Have noticed that a lot of people on here (including myself) put questions on here that we should be asking our partners.....I wonder why its so easy for us to unload our problems, fears, and concerns on complete strangers instead of telling the one person that matters most...our husbands/wives...what do you all think?
2007-01-09 01:31:28 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well...its obvious that our fears of our significant others reactions are the main reason, thus, when we ask friends and strangers, etc.. we get a good gauge on possible reactions, and outcomes, which better arms ourselves with different scenarios and information before confronting our significant others. it boils down to seeking advice before deciding how to handle a problem or issue. you're not going to go the "problem" and ask how to handle it, are you? naw....so you seek solutions elsewhere, then face the problem with what you have learned.
2007-01-09 01:39:31 · answer #1 · answered by beechjb 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah. Perhaps it's the complete secrecy of the anonymous third person like confessionals.
We (Yahoo community) are also completely impartial- we haven't got the baggage or blame gaming of the relationship in question- so we can offer a more impartial opinion/listening.
Sometimes it's good to hear someone has the same views opr even put your thoughts into a coherent mini-letter.
Be patient with your man- we have only 7000 words to you 20000 word vocab.
And we are often like petulant little boys- we want to play our games on our time and we don't want a woman nagging us.
If he's is having trouble listening- perhaps change your style of talking/communicating. Watch Dr Phil.
2007-01-09 09:37:56 · answer #2 · answered by Ministry of Camp Revivalism 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the same reason that a guy would come on here and bluntly ask a girl about her boob size. It is a much safer environment here to do such things, as if you did that in a mall, you'd likely get slapped into the middle of next week. Doing it here gives you more of a sense of security about what you say.
2007-01-09 09:37:39 · answer #3 · answered by Rod Rod Go 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me the answer is that people who are not involved are able to make sensible decisions as they are not emotionally involved with the people and it is always easier to give advice than to act on it especially when it comes to affairs of the heart. Most of the questions posted I believe the asker actually knows what they should do and the answer before they post it but just want reassurance as they are making life changing decisions sometimes.
Also some people just want to get things off their chest and just want some sympathy or understanding.
2007-01-09 09:43:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not a matter of not talking to the partner, i have tried and tried to reason and understand what my soon to of been wife/best friend was thinking when she left me for another guy and well.... i really just dont ahve anyone else to relate to so i turn to the mass's with my problems so maybe there is someone else out there that is feeling my pain and can relate. I guess thats why i atleast do it.
2007-01-09 09:43:54 · answer #5 · answered by fretnoise21 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think because after you talk to someone one here you basically get your answer and your connection with them is through. but with your partner you are with them constantly and even though you have asked the question or told them something you still have it lingering over you relationship. even when they say that they aren't worried about it and what not its still there...sometimes total strangers can be more understanding than the close people to you that you love.
2007-01-09 09:37:45 · answer #6 · answered by Oreo wit out the O 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess l have to agree with koala pioneer's comments. We probably don't judge as harshly and it's true who cares whether you like the answer or not, you can always ignore us. I also think as you do not have to look us in the eye and tell us the truth, it probably makes things a little all round. I must admit though that l totally agree with your comments. We all need to communicate more with our significant other halves.
2007-01-09 09:48:47 · answer #7 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes I believe that some people are looking for confirmation. They want to know that they are really making the right choices by asking others what their opinions are. Just a thought.
2007-01-09 09:38:36 · answer #8 · answered by swtz69drmz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Questions I have asked I have also expressed to my partner - I am just looking as I am sure others are - for confirmation of answers or support to what you might "think"
2007-01-09 11:30:00 · answer #9 · answered by Confussedhere 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its great to be able to express yourself with total aminimty.sp.I tell my partner what I want.She thinks Im a sicko.By some peoples standards I am.
2007-01-09 09:39:31 · answer #10 · answered by Honest Injun 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋