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Question

what if a young girl feels guilt about being attracted to older men? what happens here?

Answer 1

No need to feel guilty about feelings. What matters is what you DO with those feelings, how you take them into action in your life. Only you can decide what's right for you. Perhaps the age difference is too great? In later years, this can really make a difference. A 25 y/o with a 45 y/o is no big deal. But those twenty hears are a huge difference at 55 and 75. Something to think about.
You can try to understand the source of your attraction too.

Answer 2

It depends on the reason for the guilt. If you are feeling guilty because you are simply using the men for money or sex, then you should stop doing that. If you are feeling guilty because you were brought up to believe that you should only be attracted to young men, then take a close look at your relationships. If you feel that your relationship with an older man is enjoyable and healthy, ignore other people. People will always have something negative to say. Decide for yourself.

Answer 3

The way our society is formed, it is perfectly all right for a young (how young though?) girl to be attracted to older men. They either need a daddy or they are very mature for their age. Older men have money but they also have more knowledge. You know what you like about them. Be careful they aren't b***s******* you because they do that better too.

Answer 4

How young and how old? I really think age has nothing to do with it when you really fall in love. My husband is nine years older than me and we are very compatible. If the guys are a lot I mean a lot older then you may just need a dad relationship. Check that out before getting involved because that will not be a lasting relationship. Good luck in your search.

Answer 5

The Electra complex is an ambiguous psychiatric concept which attempts to explain the maturation of the human female. Freud's research on female psychology, sexuality in particular, was limited by social conventions of gender and class; women were considered the 'second-sex' and many of his female patients were labeled 'degenerates.' The Electra complex was created as the female counterpart to the Oedipus complex in males. Its name comes from the Greek myth of Electra, who wanted her brother to avenge their father Agamemnon's death by killing their mother Clytemnestra.

Carl Jung proposed the name Electra complex for Sigmund Freud's concept of the "feminine Oedipus attitude" in young girls. According to Sigmund Freud, the girl is originally attached to the mother as well; however, when she discovers that she lacks a penis during the phallic stage the daughter becomes libidinally attached to her father and imagines that she will become pregnant by him, while becoming more hostile towards her mother. This is due mostly to the idea of "penis envy" - that the girl is envious of her father's penis. She believes that the pregnancy would replace the missing penis which she envies and would allow her to gain equal status with the father.

According to this theory, a young girl's penis envy leads to resentment towards her mother, whom the girl believes caused her "castration." Some psychologists claim the male psyche is the dominant entity in human relations. This has been refuted by recent studies, as women have less castration anxiety than men and are able to deal with their frustration more openly because of societal conventions.

The belief that women are psychologically subordinate may be due in part to the phallocentric belief that females have a weaker superego, where theorectically morality is developed and values internalized. This judicial component of human personality is developed during the phallic stage. A dominant view of the male psyche may also be rooted in the habits of a phallocentric social system, such as those descended from patriarchal cultures and family systems. In later life, so the theory goes, the girl will grow into the character type that her mother has developed as a means to attracting a man similar to her father.

Furthermore, if there is a "perversion" in the development of females or if their aggression is somehow stifled, resentment can in turn be displaced towards the dominant male (the father) or patriarchal cultures in general. Some say this explains lesbianism and feminism (though this is far from universally accepted, as it unsupportedly assumes that women loving and/or supporting equality for other women requires an animosity toward men and an inherent perversity in their nature).

What happens here is experimentation or resistance to experimentation. Both can cause stress, but once you have evaluated which choice to make the path will be clear. It is not uncommon for people to date outside their age group, but if you are under 18 years old I would highly recommend you wait until you have developed a life plan which you envision yourself before committing to one ideal which you are currently uncertain about.

Answer 6

guilt is your body saying something is bad or wrong, you know you should be with guys your own age but you have some attraction to older men, therepy could answer it