I don't fit it in with my family. I consider this good since I am the only sibling of 4 who has never had a drug/alcohol problem or been in jail. I have held a job for 28 years, I am not a racist, never been in jail, accept responsibility for mistakes I have made and try not to make the same mistakes again, I don't borrow money from family. My brother, who is a manipulative dry drunk (he is a recovering alcoholic, but is as big an *** as when he drank), just sent me an e-mail about Jesus. My brother is a racist. He lives in Florida and does nothing but ***** about everyone speaking Spanish. Also, he never communicates with me. Why does this hypocrite brother send me this e-mail? Because he is a self-righteous prick. Plus, when i don't respond, ooh my sister never talks to me. He doesn't remember all the manipulative things he does. I don't want to see or speak to either of my brothers. I tolerate my mother because she is my mother. I wish I could disappear! HELP ME!
2007-01-09 00:53:41 · 16 answers · asked by fab 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
just because they are your family (meaning dna related) doesn't make them your friends nor does it give them any right to treat you like crap. but unfortunatley, some of the worst people that treat us in the worst manner are our family (dna related). if you are this unhappy about your family (dna related) then it's time for you to sever ties with your current family and find new one. for some, friends can also be famliy. just becuse they are not related to you by dna doesn't mean that you can love just the same.
2007-01-09 01:01:43 · answer #1 · answered by cfalways 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why disappear sounds to me your the only stable, good role model in ur family..you should be proud , not hiding in a corner , u have nothing to hide or be ashamed of.. we cant pick and choose our family.. but life is to short to keep such bitterness towards them, yes there comes a time when u have to say, sorry but i want more in my life..but u shouldnt ever walk away from ur family completely.. just keep it to a minimum.. So he sent u an email on Jesus.. good for him.. maybe theres hope for him yet lol.. u shouldnt be upset about it, but be greatful for it.. and smile a smart allic smirk and know that jesus is watching all, and knows what kind of person u are compared to him.. "misery loves company" remember that, miserable people thrive on making others miserable, its the only way they can feel better about themselves.. ur brother knows what kind of person he is.. whether he admits it or not he knows he's the one that has to look in the mirror everyday and face the facts, id be willing to bet that most of ur siblings are envious or jealous of u because u are probably what they wish they could be, but instead of trying they rather just be lazy and settle for their lives being what they are.. Families can be crazy but thats also what makes them unique good or bad, their who they are.. but u shouldnt disappear, disappearing is only for those who are ashamed of who they are, and why should u hide? Be u.. except what u cant change in others.. and hope for the best.. but dont ever hide from doing what is right. No matter who they are , family or not.. someone's gotta show the way..
2007-01-09 01:06:01 · answer #2 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He is trying to find Jesus and you're on here bashing him for it. New Christians don't automatically become perfect. He has many years of learning ahead of him before he will learn to not judge others by race or language. Before he will learn to change his behavior or to be more Christ like. Give him time. He is on the right path. Emailing is better then having to talk to him face to face. he wants you to be saved too that's why he's sending this email about Jesus to you. He obviously loves you deeply and cares whether you go to heaven and hell. Maybe if you accept Jesus as your savior you and your brother can grow more Christ like together. Give him an email. A loving email. Forgive him for his past and move on. I know God has.
2007-01-09 01:03:26 · answer #3 · answered by lilmama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We have no control over who our parents and siblings are. Neither are we responsible for their behavior. If you prefer not to be involved with your siblings, that's your choice. There's no reason to go through a lot of drama about it. Neither do you need to feel guilty about not liking them. You're not the only person who didn't like their mother either. Tolerate her out of love (like many of us do) and let that be it. And if you don't want to see or speak to your brothers, don't. Cultivate your own friends and get on with your life.
2007-01-09 01:22:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to live your life...Let me give you some advice..."If your mad your the only one"...You are responsible for your feelings and you should not let these people get you down. You sound like a very nice person and you are successful in your life and they are jealous. You keep doing what your doing and be happy, because you are the person you are. You just need to tell them that you don't have the time to deal with their issues, you have your own life to live and you are going to cut out all the things that jeopardize it. God Bless...
2007-01-09 01:04:27 · answer #5 · answered by ransdoll90 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear.
It can be so stressful having a messed up family.
You should just ignore your siblings if they are hash to you. Get on with your own life and send them cards on events like Christmas and Birthdays. This means you are still in touch with them but at a minimal level.
Keep in touch with your mum but if it all gets too much, just take time out for yourself.
Stay in control of your life and dont let anyone spoil it for you.
Good Luck.
2007-01-09 01:04:46 · answer #6 · answered by Flower Power 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I understand what you're going through. My husband felt, at one time, the same as you do now. He was tired of all the drama going on in his family. So he ignored all them (except his parents)...didn't care to hear from them..especially about all their problems. Eventually they got the hint!! Now being that it's years later....they just call him up to say 'hi, how are you?' They realized it wasn't worth losing him. But my husband doesn't think like that now days...he still stays away as much as he can. He says he's happy just knowing his parents are alive and healthy. That's all that matters to him. Good luck!
2007-01-09 01:54:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Salaam, First off congrats and welcome to the wonderful Religion of Islam. I think you should talk to your family and be honest with them, let them KNow why u converted, what it was that mad u closer to Islam. Then began to talk to them about marriage and how u love this guy and he inshallah will bring u even closer to Islam. I know that at first ur family will not accepted it, but it will take them time, and because they love u they will in the end have no choice. Good luck hun, i wish u the best and Inshallah everything works out for u!!
2016-05-22 22:31:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess that old saying applies to you, " you can pick your friends but you can't pick your family ". I would advise you worry about yourself and your life and leave them to stuff theirs up on their own. Their is no need for you to disappear just learn to ignore. Believe me ignorance can be bliss in times like these. Tell them that you refuse to play their idiotic child like games and that you want to be left in peace. I'm sure they will get the message. Best of luck to you and stay just the way you are. You do not need them in your life, regardless of whether they are family or not.
2007-01-09 01:14:49 · answer #9 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can always choose your friends but not your family...I learned that...I have a borther that uses and takes from everybody
he has drank alot but he uses drugs...and last summer stoled 100.00 dollars from the wife...I'm done helping his sorry butt out..
tell him jesus was not racist and did not judge anybody...he loved everybody no matter the skin color or the way they talked...
stay close to your mom..forget your brother..
2007-01-09 01:25:48 · answer #10 · answered by hononegah1988 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋