After only two months of marriage my husband slept with my best friend of 12 years. We had a fight and he went to her, spending the whole night at her place. She did not apologize. Should I take revenge on her? Should I leave him?
2007-01-09 01:17:37 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wow! Well, you definitely need to have a heart to heart discussion with your husband if you still feel like saving your marriage. As far as your best friend goes - I think I would consider looking for a new one because what she did to you is unexcusable. I would avoid lowering yourself to her level by seeking revenge, but I would have one last conversation with her telling her how betrayed you feel and that her actions have ruined a wonderful friendship.
2007-01-09 01:23:52 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Smooth 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well after only being two months married..it just goes to show you how immature your husband is. Instead of staying home, trying to work things out with you...he runs out!!! That's not love!! So you need to let him go quick. If he did this to you so quickly in your marriage..imagine years from now..more arguments/disagreements you two may have. He'll be running to some else, instead dealing with your problems as a husband and wife should. You need to really think about this...marriage is no game!! Now as to your friend..well that is no friend!!! What a biatch!!! She is so not worth keeping around either. Maybe they are meant for each other....and will hurt each other too...in the end!! She'll be going to your husbands best friend soon enough!! You'll be happier w/out either one of them girl!!! Just hold your head up high...and be the better person...better than both of them!!! You know you are!!! Best of luck!!!!
2007-01-09 01:39:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could dump your husband and best friend. But whether or not you do that, you do need to ask yourself the question why it happened. Two months after marriage is a very short time. The fact that your best friend did not apologize also indicates that she is not on your side, which is VERY unusual. Normally, she would have sent him back to you right away. People who are very close to you do not simply gang up on you and betray you for no reason.
Something is going on here that you are not seeing (about yourself).
2007-01-09 01:46:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anpadh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES! YOU SHOULD LEAVE HIM!!! Get a lawyer now. If he's willing to sleep with your best friend, he'll do anything. Get rid of him. The best way to take revenge is to be the first to file for divorce. Tell your best friend - Girl, he's all yours. Good luck.
Why take him back? Do you honestly want him back in your bed after he's slept with your best friend?? Have more self esteem than that.
2007-01-09 02:55:46 · answer #4 · answered by Lilith 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES you should leave him. straight away. he left you the minute he slept with your friend. what an ***. your friend is not worth it. forget about her shes just dumb and stupid. HE was the one who made the commitment to you. take revenge on him. take the house his stuff anything. get yourself a good lawyer and get rid of the loser. if he had admitted to the affair and apologised sincerly then it wouldnt be too bad to try work things out but the fact that he just left you after fighting to sleep with her again is a smack in the face that cant be ignored. i feel so bad for you chick. no one deserves a jerk husband and a dopey friend.
i really hope you find the strenght to leave him. dont give her the time of day. let her deal with his infidelitys and let him get your revenge for you.
hope things work out for you chick!
tell us how you get on.
2007-01-09 01:28:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should file for divorce,get a new best friend if she was your best friend than she should have enough love inside her heart not to cross the line.And for your newly husband,if he was so quit to sleep with your best friend then he must of had problems beaning only with you in the past,and if this is the first time then trust when i say it will not be the last time,and if he really love you and believed in your love and his for your new marriage,he would not have hurt you,but he is hurting to cause he might lose the real woman that loved him.Leave him or deal with the problems you will face,it will not be easy,good luck.
2007-01-09 08:50:08 · answer #6 · answered by tonya holmes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would leave, it's only been two months, I feel so sorry for you, thins must be so painful! It's so hard to trust people in this World! Keep strong. My husband cheated on me after 2 years of marriage, at least you can still have your marriage annulled.
2007-01-09 02:45:28 · answer #7 · answered by Michelle Lynn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has he given you any reason to NOT leave him? I went through infidelity w/my husband, who left me after 3 wks of marriage and it's now well over a year and it's a lot of work to rebuild trust. The pain is horrible. I DO love him and he has shown me a lot of remorse so I choose to work through this, but I would not have if I didnt' feel he was sorry and sincere. Best wishes to you.
2007-01-09 01:46:21 · answer #8 · answered by Just Me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have no children, you would be wise to get out of this marriage now. Otherwise, you'll be stuck. You also need to drop your "best friend". She's your enemy, not your friend. And make no mistake, this was not the first time these two monsters slept together. What they have done is despicable and you are well rid of them.
2007-01-09 01:33:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bless your heart i feel for you, Yes I would leave him, for him to sleep with someone this early in your marriage, well makes me think he done it before the marriages and he will do it again, As for your friend she is not your friend, Friends do not sleep with other friends husbands /boyfriend Me and my friends have this agreement we do not date guys that either one of us has dated. If she was your friend she would of called you and try to help you two work things out not make the problem worse and thats what she did. with no thought of you and your feelings drop both of them find a better friend and a better husband, Good Luck to you
2007-01-09 01:34:11 · answer #10 · answered by Alley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋