please I need urgent help!!!!?

Question

I got marriage with my husand for 2years with one child and my problem now is that my husband always say hard words on me because I once cheat on him when we where in our boyfriend and girlfriend relationship, He is always hard on me now a day , I really love him and don't know what to do with this kind of problem.
Please help me am confuse..

Answer 1

Sit down with him and talk to him. Tell him that the woman who cheated on him was before the marriage and you have been committed to him from day one of your marriage and continue to be so and love him greatly. If he tones down and begins to be considerate, loving and affectionate, he is understanding and good. If not, you have to think of other alternatives like leaving him (if you can't bear it any more) or turning numb to all of this and leading your life on parallel lines. Good luck with the talking! Hope things work out for you.

Answer 2

Here's the deal: Your man has not forgiven you for cheating, and most likely, he won't. You must decide if you want to live on a tight-rope with him. Each time you make a mistake in the marriage, your husband is going to be reminded of the past and dump on you. You need to tell him that you cannot live on a tight-rope. Neither can you relive the past. Either he's going to forgive you, or the marriage is not going to work.

Ask your husband how long he's going to hold the past against you. Are you never to be free of this? You cannot continue to feel guilty about the past, and he can't keep mistreating you because of it.

There's one thing more: After your husband found that you had cheated on him, he had the option of continuing the relationship or not. He chose to continue in the relationship. He is therefore the reason you are still together. He now needs to understand that his mistreatment of you will be the reason you break up.

Don't play around with this, and don't allow this man to keep hurting you. Get it staighened out now, before you have more children.

Answer 3

Speak up and dont take that kind off c*ap from him you made a mistake while you were dating.Not to say that it was correct of you to cheat but he really needs to get over this issue or it will kill your marriage!without trust and forgivness in a marriage there can be no marriage it will simply chizel away at your marriage till it comes apart.Honestly he should have gotten over this by now or you have another bigger problem that underlining this probably him trying to get even which is not right.If you love him got to counceling.If not you may have married the rong person and may have to consider leaving if this continues unless you want your child to see their mother being disrespected and think it normal or right? good luck.

Answer 4

Well first u should respect him on watever he says to you then when the right time comes try to talk to him and see why is he using hard words with you and tell him that you deserve a better way of communicating with respect and love,not just by him or u but with each other also so that there wont be any conflict with each other! ok
but if this still goes on , i can tell you that there are some people who make mistakes in their own life or some issues back when they were young and they become furious and start using hard words! so try to calm him down and make him understand

Answer 5

If you are the one who cheated before you got married, then it is your responsibility to bring the trust back into the marriage. You should be an open book with your husband and make him feel secure. This is no reason for him to be rude to you but I think you have to understand why he has a trust issue.

Answer 6

good luck to you on that you need to talk to him and just plain out say can you stop and can this work between us or not if not then you need to try to leave and move on i am trying to help because i know the feeling my fiance and father of my three kids and i are going through the same thing i cheated when we were seperated and he wanted me to come back now he treats me like **** i told him if he dosent change and act right i was going to leave he said he would change its only been a week but so far so good and if he starts acting like a jerk again i am packing my stuff and leaving.

Answer 7

1. Figure out what you'd like to do with your life.
2. Get an education that supports your gifts and desires of what you'd like to do with your life.
3. Take your child and find another place to live while you are going to school.
4. After schooling, become employed so you can support yourself and your child financially, emotionally and spiritually.
5. Become your own person who isn't reliant on men who are "hard on you".

Answer 8

I once had a husband who felt like that and he didn't have any reason to but he hurt me the whole tome we were together don't put up with it.He ended up abandoning my child and me (not much off a man anyway)
Good luck

Answer 9

the first idea that pops into my head is bad on you for that cheating, but.... tell him that you love him everyday, jsut try your best to make things work and when it starts to get even harder try more, try seeing a relationship doctor? and if all else fails look into your heart and see if he is really just not into you anymore. <~~~~~~this is coming from someone that is trying to win back somone that obously dosnt want to be with anymore, sorry i couldnt help more, hope the best for you

Answer 10

if you once cheated on him and he forgave you then there should be nor more talkof it, ever. if he persists he didnt forgive you and he needs to remember you are human we all make some mistakes in life. he isnt perfect so tell him to save his hard words for hard ears.