Being serious here. I do next to nothing in the house. My wife actually wants things this way. I try to help, she just redoes everything anyway, so I usually go to the gym, or watch football. Hey, if she wants it her way, fine by me knock yourself out. Only thing I do is vacuum a few rooms which takes about 7 minutes.
She really gets off on cleaning, I think she's a little type A which is actually a benefit.
Hey don't anyone be mad at me, she likes it this way.
Only thing is, I rarely show appreciation, should I buy her a card or something ? I mean It's the least i could do right? spend a buck or two on a card?
happy easter
2007-01-09 00:34:26 · 25 answers · asked by godzillasagoodman 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She probably doesn't like your cleaning because you are doing a half a s s job of it and she gets irritated having to do it over again. If you want a job done right you gotta do it yourself.
It sounds to me like she's a bit obsessive over the cleaning. I think since she is so nice to you and lets you out of helping with the house you should show her ALOT of appreciation. Give her massages, pay her more attention and buy her something better than a stupid card. The majority of us women really do not like cards. We want jewelry and flowers you fool!!!
2007-01-09 00:53:08 · answer #1 · answered by Cute But Evil 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lucky you man, if she enjoys whatever chores she does, then don't feel bad about it, count yourself luck to have such a woman. All you can do is show appreciation, not just by buying a card or flowers but your actions/attitude towards her. I don't think you can be buying her a card or some perfume every now and again appreciation really matters. At times when she has just done something perfectly nice, shower with some word of praise and tell you are proud to have her, she will feel good and will keep of finding means and ways of doing her best. Enjoy your life.
2007-01-09 09:03:25 · answer #2 · answered by 1967.08 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a wife of a man who does absolutely nothing around the house. He works and I feel that it is my duty as a his wife to show him respect by keeping our beautiful house clean and a hot meal for him when he comes home from a hard day of work. I cook, clean, gut the grass, take out the garbage, and anything else that has to be done. I am a stay at home mom/wife and love it, I wouldn't want it any other way. He likes it alot when he comes home to a clean house with a hot meal waiting for him. I love being this person. We have four children and he helps with the kids. But the house is my responsibility. Yes, you should show a little appreciation to her. You are lucky to have a wonderful wife.
2007-01-09 08:47:52 · answer #3 · answered by godbeyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, if it's ok with her, it's fine. I personally don't mind doing most of the work (I'd say it's about a 90:10 division), but he also does all the outside stuff, like mowing the yard, trimming hedges, etc. (I do help sometimes). I realize the biggest portion of his work is only part of the year, but, hey, I hate those things. However, if she does ask for help, you should help her. That's how you show appreciation. Or ASK her how she wants it done. How about hiring a cleaning lady to do some of it. It would have to be picked up someone for the cleaing lady to come, but it would free up a lot of time for your wife (dusting, mopping, all the mundane crap), but say don't ask the cleaning lady to do the laundry, so your wife can still do it if she wants. Would your wife be ok with this? Maybe just do this one weekend and take your wife out to show her some appreciation. Whether or not we admit it, we want to hear thank you sometimes.
2007-01-09 10:46:21 · answer #4 · answered by Lady in Red 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's nice that you've considered showing her some appreciate for the work she does around the house. But instead of buying her a card or something of that sort, why not give her a full body massage after she's done and ready to relax? It's a lot better than a card, and will allow the two of you to share more time together, and enjoy each other's company. She'll love you for it!
2007-01-09 08:50:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For some people, housework is meditative. They actually enjoy keeping the house. My friend's husband works every day, yet does a thorough cleaning of the house on the weekends, including the laundry. Take your wife out to dinner occasionally. Go see a movie, or a play.
Don't overdo these expressions of appreciation, and don't tell her why you're doing it, because it will take away from her enjoyment. Just take her out because you want to spend time with the woman you love, and she'll like that.
Save the flowers for her birthday, or anniversary.
2007-01-09 09:01:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
such women do exist, and when we clean we like it our way...so its usually easier just to stay out of our way. But the best thing you can do...is not create any messes and always pick up after yourself. Meaning put your dishes in the sink, throw away your own trash, put your clothes in the hamper, if you pee all over the toilet clean it up, leave the bathroom sink clear of spit and hair, etc. Don't just leave it lying around for us to pick up...that may set us off on a tirade. And just asking if you can help sometimes is nice too. Just in case we aren't feeling well or tired it'd be nice to know that you are at least willing to help.
2007-01-09 08:44:49 · answer #7 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think blokes should contribute more to household chores. Both me and my husband work 50-60 hours per week each but I'm the only one that does the cooking, cleaning, washing, ironing, shopping etc. All he does is put the bins out and take the dog for a walk! He even grumbles about doing that!
Any other wives find themselves asking if they will do something "for me". Eg " can you do the washing up for me or can u hoover up please for me"? I asked my husband to do the washing up occasionally - he ends up buying a dishwasher! Who's the one that fills/emptys it?! Not him!
In answer to your question, yes - you should be more grateful and buy her the odd bunch of flowers or chocolates -it is the least you can do!!
2007-01-09 08:43:19 · answer #8 · answered by ChocLover 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, It sounds Like your Wife has a Compulsive Cleaning Disorder!
Secondly, Always Better to Show Appreciation!
Thirdly, You Lucky,Lucky! MAN!!
Easter This soon???
2007-01-09 08:39:38 · answer #9 · answered by J. Charles 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get the woman some jewlery or flowers be a little spontaneous!or maybe take her out to a nice dinner!Tell her the house lookes wonderful and give her a hug/kiss/thankyou.Offer her a massage when she is done or a hot bath.And try not to be a slob if you are one?If it has to be a card make it something sweet!lol maybe with candy?
2007-01-09 08:45:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋