Sex at the end of pregnancy?

Question

I'm 36 weeks and our sex life has gone to the crapper. I was a single mom with my first - so I didn't have to "deal" with this aspect of pregnancy! Anyways though- my sex drive is really high- even though sex is becoming more uncomfortable no matter what position.. (i get really crampy etc) Since the beginning of my pregnancy he has had "problems" getting off- and he's said all along it's because he gets thinking about the baby and he gets worried he's hurting me or something and then it just doesn't happen. I know that is normal. I know he watches porn and just masturbates instead now... and we still have sex maybe once a week. I'm just looking for some encouragement- because It's really hard for me to not take it personally and not take it as rejection. I'm feeling a bit overwhelmed because my sex drive is so high- but he obviously isn't enjoying sex with me at this point- and I know once I have the baby- it will be like 6 weeks if not more before we can resume.

I have a 6 year old daughter- this is baby number two- so i do realize sex won't be on my mind for awhile- it's just more thinking like, "oh great- he's going to be aroused by other women and not me for the next 3+ months..."

** Also we spend tons of time just cuddling etc etc... so we at least do that =) And lots of times it's way better than sex- but when your hormones are crazy and you're pregnant and you want it-- hehe well you know... it's frustrating.

***we have tried Spooning. We've tried everything! haha..

**** and as for other ways of getting him off- I'm well aware- however since I became pregnant my gag reflex is so bad- i can't even brush my teeth without gaging and throwing up- so aside from a little bit - I can't really do that for now =( Throwing up isn't a huge turn on. haha

Answer 1

You need to tell him how you feel. A lot of pregnant mothers (like myself) feel exactly the same! Talking to him and reasure him that it will not cause the baby any harm (unless you have high risk problems). Tell him that you do love sex, but it's just a little uncomfortable But you still want to try. This will make him realize that it's ok to feel the way he does. PLUS, having sex at the end of your pregnacy induces labor! So, if you are ready to have this child you should do it more often! I know how upsetting it can be if he's watching porn and jacking off (i've gone thought this too). Just tell him that it upsets you and you dont think it's right that he's "enjoying" himself while leaving you in the dark. I'm sure it's just a male thing, so dont take it too personally. If he really loves you, you should be able to talk through this and come up with something that satisfy's the both of you! Good luck!

Answer 2

Unfortunately a few persons are not able to manage exact circumstances tactfully. Yes ttc may also be very emotional, traumatic, and draining, however a official industry is not any situation to air that. I had a equivalent limitation with my brother and his spouse. They were looking to get pregnant for many years, and my husband and I were not making an attempt, however obtained pregnant. They disregarded the complete being pregnant. They noticed me a couple of occasions a month and on no account requested approximately it and on no account mentioned congratulations. I obtained so huge you could not forget about it, however they did. It harm. They had been so irritated that I obtained pregnant with out making an attempt and so they needed to paintings so difficult at it that they forgot approximately what a blessing this tiny lifestyles was once. I had my youngster and the primary time they even recounted it was once whilst he was once on his seventh day within the NICU. I felt unhealthy for them, however was once it my fault? and did I must be punished for it? I on no account introduced it as much as rub it in. I simply could not appreciate. Just forget about persons like that. Go on along with your day and be blissfully pregnant. You handiest get nine months so do not allow anybody damage it. Hopefully you should not have anybody on your lifestyles that's making you consider unhealthy. That girl is only a crab. EVERYONE ELSE IS HAPPY FOR YOU!!! :) Congratulations!!!

Answer 3

I can understand what your going through, I am only 20 weeks, but my sex drive seems to be up as well. And the actual sex has gone down. I never had a problem with his porn before but now I feel like it's taking my place. Ya know what I do? The same thing he does, when he's at work I use a toy! It's not always as gratifying, but if they can do it, why can't we? Good Luck.

Answer 4

i wouldn't let it bother you. i went through the same exact thing i wanted it all the time but he just didn't feel right. i just kept telling myself he doesn't understand b/c he can't associate with a pregnancy so it dosn't matter how many times you tell him that it is safe he won't accept it. you should be happy that he is at least thinking that much of his unborn child to care that much about him/her when they are not even here yet. just b/c he i swatching pron doesn't mean he isn't thinking about you, it is not as if he is out with someone else. relax your so close to the end any ways- have you at least talked to him about it (in a nonjudgemental way)

Answer 5

There are other ways to acheive orgasm other than having intercourse. You can get a book on sex for the pregnant woman. Help him masturbate and he should return the favour if he is worried about intercourse

Answer 6

making love is not only about penetration there are other altenatives like touching each other or oral sex just to mention a few. so i think you should not worry about hurting the baby. there are many options. good luck

Answer 7

Have you tried different positions? "Spooning" may be more comfortable for you at this point. And of course there are....um.....other ways that you can help him get off. ;-)

Answer 8

TRY DIFFERENT THINGS. I'M AT 39 WEEKS AND WE ARE STILL ON FIRE!! I TRY TO USE DIFFERENT LITTLE THINGS TO KEEP IT FRESH AND NEW. TEASING, TOUCHING, KISSING, SUCKING, YOU NAME IT!! SHOOT SOME MEN LIKE IT WHEN YOU TAKE CHARGE. . .