I recently met this guy who is related to my cousin. I didn't "fall" for him instantly but over the days i started liking him, well kinda. I fall for guys extremely easily but with all of them i have the same feeling and with him it's quite different. He isnt the hottest or best guy around but he appeals to me but at the same time i'm having these "neutrel" feelings, i've never felt like this before an sometimes i can't help but smile ALOT if something makes me think about him. I don't know if i really do have a crush on him or I just want to have a crush on him. I dont know what im feeling. Normally if i like a person i wouldnt act or feel this way but then again im not sure if i really like him. I'm really confused especially since when i think about him i say i don't like him but again i feel like i'm denying my own feelings. What do you think?
2007-01-09 01:23:21 · 9 answers · asked by Blair Waldorf 5 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
he isnt related to me
2007-01-09 01:33:08 · update #1
Jennifer,
It sounds to me as if you like him... and in a way that perhaps could go deeper than a "crush." Crushes usually hit hard and fast, and then go away after a certain time just as quickly.
This affection is more gradual, giving you time to think about this guy and decide whether you two being together could work out. The fact it is slower suggests it might be more 'real' in a sense; but you just don't know anything right now, except that he makes you smile... and that is a good thing in itself.
As you gain more experience with relationships, you'll see that there are all types of feelings, and even the same relationship can transition from one type of feeling (such as intensity) to another (such as the more 'quiet' and 'neutral' sort of affection you describe). This is common in many marriages and long-term relationship, and is a perfectly valid way to feel.
You don't need to define how you feel up-front or decide where the relationship could possibly go before you even begin dating this guy (if you do). Just enjoy how you feel; and if you're interested in him, try to spend more time around him (if you can), and then see where things lead.
Take care.
2007-01-09 02:00:17 · answer #1 · answered by Jennywocky 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Someone who is related to your cousin is not necessarily related to you, but I would check first. It sounds like you could have a crush on him. If there are things that remind you of him and make you smile, I would say that there is some definite interest there. Spend some time with him. Find out if you do really like him.
2007-01-09 01:33:44 · answer #2 · answered by David L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First unless it's not a blood relation, if he's related to your cousin that means he's related to you :0)
Only you can know your true feelings but if you like him, then go out. Dosent mean have sex or get married tomorrow just deal with it slowely, like you should any peson. If it's a "real" thing you'll be happy. If it's just a cruse after spending some time with him you'll get bored and find someone else to like and move on.
2007-01-09 01:32:41 · answer #3 · answered by Corinne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
errggh, I don't usually venture into this territory, but there just seemed to be something genuine about your question.
maybe the difference is that this guy is the real thing instead of just a passing infatuation -- I'm about half way on my way to being old now, and looking back at the people I've known and knowing what i know now -- the ones that were hot and flashy back in the day often were really just duds -- all flash and no substance -- but the people who you had to work a little harder to notice or get to know were the genuine article and people you can enjoy a lifetime with
2007-01-09 03:01:30 · answer #4 · answered by Zee 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Go with it. If its Love or a Crush, who cares. Thats what life is all about! The experiences are what teach us about life and love, even tho all the experience in the world is not going to tell us if its love or lust right off the bat from one relationship to another because its human nature to question just about everything. Why not just live a little, give it a chance and see where it goes. No regrets just lessons learned...and maybe just maybe you already found your soulmate. Everything happens for a reason.
2007-01-09 01:33:08 · answer #5 · answered by Kujo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him the type you sense verbally rather of with your eyes burning into his soul. you ought to have instructed him and commenced a relationship an exceedingly, very long term in the past. One hour should not be an significant impediment in case you like him as much as you're saying you do.
2016-10-06 21:34:00 · answer #6 · answered by lavinia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you say "he's related to my cousin" doesn't that mean he is related to you? If that's the case, keep it a crush. A secret crush.
2007-01-09 01:29:43 · answer #7 · answered by alexisexplainsitall 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just get with him and kick it. However, is he related to you or not ?. Are you in the south ?
2007-01-09 01:31:58 · answer #8 · answered by David B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's probably just gas.
2007-01-09 01:28:28 · answer #9 · answered by Monstblitz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋