer 1

Honestly, probably tax payers. I will probably offend some (if not all) by my answer. Of course there are always exceptions to the rules. Most un-wed mothers, at least the ones I have come across, did NOT plan on having children when they did. So because they planned poor or were irresponsible others now pick up their slack, either their parents or a baby sitter or tax-payers $$$. However, I also believe that a woman CAN raise a child all by herself, especially when she is physically , mentally & emotionall ready. (Just think about all the women widdowed by 9-11 & the War) However as I said before, most (not all) un-wed pregnancies are not planned. How can you be ready for something you didn't plan on. I truley belive that you need to be in a committed stable relationship, to have a partner & friend to help. Having babies takes more from you than it gives back (at least in the short term) and lets face it most people want that instant gratification...(Look how many people are here on this site trying to figure out if they are pregnant the day after they have sex!) I think people should be responsible for their actions... And always having someone their to clean up their mess, means they don't have to!

Answer 2

Talk about stereotyping. Just because a woman, that is unmarried, has a child, does not mean they are incapable of providing for that child.

Even if they can't, I have no issues paying taxes to help that woman out. It's the ones who MILK the system and abuse it so they never have to work. The programs are there for help, not lifetime support. Most of the women who are on them, use them until they can get back on their feet. But of course it's only the stereotypical few that you ever hear about.

A ban on unwed mothers? Seriously. What is next? Should single mothers have their children taken away because there is no father to "provide" for them? Honestly...what is wrong with people these days. No compassion for anyone but themselves and their almighty buck.

Answer 3

Tax payers are paying. No there shouldn't be a ban on unwed mothers unless abortion is gonna be deemed illegal. There are lots of "baby's daddy's" who do what they're suppose to and take care of their kid(s). Then there are some people like I was before I got married who work and earn their own money to keep theirselves and their kid up. I paid child care, medical, and everything else out my pocket. Think about this and give the ones who succeed in being a unwed mother the credit they deserve.

Answer 4

Many are supported by the parents/grandparents. Quite a few have child support from the father of the baby, especially now that there is DNA testing. But as I am sure you suspected, many are supported by your tax dollars.

What, exactly, would be your ban? No sex? Forced abortions? Forced sterilization, perhaps? Or ban on paying for the food, clothing and shelter mother and child clearly need?

The problem is we have not devised more efficient, effective ways of taking care of them, so they are the clients of the federal and state bureaucracies, with all the inefficiency, red tape, etc., etc., that is really what costs so much.

In a Libertarian world, they would be cared for by local non-profit organizations, at the least. Very likely they would be able to have gainful employment. My own idea would be co-op housing and home-based business within the co-op, so the mothers could share the child care, the household chores, and the income-producing work.

Answer 5

I am paying for my own child, thank you, and she is very well taken care of.
I think there should only be a ban on people like you who have nothing better to do than try to make themselves feel better by criticizing others without even knowing anything about them. Not all unwed mothers are on welfare and living off of others, you know. And not all kids of unwed mothers are stuck in some crowded daycare for 40 hrs. a week either.

Answer 6

I am a soon to be mother who has no plans on getting married. Why? Well, why should I? My boyfriend (whom I already refer to as my husband) have been together for 7 years. I'm a college graduate with a degree in English and Asian studies and we both have stable jobs. Our choice to not marry is based on the fact that we do not need to stamp our love on a piece of paper. We are well able to support our future son, with mutual funds and savings accounts in tow. We have a supportive family who respect our decision and will always be there for us. Not all unwed mothers take advantage of the system! And others cannot help being in the unfortunate situation they find themselves in. If money is going towards something, isn't it better that it's going to support a life than killing off one? Some responsible people do stumble upon hard times, and it's wrong to assume that all our tax dollars go to uncaring, irresponsible people. FYI: I was raised on welfare because my mother escaped a war torn country. She raised me well, allowing me to an intelligent, caring, and morally upright person. She gives back to her community now, in her mid 60's, and while she was married, my father ran off when I was an infant. I'm sure people as yourselves thought her to be an uneducated, irresponsible, money grubbing unwed mother but you were all soOo wrong.

Answer 7

Many unwed mothers are perfectly capable of taking care of themselves and their children. If you are talking about welfare recipients, then it is taxpayer money that is paying the bill for their births and taking care of the children afterwards. I agree there should be some type of regulations regarding the amount of assistance one can receive, but I don't know what guidelines they could set. I think if you and your children are currently on State assistance and you get pregnant AGAIN while on it, you should have 3 months to get a job before you are kicked off. That would at least be a deterrent to some.

Answer 8

Just because someone is unwed does not mean they need to be "taken care of." It's actually the opposite. I was talking to my sister the other day who works at Wal-Mart part time and she was surprised most people who are on food stamps are two parent families. Meaning the father is a dead beat dad. Not to say food stamps can't be a good thing BUT it shows that even two parent families need "taken care of."

Answer 9

It's the stupidest system ever. We force low income moms to work at subminimum wage and force them to put their kids in day care. The state then pays the day care provider excellent wages and the provider is able, on their taxes, to write off gardener, maid, toys, car expenses, etc etc etc.

In other words, it's a swiftian system where the problem of poverty is 'solved' by feeding the poor to the rich.

Besides, are you aware that in America no more than 5 years on welfare is available? There is section 8 housing assistance for familes, and you want kids in decent housing in decent neighborhoods influenced by middle class values.

My father was born into a desparately poor family. His dad was around, an abusive alcoholic as*hole who spent all the money (not much) on himself. Should my father have starved? He was malnourished as it was. Should he have been naked? He had sole-less shoes as it was. Should he have died when his father burned him with scalding water or should the state have paid his medical expenses?

Do the answers to those questions change because my dad went on to serve many years in the Navy (America's best welfare program, he called it) and, while not as well off as many of his siblings become, acquired much learning and respect, a decent amount of property, and a loving and devoted family of hard working devoted citizens? (I hope not. I think the inherent dignity of children should be valued. And please tell me you're not pro-life.)

Answer 10

In some cases the fathers of the kids are. If they are responsible and have a job. Unfortunately many times it is the tax payer. We definitely are not going to let children suffer for a mistake their parents made so society as a whole does the supporting.